Most Helpful Guys
I think you should stick to what you're comfortable with though I've come to favor having sex as soon as possible, not out of horniness and not because I'd find the girl boring otherwise.
It's because I've discovered, perhaps through some bad luck, that there is a really strong concept of "sexual compatibility", and that it is not a pleasant experience to spend a lot of time with someone, fall for them, and then discover you two completely lack it.
Such was the case with my first girlfriend, where we waited for months to have sex only for me to then discover a star fish who doesn't like touched being down there (not even with hand), didn't like her breasts fondled, didn't like pretty much any of the usual things people would do for foreplay, only to then complain about soreness minutes into intercourse. And that did not change with repeated experiences or attempts to talk about it.
And perhaps you can imagine cases like that where you might date a guy for months, get to know him so well, get so into him outside the bedroom, and then realize he has weird fetishes that freak you out where he can't get aroused any other way, a micropenis, something of this sort. If these types of things aren't important to you and you think you can adapt to your partner's sexual tendencies, then I can see much more of a case for waiting as long as you want. But I always found it pretty important that we're at least reasonable compatible and not wildly incompatible in the bedroom.
And in my experience strong compatibility can be an elusive concept. I've dated so many weird ones: star fish who don't like being touched down there in any way, girls who suddenly become ridiculously bossy in the bedroom ordering me around, girls with strange masochistic who like me to get so rough and abusive with them even though I'm not a sadist, etc. Meanwhile I also dated two with whom I was so sexually compatible that everything felt so right, like stars aligning, and I married the second one since we were so passionate for each other as lovers and so compatible for each other as lovers, and not just as friends.
So I came to strongly prefer not to wait so long to find out. That's just me and my rationale for it. I'm not suggesting you do the same, just trying to justify why I would no longer wait around for a girl.
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The answer for me is a definite no.
My wife and I dated for over 9 months seeing each other daily but never had sex until our wedding day.
So did we set a record on G@G: over 270 dates and no sex. LOL!
Most Helpful Girl
Not at all. You should have sex whenever you feel comfortable and that goes for the other individual as well.