Most Helpful Guys
The only real example that I can give you a girl being desperate. this one girl in high school had the hots for me likes me and she was over zealously trying to sell herself to me to convince me that she liked me and it can happen today she hasn't really changed and this conversation that she's never initiated with this one person she found everything negative wrong with him and thought he was trying to jump her bones and I told her what you wanted to hear but truthfully inside I believed that it was her deep-seated in a row she's an attraction to me trying to find everything wrong with one person just to deflect her own personal problems.
1) Ignoring clear signals of disinterest in conversation (like glasses, pulled down hat, earphones on, pretending to read something).
2) Being shotgunned with a lot of unsolicited information regarding how they are doing that is also really vague. Saying things like "oh yeah I have a lot going for me right now!" or "So much on my plate! busy busy busy!"
3) Making sure to include the mention of a clearly non-existent boyfriend in every sentence while constantly downgrading the imaginary person's status as they droll on like "Oh yeah me boy friend and I.." to "This guy I've been seeing..." to "This guy friend I have..." to "This guy I sort of know." (Big tip here: Not actually naming the supposed boyfriend even once for several mentions on is a red flag).
4) Violating personal space to an unnecessary degree. Like sitting really close (to where they may as well be in my lap despite there being plenty of room to sit elsewhere). Constant fondling of clothing and touching of the arms hands and thighs. Moving their head to awkward positions to avoid loosing eye contact for even a moment.
As for how I regard them when I see them doing better... Good for them I guess? But honestly desperate is rarely just that. It's also usually at least a little crazy (in that unstable to psychotic way) as well. I don't need to be dipping stick in crazy. Even if it is crazy-hot. Don't need a meltdown waiting to happen at the first sign of life tossing some inconvenience in my life.
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Most Helpful Girl
Coming on too strong as in wanting to hear from me too much or moving way too fast. Don’t get me wrong I need constant communication and not leaving me on seen for hours without letting me know what’s up.
The thing is, desperate doesn’t have a look it’s an action. Someone isn’t considered desperate because their staring at you, wanting to approach you. It’s desperate when you set the boundaries and the person still goes beyond them just so you can move on their pace.