I felt really upset by these comments. I tried to reassure him that, yes... it will be different. We will probably see each other every other weekend instead of every weekend sometimes, and that I am willing to put in effort if he does. That I choose to be with him, and I was able to last with my ex for 8 months (it would have been longer, but, he cheated on me). Anyways.
I am just upset my boyfriend maybe doesn’t believe in our relationship. Or, maybe he doesn’t believe in me and my choice to stay with him (or try to). I like him a lot. I see a future with him.
I am not sure what to do 😔
Most Helpful Guy
A four year age disparity is marginal at worst. It is best to ignore these comments and implement some measures to assuage his feelings and then allow him to draw his own conclusions. I would advise you to continue questioning him politely about his activities and keep small tabs on him. This will demonstrate your concern and assist in highlighting any inconsistencies in his behavior. As you may know, people who often feel the most concerned about a thing are the ones most likely to engage in that thing.
Most Helpful Girl
Stick with him. At least for the time being. Every guy, no matter how confident and strong they are, gets worried about the unknown. Your guy is no different.
My first boyfriend could not accept me being away at uni for another 4 years when he dumped me. He was the same as your guy, so insecure.
It is up to you what happens. You can show him you are trustworthy by staying squeaky clean. No reason why it cannot work. Just a few words of advice. Stay OFF the alcohol!