So I was just curious as to why even unblock me and give me the money back when I didn’t even ask for it in the first place? Why even say out of pocket things to me? Was it in the heat of the moment her actions?
I don’t wanna add her back or anything cause I feel like if she wanted to she could have easily added me back. Plus its too soon I feel like to do anything. Her ig is on private still by the way.
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I’d say she had a bit of a wake up call and realized she was being immature. I know if I unblocked someone and things were still heated, it’d be because there’s still some sort of feeling there. Ages ago when my boyfriend and I broke up, he kept blocking and unblocking me online and when we got back together, I asked him why he did that, and he said there was an element of confusion. He’d be bothered if he saw my stuff online but he also was curious because there was still lingering feelings. She probably needs to calm down a lot. I’m gathering that ye went long distance and it got rocky. It sounds to me that she is very scared of long distance. It’s a scary thing and there’s a lot of fear there. She seems to have pushed you away out of fear. If she’s unblocked you I’m guessing that she wants you to notice. Yes you could write to her now and show her you can see she unblocked you and try a fresh start, or you could take the other route and leave it alone. Personally if it was me, I’d want the guy to show one last time that he sees I’m there and has respect to thank me for the money. Then leave it as that. Let her make the next move and if she is ignorant enough to disrespect you, move forward!
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1. She may have volunteered to pay the money because she doesn't want you contacting her later to inquire about it.
2. She blew up at you unexpectedly shortly before you were scheduled to visit. There is a good possibility that she has someone new in her life, someone who is local to her. She fabricated an excuse to blow up and tell you to not bother with visiting her, but she felt guilty enough about that to pay back the money. She may simply be trying to salve her own conscience.
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Probably wanted to make sure you couldn't say she owed you... I've heard of guys taking women on dates and expecting them to put out after having spent money. There's that song... "I ain't spendin cash for nothin I wanna see you take it off".
If she unblocked you she may want to see how you will react to the fight... How persistent you are... How much BS you can handle. Probably has too much pride to apologize without some provocation.
Two questions for you to consider: is her BS the kind you are comfortable dealing with? What kind of experience do you want to have? (let the possibilities play out in your mind before answering)