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My girlfriend is an artist and majored in art and English Literature. Yet I'm FAR more well-read than her in literature, am arguably a better artist and writer and of the two of us I'm the one currently in the process of a publishing company startup. She's also agreed hands down that I'm smarter than her despite her being older since I can tell you tons of useless fact shit about geography, history, I know the extensive history behind the Opium Wars and shit like that whereas when I start down one of these long lectures she'll just stare at me like "uhhh".There are two reasons for this:A: I never felt a classroom conducive to my learning experience (since the education system is fucking shit, it was concieved at the turn of the century during the industrial revolution when little worker bees were needed and the system is therefore a way to create workers, yes men, not leaders and innovators. If there was something I was interested in during my high school days I went out and I learned about it first-hand. I read tons of books that interested me, I went to writer's guild meetings and read about all of the cliche's and processes of the industry. I self-published my first full-length novel when I was 19, it failed spectacularly because I knew next to nothing about marketing, promotion and advertising. So what did I do? I got into sales, started working sales jobs, learning how to market, promote and advertise and reach and engage existing and potential customers. When I decided I wanted to start a publishing company what did I do? Went into other publishing companies, introduced myself as their potential competition and asked to go over their processes and strategies with them. I then realized I knew next to nothing about running a business or handling finances... so I got a job as a customer service rep at a bank, essentially a loan officer. Handling day-to-day finances, helping out with business accounting and handling customer processes, all the stuff I'd need for my own company.B: I was alone a lot when I was younger. As a kid I had a lot of time to learn because I never spent time partying, having sex or drinking or even hanging out really. I had no one to hang out with. So my time was simply divided between me and... me. I learned everything I needed to and now it's all coming back to benefit me. Don't get me wrong my gf's party days (which still continue now) were great, but they deprived her of the potential learning time she could have had to my level.
Even despite this desparity we have a pretty great relationship because there are still things that she's great at that I suck at. I, for example, am fucking horrible at math, can't do math to save my own life. Whereas she's an expert at numbers and so-so with words (which is why I think she studied English Literature) but when it comes to words I'm a prodigy I can put together a prose or a sentence even orally that would make Shakespear blush and I am VERY effective at taking command of a room and being heard and getting a point across to people I want to get my point to. Which is kind of ironic because I'm shy as fuck in my general everyday life.There's some sense where she feels it's kinda unfair that me, a man younger than her, has so many things I'm able to do effectively whereas she's gone to school for some of those same things and can't do them as well as me but as I've told her, that mentality will only hold her back. I excelled because I actively went out and learned.
It can work. As long as there's no resentment and you compliment each other's strengths and weaknesses and support each other, it can work.
First of all, your profile pic shows a very smart and attractive lady! We all have certain strengths and weakness, so just because you performed below average in some areas only means you probably have superior intellectual strengths in others. I personally prefer being around people smarter than myself because I learn so much from them! By the same token, I don't think I'm smarter than anyone I just try to be the best me I can be. You look like you are very confident with superb attention to detail.
I try to be the best I can be!
I think you're succeeding, I love the way you dress by the way!
Thanks haha but not the usual
Well looks great as do you
dude stop flirting with an underage girl creep
@JellyDonutguy96 I'm an adult. And this conversation was over.
18 can still be considered underage in certain scenarios
@JellyDonutguy96 Drinking, that's pretty much it
I was dating and am now married to a guy who is smarter than I. We have many interesting conversations and sometimes I do feel a little silly when I don’t know something but it always turns into a joke then we laugh about it. Strangely enough, he sometimes says that I’m smarter. Lol I wouldn’t change it at all though
Aww I love that!
Don't feel bad. Everyone excels in some courses but suck at others. I am AWFUL at learning new languages. I got an F in high school French...I'd be okay with it. There's definitely smarter women out there than me. I go to school with a lot of them. But I don't think I'm the dumbest cookie around so it doesn't bother me too much.
I would not mind if they did not have an ego trip about it. I kind of would like to share learning from each other still but I also don't like someone that corrects you all the time in terms of grammar and or being a know it all. I don't mind a smart girl as long as the smarts don't go to her head.
Everybody has things they are better at and not so good at as another person, so I don't see where it is anything to be of concern. It's not like your being loved to be a business partner, so just focus on the things you like and do well. I'm sure that will be a big contributing factor to a relationship.
I don't mind as long as they're not condescending or anything. I've dated a guy who was smarter than me and he was so mean and would sometimes mock me for not knowing something.
Im so sorry that happened to you!
not knowing something isn't directly related to being smart or not, like your computing device can be fast but have little storage, your ex boyfriend is just pretentious
I think most people would be pretty cool about it. You have to watch out for the buttheads that are rude and always "tease" when they know something you don't though. I know how you feel. I can honestly say math has ruined my life. haha. Well, it kept me from doing something I loved. My life is still kicking butt, but on a different path than I could have been.
I'm always smarter and it doesn't bother me at all. As long as she is good enough at math to handle her money and knows how to budget then that's all she needs.
I can teach you so that you no longer have the """disability"""
Thats not how it works.
okay if you insist :)) I can only help people who are willing to be helped
I'm smarter than 99.5 percent of the population according to my IQ... I guess I have to live with it...
That's awfully confident.
Nah. I just have a genius IQ. Plus, disabilities may have nothing to do with intelligence.
In this situation it does I think.
What's your disability?
I have a learning disability in math. I makes it a lot harder for me to remember / understand things. So it takes me a long time to learn new math equations and solve problems. I have to go to a special math class and i've been held back.
Yes but whats the name of your disability?
If it has a name honestly I don't know it.
I can explain them to you...
Give it a shot
Well, if you haven't been diagnosed yet, you can't really know if it's a disability or not. Even if it is a disability, there are 2 types: Learning disabilities and Intellectual disabilities. Learning disabilities aren't signs of intellectual deficits.
Its legit I just got the PC explanation from my schools and parents.
Well, you gotta ask them whether its intellectual or learning...
I don't really mind it too much. All I really care about is that she be capable of carrying on a worthwhile conversation. Luckily you don't have to be a genius to have worth a damn social skills.
I don't really care. I think girls are usually more intelligent than guys.
Eh I see it the other way
I think there are more smart guys than girls.
That's not correct actually. Women outnumber men in higher education facilities.
I would like to be superior than my significant other but I would rather her since she is my queen
It's a turn on to me to be with a guy (s) that are very smart.
hate it... im not smart and i know it, but my ex was very smart and she would sometimes make a joke about me being not smart...
I hear that man. It sucks
Never cared for math much. I would feel great about dating you.
I'm always smarter than the female that I date
And if you werent?
I would feel inferior
didn't expect that response, respect.
wouldn't matter at all
I love girls smarter than me.
i doesn't matter to me
Wouldn't make a difference to me
I wouldn't mind.
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