I mean i know i have saved up and he has as well , we both have jobs and he was going to be off to college but wanted to stay and help me , he is trying to do online college.
I mean i little more towards adoptions than keeping him, we even picked out a name for him as well he was going to be mason and er haven't gotten a middle name yet. Im about 7 months pregnant and will only have couple more months until i have the baby.
I dont think ill be a good mom since all my sibling wouldn't listen to anything i said , and they didn't think i was a good persons for babysitting and left my younger sister who was only 16 to baby sit my 9 year old brother and 12 year old brother as well. It wasn't fair as well and when i tried to tell them to do there jobs , they would laugh and take me seriously.
My baby father didn't really baby sat his siblings or his cousin's at all since they lived in a different state. Also the his aunt and uncle were very protective of their first born and you had to wash your hands and then use hand sanitizer as well. Then you couldn't really do anything but watch them as they swing in there seat as his grandma actually watched his cousin's.
Im honestly scared and do not want to screw up his life and then he grows up a criminal or murders and comes back to kill us or anyone else. Or i do something wrong and he gets sick and then maybe dies, which i hope doesn't happen.
Its 2 am and i cannot sleep , stupid Braxton hicks and there practice labor pain , keeping me up and mason likes to kick me at night when im trying to sleep
Most Helpful Guy
I'm a Father, Being a parent is not easy, and it is even harder when you are not established in life, i. e., continuing your education or Training so you can get a decent-paying job.
You Need to realistically assess whether you are Ready to be parents, which includes taking care of a Baby when it is hungry, sick or Needs a new diaper in the middle of the night. It requires a lot a maturity, and you will probably Need some help from your families. You also Need to think About whether he can financially support a Family, including paying child support if you do split up.
If you don't feel Ready (and it doesn't Sound like you do), you are better off putting the child up for Adoption. This is a serious decision, so take a lot of time to think it over carefully, If you already have a rocky relationship with your boyfriend, I would also advice putting the child up for Adoption because it does not get easier when the Baby arrives.
It would be emotionally difficult to give away a child that has been part of you for months, but you really Need to look thoroughly at the big Picture
Most Helpful Girl
Hey! This may be a bit harsh, I think you should read your question again and identify your fears about having a baby.
From what I understood you are not ready emotionally, so you are looking for reassurance from someone here.
Try imagining the life after the baby is born. what are you afraid of? identify your fears, can you overcome those fears?
Instead of thinking what others say think of yourself, think of what you really want.
My sister was not good a baby sitter, and I never listened to her at all. but now she have her own baby. Having a baby is totally different from babysitting. Not every guy gets early training to taking care of babies, they have to learn as they go. All you have to worry about him is if he is ready to do the commitment, spend sleepless nights, help you out with everything.
there's no safer place for a child more than his mothers arms. if you are a bad mother you won't even be this worried about his future.
TBH from what I see you are a perfect person to be a sweet great mother, but you have deep seated fears inside you about yourself because of the way how others treat you.
Think about yourself, think about your future. Think about what you really want.