i don’t hate men. I love men and understand them. I just don’t want one anymore and don’t believe I ever will.
Do you think that a fulfilling career and good friends can keep me happy? I don’t want to be lonely, but I’d feel lonely in a relationship anyway.
Most Helpful Guys
There are people that are married, had kids, had great careers, etc. and yet are still miserable and empty and "unhappy" with their lives, thus it proves that a relationship DOES NOT GUARANTEE ANY SORT OF HAPPINESS OR TRUE HAPPINESS. There's even a high rate of divorce if I remembered correctly.
The way I see it you're only as "happy" as you believe you are. The more deluded one is the more "happier" one probably will be.
Read it here and see it for yourself, it's all but chemical reactions happening in our brains and bodies:
If you believe that a fulfilling career and good friends is all that really matters to you then so be it, and even then, THAT ALSO DOES NOT GUARANTEE ANY SORT OF HAPPINESS EITHER.
The 4 Chemicals That Let YOU be HAPPY! ↗
Or if you want to be "happy", maybe these articles here at GAG would be of use and interest to you:
30 Simple Ways to be a Happy Person ! :-) ↗
20 Little Things that Make Us Happy! ↗
If You Want To Be Happy, Be! ↗
How to Be Happy by Realizing Your Problems Don’t Matter ↗
8 things required to live a happy life ↗
10 Basic Rules to Follow For a Happy Life ↗
8 Qualities Of People Who Are Happy Being Alone ↗
I think someone can be single and be a happy person.
Flip side is... as much as I hate to admit it... I think there might not be any greater joy on earth than finding that special person. Think about the story of Adam and Eve. God created man and was friends with him, and would talk with him... but it wasn't enough. God himself decided that Adam, with the Garden of Eden, able to walk and talk with God, wasn't enough.
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First you need to be happy on your own. If you can’t be happy alone how can you be happy when your with someone? I’ve been single for almost 2 years after a 7 year relationship and I’m ok with that. I’d rather be alone then in a relationship I’m not happy in, I don’t “Need” somebody to be complete. Also you can’t hold what your past relationships have brought over the heads of those your with in that time, don’t punish the men your with for the issues the men you were once with did to you, why’re not all that way. If you still have faith in men then why are you asking this question? Are there times of loneliness? Absolutely, but I’m ok with that for myself. I will keep living my life and after the relationship I’ve been in my standards are high and I’ll never settle for anything less than anything because I know what I have to offer a relationship and with that being said, things will work out. I will not be alone forever but the right man will come when I’m not looking for it but as I’m living my life doing me, and not expecting it. Have faith, it’ll all work out, even though at the time it may not feel like it!
I can never understand why people think happiness can be found in relationships when there are countless ways to make yourself happy. I mean, if a person thinks that their relationship makes them happy then good for them, doesn’t mean everyone’s gonna have the same.
I just don’t believe that we should ever rely on a partner for happiness. I think happiness is something we have to find on our own. Sometimes relationships don’t really cure loneliness, especially when you’ve felt lonely for nearly your whole life, been through crappy relationships, traumatic experiences, etc.
But I guess everyone has their own definition of happiness, I’ve been in relationship before and I did enjoy them but when they came to an end, of course I was upset but I decided to focus on my own being and do things that I enjoy. I don’t really remember when’s the last time I yearned for a relationship. I’m still happy with my hobbies, my passion, etc. Maybe this can be the same for you
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