Would you ever leave a partner because they gained significant weight? (Page 2)

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It is PC approved to say that appearance doesn't matter and OF COURSE we shouldn't "fat shame" anyone. That means that you aren't supposed to have any negative thoughts or feelings towards anyone just because they weigh as much as a baby elephant. That's a wonderfully exalted and elegant theory of the way things ought to be but it simply fails to account for the real world. For real people, appearance is a big factor in physical attraction. I am attracted to some women and not others; I like petite, diminutive women who have a cute face. I am not attracted to significantly overweight women. You can send me to a PC re-education center and have me sit through sensitivity training classes until the cows come home and I still won't be attracted to seriously overweight women. I have dated women who were 10-20 pounds overweight but that is the limit for me. I never told a girl that I did not want to date her because of her size, but I never dated a girl who I thought was abnormally large. Fortunately, none of my partners in long term relationships ever gained any substantial weight while we were together. I'm not sure that I would have left them because of that. I probably would have talked to them, inquired about possible depression, medical conditions causing weight gain, offered to help them with dieting and exercise, etc. But I don't think I could stay in a relationship with a woman who was 5' 4" and 190 pounds. Could you do it? Could you stay with a partner if they gained a significant amount of weight? (SJW's: If you don't like what I said, I don't want to hear from you! Save you opinion for someone who actually cares about what you think.)

Anonymous · Answer

I’d never let them become overweight, I’d be with someone who has more motivation than a couch potato and I’d be cooking tasty but healthy food with some cheat days of course. I’d keep us in check and want a partner who’d support that as I want him to be a decent example and parent to any potential children.

pooper89 · Answer

There’s more to the story. Why did he become unhealthy? Is he depressed? Testosterone levels not where they should be? Weight gain is usually a symptom of a bigger problem. I’d try to help him through it and I’d still love him

latinabutterfly96 · Answer

Where has love gone?
I thought men and women should love each other despite how they look. Behind that chubby face and behind that mask, there’s a person.

I don’t like this generation of males and females.

RegularTK421 · Answer

I dont expect perfection, but if she becomes obese or disgusting I'm out. I wouldn't get married to begin with, it's not worth it and life is too short. There are millions of women out there, you dont have to settle for just one woman your whole life.

AquaBoo · Answer

How TF do you let your S. O. gain that much? But let's say, hypothetically, that I do. Yes. I would leave. People who gain too much weight and are extremely obese usually do not have any motivation, complain about their current state but don't do anything about it, and bring others down. If they were not willing to try and become healthy for me or themselves, then yes, I will leave.

Just_Me89 · Answer

If my partner either lost or gained a significant amount of weight that meant they were putting their life at risk I would definitely say something about it because I would be concerned for their safety.
If they refused to do something about it, to me it shows a complete disregard for a) their own well-being and b) for me and my opinions/feelings.
This being the case, I'd be very tempted to leave. If someone doesn't care about themselves, how can you except them to care about you?

Johnnydempster2 · Answer

I have high standards for myself, and expect my girlfriend to take care of herself and put in effort like I do. It's not so much the number that I would care about, but if they gain enough weight for me to lose attraction then yeah there's gonna be an issue

FatherJack · Answer

I was not just the weight gain , she gained a huge amount of weight and is obese now , that contributed to me dumping my ex wife , her attitude got worse , always complaining , lazy , and got even lazier. I believe this was because she let herself slide into poor physical health.

alrdyded · Answer

More cushion for the pushin... if a partner I'm in love with were to gain substantial weight I would be more worried about their health than my own self absorbed desires. I would encourage her to speak with a medical professional about how her physiology is changing. It could be something way serious and that should supersede any shallow, immature, insecurities one might be hung up on...

JulieXO · Answer

I'm not attracted to fat guys, but slightly chubby is perfectly fine. I wouldn't get with someone who's severely overweight, but I don't think I'd leave them if they got bigger throughout the relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

I want someone who takes care of himself. If the added weight was because of unhealthy habits that could be easily avoided, then I would probably leave him eventually. If it’s due to some other medical thing that he didn’t choose, then I wouldn’t care. But I’m kind of a health nut. So I want someone who at least tries to be healthy.

Pizza_lover159 · Answer

No. If he got a lot of weight because he had some problems In not going to leave him. Ill try to help him and cook him delicious food that is also healthy , Ill take him with me at a gym and go on a nutritionist together, Ill even diet with him so he doesn't feel alone. If he doesn't change even after that , ill leave. Because I know I did my best.

Decentguy · Answer

it really matters how much weight she gained, if she became obese then i would motivate her and help her a lot in loosing her weight, but if she doesn't wanted to loose weight just because she's lazy, then i would leave her, because i wouldn't feel sexually attracted to her then, and if i can't have sex with her then who am i supposed to have sex with? so yeah, i would leave her, Besides, a lot of women dump guys and leave them because they have tiny dick, so its nothing bad leaving a fat woman

Drener · Answer

No..  I will do my best to try and help him lose weight  I will never give up on him I love him way to much

Babsie1984 · Answer

I think it would depend on really how much weight they gained. I wouldn’t leave them because of the weight gain but I think it would be a significant factor in how attractive I found them and would have a knock on effect to the rest of our marriage

chunkycheeks · Answer

My fiance when we met was skinny with some muscle, I've always been my chunky self.
Well we've been together a little while, had a baby. He gained a lot of weight and lost all of his muscle, I'm a little skinnier then I was when we met.
Although I prefer a fit or at least slim guy, I still love him with all of my heart and I'm still super attracted to him. I would never leave him because of his weight/appearance, I love him more for who he is.

jimyee · Answer

Fuck the notion of accepting fat people. It's an unhealthy lifestyle andvtherefgore by being accepting of fat people we are encouraging unhealthy behavior.

I would absolutely leave a partner if they gained a significant amount. Probably a lot less.

fantasticass · Answer

No I would not leave, but we would work together to solve the issue of the weight gain, and find the source of the problem.

sodaslut · Answer

i wouldn't even let them gain that much weight in the first place😂 like i'm fine if he grows a tummy idc, but if i see u becoming too unhealthy i have to stop u bc i care man

General_Titipong · Answer

Yes I would, it wasn't in the contract.
(Far fetched example incoming).
If you married me because I love me,
Tuned out I'm a drug cartel leader who killed 1000s of people butchered and raped.
You probably should leave me, because I don't match your standards ya know.

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