I’m getting insecure about why none of the guys I’ve been with in past year were interested in an actual relationship. Is it because we were having sex regularly and they had no interest in being tied down or committed to me? Basically everyone I know has sex before officially dating someone so I don’t get why doing that myself is hurting my chances of finding a great guy to be in a relationship with. Am I being naïve? Please be honest with me and give good advice without being mean because I’m already confused and a little insecure.
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okay first of all breathe.
How are you approaching these guys? first off I need to know that and second any guy that uses "BAE" screams fuckboi right of the bat, he's no good for what it seems.
If you want a guy to take you seriously make sure to make DATES not hangouts I'm a guy that considers himself a good guy (not nice lol)
What I mean is that I actually want a girlfriend to take serious but that depends on how the initial conversations are if a girl just hops in the sack with me its fine but if I see that she has no interest in me or my life I asume she is just a girl that doesn't like to date seriously.
If a girl jumps in the sac with me and prior to that or even after she and I start to get intimate (aka knowing about each others lives and things like that) I might consider her for wifey considering that she doesn't have a history of cheating or playing guys and that there is chemistry of course.
The sex is not the problem if I where you id:
- see if your not giving a slutty vibe when you approach them
- you actually have genuine interest in the guy and you guys actually talk about intimate shit
- the dude is not a fuckboi (aka jock, dresses like a cunt, his priority is smoking weed with his friends, only texts you when he wants a date/sex, he doesn't open up to you ext)
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