Is 7 months together too soon to move in together?

We’ve been together 7 months. We hang out all the time, we cancel plans with friends to be together most of the time, we’ve never fought. We went on a weekend trip together a few months ago. Would moving in together right now be too soon? We’ve never fought and I worry that living together before we do that might not be ideal. But we love each other and gave each other promise rings 3 months in. Is it weird that we’ve never fought? Or is that ideal? This is my first very serious relationship.

0|0
818

Most Helpful Guys

  • My opinion is that since you've been together a lot during that 7 months, then it might be reasonable to move in together. It would be different if you'd only been seeing each other once a week or something like that but frequently being together for that long is probably enough.

    I would think about a few things before you do it though. Do you have similar ideas about how organized and clean your living space should be? If not, that could be an issue. Will you both do your share of the work (things like cleaning, cooking, laundry)? If not, that could be an issue. Do you both have similar levels of financial responsibility? If not, and one of you wants to be frugal while the other wants to spend a lot or one of you wants to be sure the bills get paid on time and the other doesn't really care about that, then that could be a problem.

    If you're compatible in all of those ways then I think you'll probably be fine. I would recommend agreeing on the financial arrangements (who pays how much for common expenses like rent, utilities and food that you share) before moving in. If you can't agree on that and you've already moved in together, that wouldn't be good.

    Not fighting isn't too surprising because you're probably in the "honeymoon period" where you're only seeing the good things in the other person and ignoring the not so good ones. Before too long you'll probably move past that and start seeing the other person more realistically and there will then almost certainly be some things you find annoying and things that you disagree about. The key thing when that time comes is to remember that the two of you need to work together to solve the problem of your disagreement. You should not be fighting against each other trying to prove you're right and the other person is wrong. Respect each other's feelings and work together to find a mutually agreeable solution. If you can do that, you should be able to be happy together for a long long time.

    1|0
    0|0

Most Helpful Girl

  • Way too soon, you two haven't gone through anything yet, no arguments means you are both still in the false pretense phase. Why do you both cancel plans with others? That's a huge Red Flag!!! You don't know each other, Promise Rings at three months, doings like you never planned on learning about each other just let's fake until we make it mindset!!! Do you know how he is when he's angry or does he know how you are as an angry woman? Do you know what buttons to avoid will one another? My question is why do you two feel the need to rush things while still placating each other?

    0|0
    0|0
    • We cancel plans because we like spending time with each other more. My best friend gets frustrated with me all the time because I don’t see her as much anymore. So I do need to work on that

Recommended Questions

Loading...

Have an opinion?

What Guys Said 16

  • DO NOT MOVE IT TOGETHER YET!! Everything is good now because you two choose to spend so much time together but when you move in it no longer become a choice. When you two do finally have an argument there will be no escape from the tension. You don’t really know what the other person is like in the comfort of their home. He could be a slob or addicted to internet porn and you won’t find out until both of your names are on the lease.

    0|0
    0|0
  • The best thing to do is have a 3-5 week trail period. If it works out give it a go. Just be sure y'all are both willing to compromise on who does what within the household.

    0|1
    0|0
  • Depends on you and depends on the individuals involved if you get along and pay bills well and have no or few reasons not to you should go for it. If you are tidy people or you can negotiate and work together to fill in the others lacking portions then sure go for it.

    0|0
    0|0
  • It sounds like you believe fights are common practice in a relationship.

    A fight is a sign that a couple should not be together.

    there's no logical reason to fight.

    1|0
    0|0
  • Dated my girlfriend for a month then was in a relationship with her for 2 weeks and she moved in with me, haven't looked back and love it, just depends on your situation

    0|0
    0|0
  • No, my girlfriend sand I moved in together after 2 months. That was 12 years ago, have been married for 4 of them.

    0|0
    0|0
  • It may be too soon, and the fact that you never argue seems too good to be true. I would wait.

    0|0
    0|0
  • As long as you both are mature adults, time is not relative

    0|0
    0|0
  • Yes after marriage is a good time to prevent fornication

    0|0
    0|0
  • For heaven's sake yes

    0|0
    0|0
  • Nope. Seems ok to me.

    0|0
    0|0
  • Yes very soon give it some time

    0|0
    0|0
  • no that's fine

    0|0
    0|0
  • Nope its not good idea.

    0|0
    0|0
  • nope not at all

    0|0
    0|0
  • 7 months should be long enough

    0|0
    0|0

What Girls Said 7

  • " cancel plans with friends to be together most of the time" isn't a healthy way to be, you should spend time apart as well so you can miss each other. Living together changes EVERYTHING in the relationship and I would recommend at least a year to 2 years, especially as this is your first relationship. It's good not to fight, but at 7 months you're still learning about each other.

    0|0
    0|0
  • You will likely start fighting over the little things. It's completely different from hanging out since you both come home to the same house. Me and my partner tried for a month and realised we prefer our own space. We weren't ready to move in yet. Definitely give it a go and see how you do.

    1|0
    0|0
  • You'll be a live in wife without the ring. he will not marry you

    1|0
    0|0
    • Why? We have promise rings already that we gave each other 3 months into the relationship

    • A promise ring means nothing.

  • You're ready to move in with someone if the possibility of having to separate your possessions and live with them while finding a new place to live seems worth the risk.

    0|0
    0|0
  • If you are comfortable with it, yes. You can move in with him.

    If not and really need to think this through, then wait.

    0|0
    0|0
  • Too soon.

    0|0
    0|0
  • First 7 months is still on "honeymoon" stage. The notion that you have never fought means you both are either overcompensating each other or putting your best foot forward on every dates. But if you feel he is worth the shot, I suggest you dont fully move in, have a trial period. Just dont do anything you'll painfully regret afterwards. The "love" that you know of grows and even changes once you have lived with your partner under the same roof. Sometimes for the better, sometimes for the worse.

    0|0
    0|0
    • How long is the honeymoon stage usually?

Recommended myTakes

Loading...