Should I return the car my ex boyfriend bought me after we broke up? (Page 2)
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It’s a gift? Why not? He bought it for you.. I wouldn’t even buy my girl a car.. I think that’s dumb af to beginning with. Only way I’d buy big ticket items for a girl would be if I’m married.. other than that you got to work for yours, just like I got to work for mine. But he was dumb enough to buy it for you.. keep that shit and drive it into the ground
Well he’s not cheap like you
Lol your right, that’s why I’ve had money for so long.. because I don’t stupid bull shit like that for women that don’t work to take care of themselves... I will always have money with that mindset, he will go broke always trying to give gold diggers money... equals stupidity! He will learn eventually tho
@Asker. So a man is cheap if he doesn't buy his girlfriend a car? Is that a rule from a gold diggers manual?
@PinkMichae 😂😂. Must be.. entitled women have that expectation to get big ticket items from guys. I don’t blame her. She just benefited from it.. her ex is the idiot in this situation. He will be like the millions of people that will end up broke and hit rock bottom because he is trying to show off on these gold diggers. That’s his problem.
I’m not a gold digger if i was i wouldn't even ask this and I’d tell his to transfer the title which I still don’t know if it’s in mine or his. Sorry if it made you mad that i said he's not cheap like you. maybe ill he’s not poor like you
Exactly what a gold digger would say... lol I don’t have to explain my financial situation. But I do know that he’s stupid. If you were a woman that actually was responsible, you wouldn’t accept that big ticket item. But I don’t blame you if you do, as it was a GIFT. And the fact your asking this question, confirms that you are thinking this is a what a gold digger would do. All I’m saying is, I wouldn’t do that, transportation and the payment for it is, YOUR responsibility. When we start actually treating people as equal and giving them the accountability of taking care of there responsibilities, then this will be a better society. But I guarantee, he will go broke well before I will. I can guarantee that 😂😂😂
Wow! That's a toughy and an extremely generous fella.
I personally wouldn't keep anything someone else is paying on. I also don't accept extravagant gifts for exactly that reason. Not that extravagant gifts are offered to men frequently, or ever... at least not to me.
My father is having the same issue. His girlfriend bought him a new car. Now that they broke up, she wants the car back.
Legally, since it’s under my father’s name, she can’t claim it back. It was given as a gift.
Now, ethically, should one return it? Maybe... it’s really up to you.
Yes... definitely... A present as such is given in expectation of spending the rest of your life together with whoever received it. An expense as such can seriously effect the other person's life. Just because they're out of YOUR life, and you might be angry at them, doesn't mean that they don't matter anymore.
What you 'have' to do all depends on who's name is on the title of the car. If it's your name, then you can walk away. If it's his name, you have to talk to him an figure out what he would like to do.
In reality, no matter who's name is on the title, you should talk to him about it. It's the right thing to do.
If you don't know who's name it's under then it most likely is under his name. I mean unless he stole it.
At any rate the honorable thing to do would be to give it back. Unless it's under your name, but I don't think it's possible for you to hold the title to the car without signing anything.
What kind of a relationship was it? If you 2 were living together and mooching of the same pool of money, that is a factor. If he had bought you a toaster for the kitchen, that's not really a personal gift so much as a "we both need this, so I'll be nice and draw from my funds."
I had someone buy me one, I felt so bad, I tried to pay him all of it but he didn’t accept it and told me to keep it.
I think just talk to him about it offer to pay it back or give it back even if you can’t pay it all straight away, just give whatever you can when you can.
If the title is in his name, you should be very cautious because he owns that car. It could get real messy if he reports it stolen.
This is crazy to me. Who buys a car for their girlfriend? What does this dude do for a living that he can just buy a car for a girl and is just like, "nah keep that shit."
Please tell us the nature of your relationship. What kind of car is it? Why did your relationship end?
I think if you're still on good terms you can keep it but if you're on bad terms you should return it because if I gave someone a car and then we ended up hating each other then I would regret giving it to them very much but if we're still friends or at least still respect each other then it wouldn't bother me. I chose the "I’d talk to him and ask for his opinion on whether he wants it back" option
Did he ask for it back? Is he rich enough that it's meaningless to him to have spent that money? If it's not, you should arrange to make payments so you can keep the car. It's probably not worth it to him to take it back and sell. Cars depreciate VERY quickly.
You best look at the title and see who owns the vehicle, and who is the insurance under?
In german we have a saying. "Geschenkt ist gechenkt. Und wiederholen ist gestohlen". It rhymes a little and translates to "Gifted is gifted. And taking it back is theft."
Much agreed.
It's also important if its in your name or not. I don't give gifts, I let a girl drive MY car. Then if we break up, its obvious I would get it back, and if she refused I could just take it or even call the police. If he put it in your name, he probably wants you to actually have it. I would still at least offer to give it back though.
Everyone saying that a gift is a gift... this isn't a watch, it is a CAR. If you guys ended on bad terms I'd say give it back. If you didn't end on bad terms then make sure he's cool with you keeping it. Don't just assume he'll be fine with it
I don't know what my girlfriend did with the teddybear and some other stuff I bought for her, but car is a big thing. If the car was onto you, I don't think you should. He would have known about that before buying it, this is not child's play.
If you are in the US and he gave you more than the gift limit in a year, then he has to pay gift tax or you are both conspiring to evade taxes.
Whether you give it back or not depends on whether you are a gold digger or not.
Gift tax exclusion for 2018 (assuming the gift was made this year) is $15,000. The donee has no obligation to pay gift tax; it is solely the responsibility of the donor.
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Correct. I did't say the receiver had to pay, only that if she knew the tax wasn't being paid that she would be conspiring to evade taxes.
Simple knowledge of the facts and failure to act does not make her guilty. Failure to report a crime does not make you guilty of anything unless the law specifically provides that you have a duty to report (like mandatory reports of child abuse for hospitals, physicians, day care centers, etc.) She is not guilty of conspiracy unless she performs an affirmative act that furthers the conspiracy.
Whose name is the car in? Yours? Keep it. His? Return it ASAP. Who ever is responsible to pay keeps it.
Take it for a joy ride first. See if it will do 120. See how high it can jump over railroads tracks. Does it do fishtails in the parking lot? These are things that you should test for him.
Depends on who legally owns the car. But if you had an amicable split, I’d at least ASK him if he wants it back.
If he's still making payments you should give it back. If its all paid for then you should discuss it with him and work it out between you.
Make sure to take the title and registration and ID to your DMV to make sure everything is legit. You'll need to transfer title and registration over to yourself