He gets very upset if I go snooping into his. phone.. I really don't know what the big deal is unless your trying to hide stuff. He knows I am a very insecure broken women due to my past relationships.. So if you love a person and you know they are broken wouldn't you want to do anything to reassure them that they are in love with you and they think you are sexier than any other women they have ever seen
It doesn't bother me if he wants to look at my phone. Although he doesn't he says it's not his business so he doesn't go snooping. I think he doesn't care enough that he wants to. I feel like I'm a convenience for him. Plus i think to him, it's like I'm ok. Better than being alone at least. And if someone better and for sure younger does come along then he's gone and it wouldn't take much.
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It's not necessarily about hiding something. It could be about wanting to feel like he has some degree of privacy and that his partner trusts him. My girlfriend and I both know each other's phone passwords but I don't go snooping in her phone and I'm pretty sure she doesn't go in mine. The only exception is that when one of us is driving and we get a text or want to send a text, we will ask the non-driver to get on our phone and do that. Other than that, we don't look at each other's phones. We respect each other and trust each other.
Here's another thought. Maybe he's been having conversations with a friend about something very personal that his friend told him in private and didn't want shared - like relationship problems or sexual problems or financial problems or something that the friend finds embarrassing and doesn't want anyone else to know. He could be trying to protect that friend. Or he might just feel, like I do, that people are entitled to a certain amount of personal space and privacy even if they're in a relationship.
If you have issues from past relationships, I think you should work on those, and if you don't trust him, I think the two of you should work on that. But snooping through each other's phones shouldn't be part of the solution. It shouldn't need to be part of the solution.
Maybe you don't care about having any privacy or feeling respected and trusted, but a lot of people do. Your boyfriend might be one of them. If so, then my opinion is that you are putting your relationship at risk if you keep wanting to snoop into personal stuff like his phone.