- They’re lying.
- They’re intimidated.
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If you are going to be initiating first, all the time, you're probably stealing that chance away from them. I'd suggest giving the males an excuse to talk to you, but leave it up to them. Don't do all the work or you'll keep doing all the work. Just encourage them, if you want them to have more of the control.
Though, i don't see anything wrong with being the one to initiate all the time. Kudos to that!