Sometimes, when we watch war films with soldiers, I would always compliment about how attractive the soldiers were. Also, when I see uniformed soldiers around shops, I would gush about how good they look in uniform and how sharp they are. The topic of soldiers and my admiration for them would often sneak into our conversations.
My boyfriend always get upset whenever I've mentioned soldiers, and he'd always get jealous and criticize them. I don't like that at all, it seems arrogant of him. But yesterday, he pulled me aside. Trying to hold back tears, he told me whenever I talk about soldiers, it makes him feel insecure, and not good enough for me no matter how hard he tries to please me, and it hurts him immensely. I am putting a stop to my behavior and applogized. But it left me wondering, was I abusive to him in our relationship? What should I do?
Most Helpful Guy
That's rude you are telling like you fantasize soldiers. You should not tell too often praising or attracted to soldiers coz it can hurt his feelings.. So for example what if he says often too that he fantasized models from childhood and felt they are attractive but settle with you.. How do you feel this
Most Helpful Girl
Well, I think so. You're hurting his feelings so he was definitely abused emotionally...
Since you always speak of good thinks about soldiers, he might feel that he is not enough for you, as he is a marine.