She turns me on and I'm attracted to her, but I can't ejaculate to finish?

As the title suggests, I'm having problems climaxing with a girl I'm seeing. I find her very attractive, but I just can't seem to finish? Is there any advice on how to get over this? Almost feels like a mental block/nervous and overthink it.

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  • I have this problem too. It is mental but I can help. You are probably nervous, anxious and not really focusing on the pleasure of the whole aspect of being intimate with this person.

    Clear your mind. Play out a fantasy (like slap her ass, grab her neck, etc.) and have fun in bed. Sometimes a mental connection with the partner is the key (or at least the facade) you need in order to fully experience sex.

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    • That's the thing, I like to start it off slow and just go into it naturally, I did try the whole slapping her ass etc and she was really enjoying it, she does really turn me on, just gotta try and find some way around it. Thank you for the input though! Appreciate it.

    • The way around that is simple. Tell her for tonight you don't talk, you don't moan unless I tell you to. You don't take control, but let me do whatever I want. Ask her to submit to this.

      I guarantee it will be the solution.

    • Will give it a try! Thanks for the advice

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What Girls Said 1

  • Your minds thinking of something else

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    • It's bringing me down a bit, because I don't want her to feel like crap, because it's great with her.

What Guys Said 6

  • Maybe now, you are putting too much pressure on yourself. By focusing on past and potential future non-climaxing events. Focus on the moment and enjoy it. And her curves, focus on the moment and her curves. Mmm, mmm, mmm!

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  • I can help you out with that question , simply cause i have just recently come in to the same problem. After I had slept with the same girl for a few weeks I would always start getting off faster and faster I'm not sure why still don't. But if its the first time with each other i can last for a very long time. So I did a little research and found out that if i. Watch something close to porn and "pleasure my self" almost to the point of release and stop over a period of a few days i did this. and now im lasting like its the first time every time. Thinking about lasting a while is great but when you want to finish cause of a hard day" no pun" really.
    You and your lady friend want to have a quick go around. That's not going to happen cause I seem to have trained it to last.. LOL. now i want to figure out how to reveres it..

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  • have you had that problem with girls previously or did you have a long period of being single filled with masturbation before you got with her?

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    • No. With my previous one it was nearly a case of ejaculating quickly/having to try to stop myself. I've been single for a while and only just got back into the sex game.

    • it may just be a case of getting used to it again. if it worked before, it will work again.

  • What's wrong with that? She probably digs it. Puts you solely in control.

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  • Less thinking more humping.

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  • Try a butt plug (very small one to start) to stimulate your prostate.

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