Do you think Tinder/social media has affected dating/relationships?

[Anonymous]

Just saw a guy post this and claimed that female standards in men are wayyy higher than they were in the past.

YES

NO

[Anonymous]

I've never even visited that site at all... it’s weird to me why people would want to purposefully meet someone from online to date..

I have a “bf” I suppose I would call him that now, from another country.. I met him online on a game site... I’ve know him for more than 10 years.. si it led to what it is today.. but I would have never entered a daring site to do this... that’s just weird to me...

From the photos you pasted however, you state women have upgraded their standards... but even if someone had high standards, the only way that person would get any dates is if someone else lowered theirs! So perhaps what could also be said is maybe men are lowering their standards in desperation to find someone... but really mostly just to get laid... that’s my opinion. .. especially in a world where they put fat in your face all over the place and telling you to love and accept this unhealthy way of living... thus more and more girls are nit caring at all about being fat and even boast about it and make songs about it, so even if men didn’t lower their standards, most of the girls available are only that... fat! So it’s either be gay, be single or date a fat girl! Lol so maybe it’s not so much that girls have higher standards, it’s just that reality is most are just fat! And men have to work with what is there, or should they launch themselves to another planet? Lol 🚀 😂😛?

[lexythelou22]

Yes, but rather than change women, I believe it's made men more desperate to get laid. They're now used to a quick snap of their dick getting at least one lady, but women have become increasingly sick of online harassment, leaving more thirsty dudes than willing females.

[FarinaLee]

Amen!

[windknowsmyname]

I agree, every girl i meet always want something thats not easy not easy to obtain just thrown at them. When she's dating he has to be cute or sexy, funny, goals and least has 60% of bad boy in him. When she needs to settle down with her. She wants to have a car, job, house, making good money, cute, fuck her good, treat her like its 50 shades of grey, and more crap. Its like okay?
Fine? Buuuut auuuuu in department of dating what else is she doing? Plus she dont even look all that good too.

[FarinaLee]

50 shade of grey? I hate S&M it's the biggest turn off ever! If I want to fight a mfer why ever would you fuck him... day shit is sick. A girl should have all that on her own. It just works better if you have those things on your own. Don't worry you'll have things but that doesn't make any relationship last.

[Anonymous]

Actually I have liked these dating apps. I get more, higher class and better looking women than IRL, "score" more and usually have at least something in common with the dates where there was no chemistry so it wasn't a bad experience. I have noticed a trend generally in life where lower "value" girls are getting higher value guys (as in the pictures above). I do not understand that!

[FarinaLee]

The point is to have sex with randoms so class is not needed besides classy women dont shop for nightly dick online.

[Opinion Owner]

@FarinaLee i was speaking of dating apps-not hook up apps.

[FarinaLee]

Becareful even on dating apps. In my city it doesn't lead to anything and dating coaches seem to work the best.

[LaMax]

OK so some people might get mad at me but it's true. Today's standards of dating are drastically influenced by social media. Young people are pining for more likes, retweets, comments, pokes, and right swipes. This is because there is a drastic decline in personal interaction. Today a guy and a girl could have announced their relationship before even going out on a date because they changed their status on FB. but what this has done to the male population is quite sad. No, I don't think that women's standards have increased but men's have decreased. Men have always been the pursuer when it came to dating and it relied on charm, chivalry, funniness, and SWAG. Today's world is all those things plus a cute online profile. Well we wonder what is the harm in that. Well when you no longer have to compete with personality and instead just who takes the best photo it is hard to have confidence. Especially of you are not receiving any responses. Women can swipe right on any number of guys and if have a 5/10 chance of getting a match or response where even great looking guys have a 1/30, if they are so lucky. So these guys when they do get that one in thirty they feel like studs and need to feed the accomplishment and even if the girl is slightly below average in his preference he will message her and flirt because it made him feel good to get anybody. But that doesn't mean that he cannot genuinely develops feeling for the girl and like her for more than her appearance. It's just that guys are pretty much desperate now more than ever to make some connection that they do not hold out for a girl they truly believe is "their type". Pretty much "attraction at first sight" but instead it's "compromise at first sight because at least you got someone". Women have a lot more power in the dating game today because it is easier to simply swipe right and find a match. In fact because of it, they have to be more conscious and selective on who they swipe right on letting them have access and opportunity to more men they deem attrective.

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

I don’t believe those are actual couples but it’s safe bet to make that CERTAIN women believe they’re entitled to everything.

So let’s use the one in the middle picture, girls will get attention from like 25-30 guys on tinder, OkCupid, etc etc. So they will be like “I’m an 5 out of ten and I’m having a 7 out of ten trying to get with me opposed to my own level, I’m gonna try to get the 7”

Which I can’t truly blame them, if you get someone really good looking into you then you’re gonna try to make it happen. The true problem is entitlement and fantasy.

Because you got a 7 out of ten doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try to improve yourself to ensure they stay interested in you or! You will get lucky again in the future. If you keep holding out and only expecting that then you’re being silly

[Buckzor]

I think women are so picky because of the vast majority of attention they get, they're picky about the first message, any message in general, profiles, pictures, what their friends think of them, any previous knowledge etc.

That being said guys are probably more picky too (not helped by societal standards) - but personally I don't think they're as bad as women.

[maiave]

Real ambitious to say that dude in th the middle pic is a 7... anyway... Personally I think it’s quite the opposite. All my hot friends always have boyfriends who aren’t nearly as hot as them.

But again, the picture... If that means that people start thinking about personality more than looks, then I actually like it.

[Randomawkwardness]

I mean it's not wrong to have high standards like personally I don't want to date a drug addict who beats me like I would rather go for the nicer guy and sorry if you don't think you fit that criteria and we do have the freedom to date whoever and we shouldn't judge others for it

[bubbatxman]

It had made your appearance the single most important part of finding a mate. If you are good looking it has automated how easy it is for you to have a hook up relationship. If you are not as good looking it just hurts your ego to not get any swipes. And you move on to other things.

[Ellie-V]

They are higher because in the past, women didn’t really have the option to be picky. As long as it was “HUSBAND”, then they’ve fulfilled their sad life’s purpose. But luckily times have changed, women have more options, marriage and kids aren’t seen as a requirement, and therefore... higher standards ☺️
Ummm... I really don’t think social media impacts relationships and dating SIGNIFICANTLY. Maybe a little, but it only affects the people who actually bother to date online. Not a huge deal.

[LillKrull]

One things is for sure. I'd rather be alone all my life, than marrying a landwhale who doesn't care about her appearance, and what signals she's giving out.

I want someone who looks after herself, and who lives a healthy life. Not living healthy is far from attractive.

Call me bigoted all you want, but living a healthy life is a fairly reasonable trait to want in a partner, both ways.

[FarinaLee]

You are 16 and you don't know anything about marriage , shut up.

[LillKrull]

And what gives you the authority to discriminate me based on age, and then silence me if I may ask? Am I not entitled to an opinion grandma?

[FarinaLee]

Your not old enough to marry in the US and it would not last... wait you can't own a home, you can't drive after a specific time, you can't work a full time job, you can't pay bills, you have no education... until you get older and mommy and daddy are not taking care of you. marriage and weight is the last thing that should be on your dumb ass mind... Go play a videogame or did mommy put you on punishment... You discriminate against wait and I flip that shit around on your stupid ass. Go kick rocks !

[FarinaLee]

Weight that is

[LillKrull]

I feel discriminated. My right to freedom of speech is as important as yours. Who cares what my life experiences are? I don't want to marry someone who I find unattractive in the future. Despite my age now. Despite my age 6 years ago, despite my age 20 years in the future, period. Am I not allowed to have that opinion?

You're a grown woman! Don't you have more important things to do, such as work a full time job and pay bills rather than ranting over the opinion of a 16 year old stranger on the internet?

[FarinaLee]

It's past your bedtime. Goodnight little boy

[LillKrull]

Your comments are just sad. If you don't have anything constructive to say, you usually don't need to say them. Of course you have the right to, but most of the time you're making an ass out of yourself.

Bye grandma 👋

[jaidee]

Women get way more attention and courtship than they used to and they overlook/denigrate more and more guys.
The scales are tipping and tipping and tipping... I think our whole societies may suffer deep and grave consequences in the very near future. They're already sufferring now (40% singles right now in France).

[up_here]

I need to move to France.

[Slim57]

Yeah even the ugliest women on them think they're the hottest thing ever because of desperate dudes

[Legend555]

So true..

[Billlewis]

Between this comment and the 'single mothers' answer, you leave me little choice but to follow you, sir.

[Anon-ymous1]

Yeah, in a way. More and more acceptance of fat/unattractive girls being pushed as the "right way" to think and feel. Physical standards of expecting girls to be thin/fit and actually attractive means some people think a guy is an asshole if he voices said standards, or specifically turns another girl down for being fat.

[FarinaLee]

As long as it's acceptable for you to have a small dick and most girls want a large one you can live with it. Small dick is unattractive and girls talk

[Anon-ymous1]

@FarinaLee Uh okay, except that's not really the same thing-- weight is controllable and dick size isn't.

[FarinaLee]

Yes, it can be changed just like weight. Look it up.

[Anon-ymous1]

@FarinaLee Well... no, in fact it can't, outside of surgery which can be dangerous. Indeed, someone here needs to "look it up." And that person is you.

If you somehow can find proof of safe, medical-community-approved dick size enhancement, please post it here. You'd be the world's first.

[FarinaLee]

As a girl with a thigh gap, I like big di©ks & I cannot lie!

If you loose weight and shave off your pubic hair your small penis will at least look larger. I'm not being an asshole if I voice said standards or stating preferences or turning down small penis guys. Your the one with the small mind.

[Anon-ymous1]

@FarinaLee You didn't understand what I wrote. I didn't say you couldn't have a preference for big dick-- go ahead and have that preference. What I wrote was that your statement about dick size being able to be changed is completely wrong.

[Selena2418]

I think this is just the byproduct of a bitter man. Men and women have high standards for different things, and despite what this guy thinks... people tend to mate with people of similar attractiveness, this has been studied extensively.

[demonics]

High standards go both ways. Lately they haven't been. I. e. women of varying levels of attractiveness DEMANDING 8,9, and 10 men. While men of varying levels of attractiveness are perfectly fine with 5, 6, and 7 women. I think its called being realistic or something like that?
Bitter man... lol!

[LittleMissy93]

Ignoring the rest of the post which doesn't seem relevant to the question... yes, Tinder and social media have affected relationships and dating.

[GoodManDave]

I think social media has affected dating, sure... but I think there are a lot of factors. Television, internet in general, where you live, upbringing and socialization in real life...

[FarinaLee]

Tinder is an app to meet people to hump, not thing else and a relationship requires far more than someone you want to hump for a while. A marriage based on looks never lasts.

[loyalblunthonest]

I remember in highschool ugly dudes that were in decent shape or had a car could get anyone now you have to look like brad pitt and have a trophy from the special olympics just to get laid and forget a relationship! Those are only for abusive assholes that own jean shorts

[Pamina]

So, who's forcing those men to be with women they find unattractive?

[sephylove]

Women fuck who they want. Men fuck who they can. Remember that.

[Highsxhoolstudent15]

U saw this on instagram

[sephylove]

@Highsxhoolstudent15 No i saw it on twitter

[FoodAddict]

Yes. Social media has created false hopes of what a relationship should be like, I also believe that social media has caused toxic behavior in relationships like jealousy and insecure behavior. Social media has ruined relationships.

[Anonymous]

Girls have more a say and are more willing to share a "Chad" than to even consider dating another guy. Most Girls want a complete product, not a to date and see who may or may not be good for them. Wether it's right or wrong is up to nature, girls are the choosers so whatever they do is the right way no matter how unsustainable it is.