i sat him down and told him. He could tell something was off and after hiding it for 2 months he confornted me and i said what happend. Of course he was mad, hurt, upset etc. Some days its like old times and other days he lashes out in anger (verbal), some days he is beyound depressed, somedays he is loving and happy. Its been a roller coaster. And almost a year since this whole thing
i dont know how to handle it and need advice. How can i make him trust me again? And how can i forgive myself?
i want his forgiveness and to move on, to learn and grow from this and become stronger as a couple. How can i make that happen. But i feel like i obsessivly think about it and the guilt and pain kills me. I want to help him and me
Most Helpful Guy
I regret to say, the ball is in his court.
He needs to let go of your past if you both plan to marry. That incidence will haunt you for life and will cripple your marriage.
So talk to him. Evaluate his feelings. Encourage him to be honest with you as to whether he could forgive you.
If he couldn't, then I think the best is to move on.
If he could, then he must also forget. This means he will NEVER bring up the case again. Only the test of time can tell if he truly forgives you.
As long as he bring up again, even once, then it's over. Bear the pain and move on.
So it's an ultimatum. Break up (as gently as possible) or he must forgive and never bring up again. And don't rush into marriage for now.
Most Helpful Girl
Drunkenness isn't an excuse.
It's time to move on and to learn your lesson.