What does "get a life" mean? I do think I enjoy, I have friends, I go out, I work, I have a family. What am I lacking that makes my life not a "life"?
Explain it to me, because I don't have a girlfriend and asked a question based on it, you claim I have no life and want to belvie you so I can follow your advice to go get one, so what is a life?
im 23 and your 19, no matter what i do i can catch up to you
Gotta work on your self confidence man. That's the key to living a happy life in my opinion.
how do i catch up to even out the years of having experience? how do i go back and have young experiences?
Thats not the point. I didn't have any real sexual experiences until i was 19. Its not about catching up to how many time this guy orvthat guy has had sex because no mnatter what, thete is always going to be somneone whos had more sex than you. Even if youve had sex with 1000 women.
You're only 23. You're still young lol. If you're behind you're behind. I mean, all my friends look way older than me, and they all lost their virginity and stuff way earlier. When I go out to eat waiters constantly think I'm one of their little brothers, and I always tried to hide the fact I was a virgin and inexperienced. I used to be so self conscious about stuff like that but when I stopped caring I started getting out more, being happier, and just being confident, I had girls approaching ME. Full 360 in my life. It'll make a big difference. It can't really be taught, you've got to learn it yourself over time.
How long? If it takes years I'll start giving up on being able to meet a girl in my 20's 30's or 40's and learn the technique you're talking about
So it's just generates in its own?
There's no technique. It's just something you gotta naturally learn. For me I just one day said "fuck it" (literally) and started doing stuff I normally didn't feel comfortable doing. Talking to girls at school, being more social, whatever. And ever since then I've been better off. Not to say I'm perfect or I'm the master at life or anything crazy (because I'm not), I'm just saying I feel a lot better than I used to about myself, and in return I enjoy my life more.
So the key to confidence is having a girlfriend
Noo noo. Trust me you'll be okay bud just keep truckin'.
I'm 23 you're 19, like everyone in the dating world is so patronizing
I'm trying to tell you that if you're 23 and inexperienced it doesn't matter. There's no standard for when you need to do stuff. And I'm not trying to patronize you, I was trying to relate to you. I just got rejected by a girl I really liked. Was left on read when I messaged her and I've got no idea what I did wrong, but "fuck it".
i don't get how having 4 years on me makes you relatable. i went through college only being rejected wwhile you had a highschool or college relationship
Just cheer up is all I've got to say.
how do i cheer up knowing that im alone while the majority of guys younger than me are all more experienced and that even if i meet a girl, at this moment, she's probably fucking her current boyfriend while im alone like a fucking retard
You just do. Don't put yourself down, man up, and grow up. Can't keep crying over it your whole life. Trust me you'll find someone and you'll be okay IF you "get your mind out of the gutter" and stop being depressed about it.
"you just do" would you tell a starving kid to just "cheer up, you just do" ?
No. You give him food, and if you can't you tell him to go out and find some or he'll die of starvation.
but a guy who is alone, should just sit on the floor until he just flips a switch that "cheers him up" ? like can you explain the "cheer up" action?
why do you want guys who will never be good enough to keep trying? girls complain about creeps, so if the creeps give up, they can live and die alone and not be heard of leaving girls and the desirable men to live peaceful lives.
Why would they stop trying when there is still a possibility? And how about the creeps stop being creepy?
girls will call any guy creepy if they reject them. being rejected is creepy.
i guess a guy would stop being creepy if he just never asks a girl out again. I know many girls who say short men are creeps, so how do short guys get taller?
I don't think that's fair. A guy who is rejected is not automatically a creep. A guy who stalks, cuts off a woman's hair to smell it, knows everything about her including her future dentist appointment and calls her on the phone to breath heavily on the line while she says "Hello?" is creepy. Two different things.There is leg surgery... or you could realize that you should find a site where women prefer short men. Like this.https://shortersingles.com/
So you expect me to get leg surgery instead of girls changing to atop calling guys creeps based on height? There's no limit, everything is just the guys fault isn't it?
"just pay tens of thousands of dollars for a surgery that may not works and requires you to learn how to walk again, then come back and ask me out and I won't call you a creep"Who the fuck thinks like that?
That "leg surgery" comment was a tongue in cheek answer--as in sarcastic. It should have been obvious by the rest of the comment. You seem intent on being bitter and that's not healthy. Try out the singles site that I showed you so maybe that you can find happiness. Oh. To answer your question on who thinks like that? Some other guys on this site... like one who specifically posted a question on it. There's nothing more than I can say.
i'll go on the site if you can vouch for 10 couples you personally know met through it
I did research into the site, 90% female profiles are fake. The site was designed to prey on short males, so do you personally know people who met on this site? or are you shill for them and trying to make money of me preying on the fact that im short?
Do you want males to be liking with class hope?
Girls complain about having to reject guys, if guys that are undesirable give up, then girls never have to deal with creeps
I'm not sure what you mean by that?
Sorry, do you want males living with false hope?
I don't want anything, I don't have a horse in this race. I'm only saying you can't just shut down your emotions on a whim because you logically decided you wanted to.
Girls are like employers, guys are like job seekers. I understand when you reject an applicant, you don't care if he hangs himself or gets another job, but as a human, you have no opinion?
Seriously? Yeah, no, I have zero sympathy for that whole "all girls have their pick, guys never do, boohoo" attitude, considering it's utterly false on both sides of the fence. Invalidating other people's trouble just to try and enforce your own is not how you make a good impression.
And I hate the "doesn't directly affect me so I don't care" attitude. How did I invalidate any of your troubles? None of them were brought up by you are me, if anything by you saying you as woman have zero impact on dating, you're the one invalidating yourself
Taking stuff out of context in order to validate issues you just created? You're really set on being a victim, aren't you?
"i have no horse in this race" so if every male that you found unattractive was purged, would you not care? would you only care if the blood dripping down the street touches your shoes?
victim? im asking the question, so why are you the victim, explain what issue you have that i should helping you with instead and i gladly will.
based on you have lash out at me for simply asking a fuckign question im guessing your one of the girls who says "men should never tlak about issues or reach out for help, those guys are losers" right?
Like I said, taking stuff out of context just to support an issue you just pulled out of your ass.You asked if you should give up on wanting a girl. I said that question is irrelevant since that is not a switch you can just flip on demand. You either feel a desire for a relationship, or you don't.
why do you want guys who are blocked out from the dating to keep trying even though no one wants them? if you want them to keep trying, should girls stop complaining about having to reject creeps? because creep = any guy they reject.
Seriously, stop with that bullshit. You wonder why girls don't like you...Also, where the flying fuckingtwattleonastick did I say I want anything? I literally said I don't want any damn thing. Your question did not involve wanting any kind of behavior from guys one way or another, and I didn't open my goddamn mouth on the subject. Why you are trying to change the subject then act all offended my answer to an entirely different question is out of place for it is beyond me.
"you winder why girls don't like you..." show me proof that i talk to girls like this every single day. Im upset now, does that mean i talk like this every second of every day?
it's such a power play to say shit like "well since you're single, it's beacuase you talk to every human how you talk to me, i'm going to ignore the fact that this is a single interaction and that you have different interactions with other people, i'll assume you talk like that in every interaction you ever have. "
And they say women are impossible to have a straight conversation with...Can you just pick a subject and stick for it for at least one back and forth interaction? Of course my answers aren't going to make sense if your mind is already interpreting them in light of an entirely different scenario than the one I was responding to.
If i said, "well i don't like the way you talk to me, so i'll blame that as the reason for any problems you may have" would you believe me? or did you only do that to just spite me?
can you fucking stop with the condescending bullshit? i am having a straight conversation but you throwing in implications just to fuck with me
No, you're not. You're really, really not. You say something, I respond to it, you yank my response out of context by placing it in an entirely different scenario, then get upset about its implications in that new scneario I didn't even respond to.
The topic im picking right now is, is it fair to say every conversation i have with a girl is the exact same as this one like you imply? if you didn't imply that explain what you meant why "You wonder why girls don't like you..." and how changing that would instantly solve all my issues.
No, I was talking specifically about this whole topic hopping thing you're doing. Like I still I am. It's not even possible to respond to anything else if I don't have a clue what you're even talking about right now, or what you'll be thinking I'm talking about by the time you reply.
how do you definitively know that i "topic hop" with every girl i ever talked to and that was the reason they were not interested in me?
I don't, nor did I ever say that. But thanks for proving my point.
explain it then? im literally asking for a clear explanation which you refuse to give. you said "You wonder why girls don't like you..." what did you SPECIFICALLY mean?
I meant I was getting pretty damn exasperated with this whole topic hopping thing.
so was it a jab at me to spite me? or definitive fact that you expect me to believe?
And I'm inaccurate at thinking you're actively seeking out a victim role, how?It's an expression of exasperation. If someone says "for the love of God" do you also start questioning them on religion?
no but in context of me asking about relationships and you saying "You wonder why girls don't like you..." it sounded more intentional because the expression was relatable to the situation.
I don't understand there even is a victim role, i asked a question, you replied now we're having a conversation, but you take me asking for clarification on things that you say to be victimization, im sorry.
Related to the discussion, which, to the best of my knowledge anyway, has been about the topic hopping. So yet again an example of how I respond to a topic, and you're already pasting it into an entirely different one.
if there is a victim in this interaction, i would think it's me, because your yourself said you have no horse in this race, so how would you be the victim?
so moving on from that, should guys keep trying even though no women want them? what would the quality of life be of them trying to achieve something they never can?
If you're going to take what I said out of context, can you at least limit it to a single unrelated context to drop it in?
the post above your last replay is my question i'll re post it here: "so moving on from that, should guys keep trying even though no women want them? what would the quality of life be of them trying to achieve something they never can? "
For one, I think guys shouldn't give a single damn what I think about how they should live their lives. If they want a relationship, they should go for it. If they don't, they shouldn't feel any obligation to just because of some vague expectations from a bunch of strangers or even non-strangers.Secondly, could never achieve is nonsense. The only way to say that is in hindsight. If a person is rejecting you because of how you look, or your income, or whatever, then they wouldn't have loved - truly loved - *you* any more if you had had those things. Would having someone take advantage of you for your money, or as armdressing, or to keep her happy until something better comes along, or to have them ditch you when you hit a rough p;atch and need them the most truly be better than just having them not waste your time to begin with?
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at that point in life, how do they learn to be happy? or would you prefer them to live knowing they're not good enough and have negative thoughts constantly?
At that point they have to embrace the single life and make the most of it. Being single is no reason for negative thoughts. It just requires a new mindset and an new attitude, without it they will end up depressed.
using that logic, no single person should ever be looking for a relationship because they are so happy and content so there no reason to change.
do you have any context or examples of why you picked that age?
Basically never give up...
why? ifa guy will never be good enough why should he keep slamming his head into a wall?