Do some of you women realize that putting "shopping" as an "interest" on a dating profile makes you less attractive?

Why would any man say I can't wait to hook up and watch her to blow her/my money on her hobby of spending a lot of money? 😂 There's too many of these types of women on dating sites.
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Some people are not 100% understanding the question. People need to shop for needed things. A lot of us enjoy to shop for stuff. But it can not be concidered a intrest or hobby. You can obviously shop for your hobbies and interests. But calling it other wise? Might end up as personal issues, like hoardering. And over spending on things you will use once and/or never again. My mother loves to shop, look at her now she's a hoarder. Her best excuse "oh its was on special".

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  • Isn't it better that she's honest about her interests? That way you can swipe left and be done with her.

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    • Yes, exactly. Just it end up being to many no swipes, unfortunately. Where are all the active, outdoor, expérience life women? Dating sites are hopeless for most people. It can be depressing at points lol.

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    • @cutiebytheshore123 I use the term gold digger, with women that don't want to earn and spend their own money, and look for men to buy them "thing's". Which is also materialistic. Please be polite. Debate. Not insult. Have a great day.

    • By the way @cutiebytheshore123, no one can afford a woman in today's world, especially Americans. Over half of all college graduates do not find work related to their field and have to tolerate and work with multiple demeaning minimum wage jobs, even with the supposed employment hike. If a woman feels she should be afforded she's not a partner, in the military we had a term, she's a dependa, a hood rat hooking up for benefits.

  • I think they are trying to be honest. Being honest is better than being fake so if you spend your spare time shopping - its reasonable to talk about it.

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    • I think you're misunderstanding what some women mean when they say that shopping is an interest/hobby of theirs.
      i. e. My Aunt loves to go shopping, but not to buy stuff she loves looking around in the store.
      Yes, she gets the things she needs but once she has picked out the items she needed she likes to roam around the store before leaving.

    • @Mrwonder If you're not into "expensive girls" then you have every right not to date them and you're not wrong in doing so. It's your preference. Now, that doesn't mean that she should be shamed and judged harshly for having expensive tastes and shopping. Financial compatibility is extremely important.

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  • I'm always amused when they list "financially successful" or "financially secure" as one of the things they expect in a mate. It reeks of "gold digger". Its bad enough they expect us to pay for the date-be damned if I'm going to pay for their shopping too.

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  • It’s ridiculous that just about everybody is so materialistic and greed rules the day. Those things used to be seen as a bad things because they are.
    Look at the women line up to insist ‘it’s fun’. Ya so is gluttony and as we see people are starting to justify it any way possible as well. Is murder next?
    Just because it’s fun does not mean it’s good.
    But that would require free thought and self-discipline. Something greatly lacking in our society. Ya know ‘girls just wanna have fun.’

    I once saw a woman who put one of her interests as gravey. Seriously, she put gravy as an interest. Unreal.

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  • No way...

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  • i hear you. no offense SPENDING MONEY is never fun!!! even if i had oodles I'd still want things for free!! i mean i wouldn't nessecarily deserve them, but heck yes, I'd want them! i like to think that it is attractive to men when it appears as though i look fab and well dressed, but it appears as though i put in no effort and never go shopping! a woman who is good with her money and not wasteful is attractive in my opinion

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    • Yes, pretty much what you said. You understand. Thank you

  • She may be less attractive to YOU. But it’s good for both guys and girls to be honest about their likes and dislikes so the right match can happen. If a guy wrote he loves to hunt elephants I’d find that very unattractive but there may be girls who grew up with hunters or enjoy it themselves.

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    • Yes you are right, I agree with you. Just sucks that there is so many. Sometimes they have other great interests, then that "shopping" pops in some where, so I end going "next" way to often.

  • 😂who doesn't like shopping? It's not very unique. I bet those women also have "shopping" on their resume , under hobbies lol

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    • I already like you! Especially with fitness in your name. Need more women that think similar to you on these dating websites.

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    • Not kind of, it is a compliment. I respect that kind of thinking and intrest a lot, in a woman.

    • And your welcome.

  • It’s not like she works and spends her own money. No way

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    • I never said that. I'm just saying it's not a great quality. Or it's not an actual interest. Things give you a high when you buy them. But they you end up not even using that item. And create clutter. Kind of like hoarding. We should be spending money on memeroirs with family and friends not 100 types of shoes lol. You can buy all you want, just know that it scares a lot of men away.

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    • You clearly don’t since you have all these issues built up around shopping. Therapy is a great tool. You should try shopping around for some

    • I have issues with people being brainwashed by companies to keep spending on things you don't really need is all. Example, Holidays like Easter, Christmas, etc were created by companies to sell their product. You do t think there's many "things" I'd love to buy? Yes there's plenty, I just control myself. I rather spend my money creating memories with family and friends, not "thing's".

  • Do men realize that literally every dude has “I like working out and watching Netflix” on their dating profile? Y’all mediocre.

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    • Staying healthy, and saving money, what's wrong with that? 😁

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    • Hahahahahaha. 😊👍

      I don't use dating sites, but if I did I wouldn't put that.

      That is hilarious though 😂😂😂

  • Mansplaining at it’s finest 😒

    What makes you think because I enjoy shopping I’m going to use your money? I’m capable enough to fund my own hobbies. I enjoy buying new things so I can review them or because it’s actually fun to try something, and whether or not that was money down the drain - that’s my money. So keep your opinions on shopping to yourself.

    I’ve been on a dating site before and did have shopping listed as a interest and if that made guys not wanna hmu well then, good riddance.

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    • Well if you want to have a future with a man, get married and have kids, buy a house à car and all that. A man needs to know if you can buy needed things or wanting to buy things. I'm not saying it has to be a deal breaker. Self control is important. We all love to buy thing's.

    • This was a good reply. I love shopping myself if I have the funds at the time. If you can afford to support your hobby then that's great!

      I think the point that's trying to be made here is that it can make a girl look "high maintenance".

  • I believe women who put shopping as a hobby or interest are shallow. Newsflash- if shopping is your interest, you might not be that interesting.

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  • She's just being honest. Why are you complaining about them being honest? Their honesty gives you the opportunity to swipe left on people you clearly see as materialistic.

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    • Bc he's broke and cheap. he shouldn't even be on a dating app

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    • @1true exact he's going to be alone for the rest of his life bc he's insecure

    • @cutiebytheshore123 true. true. There's dumber things that people consider to be hobbies, some people consider tea drinking to be a hobby.

  • Saying "I love shopping" doesn't straight away mean they spend others money... I love browsing products but it doesn't mean I actually buy them. And besides, at least they are being honest so they avoid people they won't get along with, like judgement people like yourself it seems. Leave them to it.

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  • I wouldn't list it since I don't shop for fun, but I'd question guys who list "classic cars" if I weren't into them. Those are expensive and often an excuse for you guys to spend time away from us.

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    • Having a interest in cars doesn't mean they buy them though, more of just a general want to know about them etc.
      I get where you're coming from - but i'm 100% going to assume your "shopping" refers to buying expensive designer brand clothes if it's an interest in your bio on a dating site.

    • I would agree that women who list "shopping" probably don't mean groceries at Walmart.

  • Do some of you mean realize that we really don't care? I know shopping it is an interest of mine but I'm not stupid enough to go blowing money I don't have on it. Just because it's an interest doesn't mean we're always doing it

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    • You are already alone, lol

    • I must really be worth replying too. Thank you, I appreciate the compliment 🙂

  • Shopping isn't an interest in my opinion, interests are things like hiking, kayaking, hell even bootcamps... shopping is an activity required when you need something like groceries, etc. Anyone that puts "shopping" as an interest doesn't have much depth or has a massive issue

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  • Shopping is genuinely fun. It’s something social for us, like going to the pub might be social and fun for a 40 year old married man after work.
    We meet up with friends, brows around, get fruit smoothies. Sometimes we don’t even buy anything. A shopping trip could be to Kmart. It doesn’t mean we want to take your money lol

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  • So you want them to not be honest and paint an unrealistic picture of themselves so you will be attracted to a lie?🤔 Ok?

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    • Exactly, he's childish and insecure about his pay check

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    • @Paul09. In his question he said they listed shopping as an interest not a hobby. And it is an interest. Just thought I should point that out. If he had put hobby I would agree with you that it's not a hobby.😎

    • There we go, we are starting to be on the same page. ☺

  • Uh I enjoy thrift shopping because it's like you never know what you'll find and there's always something so are you telling me that I'm less attractive because I like the surprise? And who said I would be spending someone else's money, I can spend my own because I'm not a gold digger.

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  • Ah I enjoy shopping but I don't even do it daily or spend much money. I do it like every two months when I feel like I need some new clothes and I enjoy buying for clothes... I don't enjoy spending money, I just enjoy getting new things every once in a while. And I wouldn't take a guy's money for it. I work and get my own money for that...

    And I know some guys actually like spoiling their women by buying them whatever they want. My dad's like that 🤷🏽‍♀️

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  • Well for me growing up i spent the majority of my time with my dad hunting fishing camping etc my dad has always been my role model and given me a passion for the outdoors but my best memories with my mom have been on shopping trips we would wake up early and shop sun rise to sunset and that time spent shopping has made me really enjoy shopping also so dont judge a girl based on her cover wait to read the book. I know for myself my dads influence growing up made me appear more masculine to guys and my moms influence helped a lot in equalizing that appearance.

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    • Wow a full day of shopping? Where do you put all these "things"? Or what did you buy exactly? Is it things you needed, or you just wanted?

    • Yes a full day mainly clothes shoes etc but buying clothes is different for girls because all women have different body types a lot in just slight ways and when your shopping and find something that fits perfectly it makes you feel good about yourself wearing it and women care about how they portray themselves to the world also. So that is why a lot of women shop to feel good because everyone cares about themselves and just wants to feel pretty

    • There you go! You kinda understand now lol. As they shop, their brain releases endorphins and dopamine, and over time, these feelings become addictive.

  • Because they’re being honest and if you’re not attracted to that then obviously you’re not for her and she’s not for you. Duh

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  • Yes I like shopping. I think it's part of what estrogen does to a girl. But much of it is what we used to call "window" shopping. Checking out many things I like but not really buying them. I can't afford that, and if I had a boyfriend I wouldn't expect him to buy them either.
    I'm looking for a lover - not a sugar daddy.

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  • The whole Point of making a Dating profile is to find someone compatible, not to impress the world. i actually appreciate it when women are straightforward About what They are like, what they are Looking for, and what their interests are.

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  • EXCELLENT point, good man!

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  • I disagree. My woman and I love to go shopping together. I recommend stuff for her, she does the same for me. We don’t spend a ton of money, but it feels good having your choices validated by a member of the opposite sex and you’re guaranteed she’s wearing stuff you like and you are wearing stuff she likes.

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  • Their character thar makes them less attractive.

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  • I just mentioned women and shopping in another thread. I was speaking on how I think women don't have 'real' hobbies... just things that focus around obtaining or maintaining male attention... like shopping.

    If she's into science... trying to attract science dudes. Music... musical dudes. Every activity and hobby... none of it is for a reason outside of obtaining or maintaining male attention.

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  • Shopping may be a necessary evil of life, at times (think dresses) but I like to window shop, visit antique shops, garage sales, etc with my wife and can have a nice time without blowing all our money.

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    • Thanks for the clarification. Of course, if someone is a binge spender, binge and return spender, or overly hoards things they need our grace, guidance, help if possible, and possibly a referral to a professional counselor who can help them with their struggles. This is especially if their actions interfere with their lives and that of those around them.

  • I would imagine that women that put that as an interest, likely aren't interested in being with a man for the amount of good nature he has or his sense of morality. Different strokes for different folks though. You may not be interested in contacting these women, but I bet there are tons of sugar daddies that would love to support their shopping habit if they are attractive enough. If it didn't work for them, I doubt so many would be doing it.

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  • The only problem I have with that it is just so predictable. Is there a woman on the planet that doesn't like buying stuff?

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  • No remember women don’t think logically they think emotionally which is irrational, it’s a waste of time to explain facts, truths and logic to women. They could give two shits they just want to blow everything you got and complain when they don’t get it.

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    • It’s also because these women have no talents or skills like old school women who could cook, clean, sew, garden etc women nowadays are useless except for blowing money on worthless shit

  • Really? I don't see why. I like to shop. Drop me in an electronics store or a guitar shop and go watch the extended version of the Lord of the Rings because I am lost for the day. I would think, "I bet she knows where to get a great deal on that jacket I want." rather than assume she is talking about spending my money.

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  • The other ''red alert'' interests are ''travelling'' and ''watching TV'' :D But as interests indicate things, even the ''negative'' ones (to us) serve us as a guidance to make choices. I guess that there are others, who find it exciting if their lady actively supports commerce and economy.

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  • I always assumed it meant more along the lines of just window shopping and/or just walking around stores which I admittedly sometimes enjoy too. In my case, I enjoy browsing tech and musical instruments.

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  • I think you're misunderstanding what some women mean when they say that shopping is an interest/hobby of theirs.
    i. e. My Aunt loves to go shopping, but not to buy stuff she loves looking around in the store.
    Yes, she gets the things she needs but once she has picked out the items she needed she likes to roam around the store before leaving.

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  • SHHH! Don't let them know. That way we can weed the dummys out.

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  • the ones that put shopping as a hobby i typically avoid like the black plague, because 9 times out of 10 that kind of woman is a gold digger, Or is so materialistic that she believes that buying things is the only way she will be happy.

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  • "Shopping is my favourite pastime" This literally says nothing but the things above about you. Paul is absolutely right

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  • I haven't done a survey, but I would wager that guys view "shopping" as an interest the same way a girl would view "watching porn" as an interest for guys !! In other words... scary !!

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  • Maybe these girls don't care, and or looking for men who also doesn't care, because he will tolerate it if she has the money for it, or he is wealthy enough to just not care, even if she is spending his money.

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  • If a woman lists shopping as a hobby, it means she's probably try to get ahold of my money at some point to further her habit. Not what I'm looking for

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  • Having a dating profile at all is unattractive anyway.

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