Most Helpful Guys
The first girl I dated I wasn't attracted to physically but I loved her personality.
I'm still a virgin even though I have a high sex drive because I firmly believe that men shouldn't have double standards about sex. It's stereotypical to think women who've been with several men are somewhat used but some men brag about their body count.
If it's slutty for girls, it's slutty for guys too.
This policy might seem dumb but I don't want to end up in a situation where the girl I marry tells me that she saved it all for me but I gave it up to some girl I can't even remember very well.
So while my primary filter when looking for dates is physical attraction and looks, I don't date for sex. And I keep an open door for someone who matches my personality and beliefs well. It's only my primary filter because you can't use it as a secondary filter. What are your supposed to do, use personality as a primary filter and physical attraction as a secondary filter later? So you connect on some emotional level with several different girls and then choose based off physical attraction once you've narrowed the field for personality? That's sick. That's no different than leading on the girls after they feel they have a connection with u and then savagely cutting off ties. Hence, unless attraction doesn't matter at all, it should be placed as the first filter since that's the only place it can meaningfully function.
Of course we all wish to just magically stumble on 'the one' who matches everything we wanted and even the things we didn't know we wanted, thus rendering the need to apply filters to find a partner null..
But that's unlikely and unreasonable to believe.
There is nothing wrong to date for looks and sex. This is because looks is the "first impression" while sex is a natural need.
Perhaps you should broaden your scope to accept these and then exercise wisdom to see if those guys simply want sex and look, or are truly seeking love and companionship, but includes sex and look in their search of a lifepartner.
So as an example two guys. Both go for looks and sex. But one is a Player who like bee, fly from flower to flower to flower. And the other have the same desire, but in sincere when the right person comes by, marries her and remain faithful to her as the only sex partner.
Yes. Have faith. Great guys still exist and they also start with looks and desire sex in the end.
Most Helpful Girl
What I don't understand is how there can be more horse's asses in this world than there are horses? Come on Dawson, you know a person's looks are the first thing that draws a look. Then it is sex. You usually will go by that but every once in awhile you will know someone from work or elsewhere that you have come to see what a great personality they have. And frankly, in my opinion, a great personality will outweigh looks any day of the week.
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