for quite a while now I been noticing that both my counselor and psychiatrist have been asking me in every visit if i'm dating anyone at the moment. not sure what this is all about but I'm guessing they are perhaps asking this to see if my paranoia towards humanity or self esteem has improved in any way.
nevertheless no matter how good my mental health gets I still do not see any point in dating. to me dating is no different or perhaps just a water down hypocritical version of prostitution. you know all you're basically doing while dating is taking a woman out and feeding her with your own money just to hope that she either falls in love with you or at least have sex with you after you're done feeding her.
besides that I also think that just like marriage and relationships dating itself is very one sided because the girl is always the one that gets all the victory out of it. she gets fed her favorite food for free, she has sex and many other things that will benefit her in the long run. hell my past experiences are not helping me out either, not sure if its PTSD but I remember the girl who almost won the title as my first girlfriend was a total sociopath that scarred me. the second one who actually did become my first girlfriend was a drama queen who wasn't relationship material. since then I never met a woman who is actually relationship or even dating material at all.
till then again I really dont see any point in dating. I see so many negativity that revolves around dating nowadays that I dont I feel is just not worth the effort; whether i'm mentally healthy or not
- yes, if you're dating it means you're mentally healthy and stable
- No, it doesn't reflect your mental health in any way, shape or form.
- other (please ellaborate)
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In itself dating doesn't. It may even result in depression if there is a bad breakup.
But if there is commitment and love, and perhaps sex, mental health will improve.
This is because when a person is in love or particularly have sex, the brain secretes love hormones which are natural pain killers and make a person feel good.
Hence when the person is happier (chemically but without drug), mental health is improved.
PS: if sex is involved, the person sleeps better which is also a big contribution to improving mental health.
Interesting question. I've been thinking about this. I think it all breaks down to what you want in your life. What your goals are and what you are comfortable with. If you are following the path you want then you should be in a good mental state. If something is bothering you, then obviously it's not good. You mentioned that you are anti-social and don't like the modern dating world. That means, dating is not right for you. So if you avoid dating, you will have good mental health because it suits you. I have similar views on dating and relationships. So I'm gonna stay single because that's what makes me comfortable and happy.