First of all, I'm not a easily fooled when it comes to abusers and the way the manipulate. That being said what are you opinions of that braid discription. Could he be an abusive person in relationships or is it something that might have just happened over that period of their marraige? He said something how he isn't that person and doesn't know how it got that bad but they were both miserable toward each Other and it got to the point there was no communication just fighting.
Most Helpful Guy
Be careful. First of all you said he is freshly divorced. My experience of listening to friends who are coming out of divorces tells me they need time (sometimes years) to go through all the healing stages and often times their next few relationships don't last. Not quite rebound relationships, just sometimes want something less intense and more to have fun. Also as you mentioned he does have the abuse and dealt with cheating in his past.
If you take it slow and be sure to keep communication open and honest it should be OK. It will likely take a while for him to trust you and you him so don't worry if that doesn't come quickly. Also we all have baggage so as pain points come up have patience because often times in relationships arguments flare up because you touched an open wound in someone and they need time to heal that part of their past. Have purpose in the relationship and check in often once you are on more solid footing to be sure you are both on the same page and committed to making it work for the long run. If for some reason after some time you discover it will not work or he has changed because he went through his healing phase be prepared to split ways and prepared for your heart to hurt, that's the risk we take.
Most Helpful Girl
I don’t think hearing a second hand recounting of the situation is enough to determine whether or not it’s abuse. People often say things in the heat of the moment when times are tough and emotions are high - obviously their marriage had issues with their child being sick, them falling further apart leading to nasty things being said and infidelity. But he’s been honest about the fact he wasn’t perfect in the previous relationship and even with him coming clean about that it doesn’t really send up red flags