Does ONLINE DATING only work for good looking people?

Does ONLINE DATING only work for good looking people?
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  • It can work for not so attractive people too, but attractive people have significantly higher chance of getting noticed.

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  • i am a solid 8 out of 10. i love online dating. i have gone out with classically unattractive men I've met on line. mind you their pics show they are well groomed, have interests and are good representations. those points are important to me. a funny guy who's profile shows wit who has a large nose and big ears and 20 extra lbs is way more attractive to me then a brad put who looks like he hasn't showered in a month and takes odd selfies with a computer camera. i will also say a guy who is too good looking is a turn off because i assume he is too cocky. this may not be true and i feel bad that i judge.

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    • You are the rare exception

    • @close2heaven i dunno. you think?

      i will also say i think it depends on the site. some are more focused on personality than looks in my opinion and others vice versa. for instance POF is all looks.

    • about 0.5% of people would value those qualities and still go forward with it.

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  • GAME WILL BEAT TYPE EVERY SINGLE TIME.

    So, OkCupid released some statistics showing that women rated 80% of men as "below average attractiveness." This means that by default, women only viewed 20% of men as average or attractive. This also means that women on dating apps perceive "above average" men as "average", by default.

    So, in that sense, attractive men have a distinct and overwhelming advantage. But only the highly attractive. Decently attractive men are disadvantaged, as well. However. That doesn't mean that average or even ugly guys do *not* stand a chance. They will have to work harder, and they will have to get their profile to stand out. Short and sweet.

    Second is actively messaging. And, it's not *that* hard to stand out when most of the messages women receive are either "hi/hello" or "pls suk my dik" or "wooooow ur so hot".

    As for women, we all know the hotter ones have a distinct advantage. But, the same concept applies here. Ugly women have it the worst, because guys don't change their minds on physical attractiveness based on personality characteristics, like women do. But, guys can still become interested in an ugly woman, based on her personality characteristic or her "game".

    But I would say that dating apps *can* absolutely work for people who aren't attractive. They just have to work harder. Same as anything. Same as people of average intelligence vs those of genius intelligence. Doesn't mean those of average intellect cannot succeed. Just means they have to work harder.

    The end result of all this is: GAME WILL BEAT TYPE EVERY SINGLE TIME.

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  • I have a number of catfish accounts. I know I'll never be able to meet the women that I talk to as it might be a bit suspicious when my face doesn't match my profile. Still, I like being able to just converse with women, something that is impossible if I use photos of myself.

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    • I guess my question would be why? Why would photos of yourself be so bad?

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    • Ah. Just a cheap salesman. Gotcha. Hope you fail in your efforts to scam vulnerable people. You're reprehensible in your actions. Fuck you for trying to do what you're doing.

    • @rodgerinho GAG knows who I am. It's all good. Thanks for the comments.

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What Girls Said 32

  • No, but you 100% stand a better chance.

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  • It sure helps! People are reduced to physical appearances with online dating. No amount of personal description will ever resolve someone's unattractive appearance. If someone does read into one, it'll be the tiniest negative thing that will stand out.

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  • Well, I've never done online dating myself, but every once on a while I take my friend's phone and start playing with her Tinder.
    While I do read the bio of hot guys before deciding if swiping right or not, I don't even think for a second before swiping left to anyone who's not way above average good looking.

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  • She (in the picture) has the prettiest beauty mark, so symmetrical.

    Being good looking helps, but even average people can find success on dating sites. Choosing a site focused more on profiles vs pictures also helps, so, tinder is out.

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  • I don't know i think so but most people aren't going to put their worst picture up either. U can literally photoshop pictures now a days but i don't see the point in anyone being in a relationship with someone if they aren't being themselves. Cuz they gonna have to meet up one day u know.

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  • in my opinion, yes.
    Tinder is only about your 5-6 photos and small bio. People swipe based off of your looks

    Same can be said for other dating websites.

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  • I don't think so. There's people that aren't shallow / don't care much about looks.

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  • Tbh I dont think it matters. you can beat hot af and meet a hot af guy whose either psycho, narcissistic, pothead, jobless, or just a creeper.

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  • yes, cause that's what people go by first before they message that person. They see a picture, if they deem the person attractive, they shoot them a message.

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  • I believe online dating is a good source for dating or meeting new people for everyone. Each of us has our own perspective on what is attractive or unattractive.

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  • No, it depends on the personality over everything else. You could end up with the hottest girl alive but if he's got the personality of a bog brush you ain't gonna last long

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  • It doesn't work for anyone, it only works to make the site owners pocket fatter.

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  • No. It would be definitely helpful to introduce yourself with your best pictures though.

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  • Seems like good looking people have both luck out and in online dating

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  • i think so since most people are looking for more attractive girls and guys

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  • It doesn't even work for them :D

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  • I only use tinder and there 100% about looks

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  • Well you can always catfish

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  • Yes and slot of guys will inbox and be thirsty

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    • Yea being good looking has boosted my game on dating apps. And I tend to spend my time talking to the ones I belive are hottest, not cuz of their emoji style or chat personality (although it helps).

  • Online dating works if you are a girl tbh

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    • That also means it works for those guys that those girls get matched with hehe.

    • Yeah im saying girls get more guys interested

  • For the most part

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  • nope

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  • Yes, it’s easier

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  • everything is better

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  • Good looking rich people

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  • Lol no they wouldn't have to do online dating with they were so good looking. My aunt met her new husband on a dating site and there both extremely over weight and in their 50s. Most people I know who use dating sites are middle aged single mothers and divorcies

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    • I’m not a middle aged guy and I have never been married and I try on dating sites because I am too shy in person

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    • @warrior0345 same here on guys I know how you feel so I can't really give you anymore advice unfortunately

    • Well I wanted to thank you and you seem like a nice girl I really hope that you find a good guy

  • No but i guess it is a little easier. But online dating doesn't work for everyone. For example I've been told i am quite attractive but i don't like online dating or dating apps

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  • Online dating works for no one

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  • "Left swipe" and "right swipe" aren't based on personality... Just sayin

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  • I met a guy I thought was ugly on tinder and when we spoke he had a country accent which made me go “ughhh wtf am I doing?” and I would look at his better looking pics to feel good about showing him my tits and eventually he became beautiful to me and I realized I was being a shallow motherfuker and yeah, so it’s like they do but they don’t because you can think someone is not attractive but still give them a chance!

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  • It depends on whether you are online dating for hookups or for a real relationship.

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  • I think an attractive person doesn't need to date online unless they want to meet someone far away. By that I certainly do not mean that everyone dating online is unattractive, just that an attractive person won't be overlooked.

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    • Well other factors. Good looking people can be shy just like average looking people. And good looking people can be workaholics and working 80 hours a week or like that where they barely have any time for themselves let alone socialize, thus using online dating. But I believed it can be tough for good looking people too other than hot women. There was a report that showed that more than 70 % if women use online dating for ego stroke, window shop and boredom whereas guys issue it to date or sex. So many use with the intention that they never plan to meet a dude no matter who he is. But will match and converse with some guys

  • Mostly.

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  • Define "work" Do you mean matching with people? Do you mean meeting them offline? Do you mean the site somehow helping one to find an ideal mate? There are multiple levels here at which it could be perfectly functional. As well as plenty of places where it can fall apart. Not all of that either way necessarily has to do with the venue either.

    Say a person who considers themselves to be fairly unattractive matches with someone on a site. But they don't reach out to that person in disbelief that they actually matched with them or out of fear of rejection or even out of simply not knowing how to make a good start of it.

    Is that the site not working for them or is that their failing? And do you think they are going to put it on themselves or put it on the site?

    Say even then the person they match with reaches out to them instead. But they have some sort of weird deal breaker. So they never go to meet that person. Did the site not work out for them?

    Ultimately it's just a tool. Such sites are not designed to hold ones hand through building a relationship (for the most part). They are definitely not designed to fix what may be broken about people character wise.

    ... You don't blame the hammer for missing the nail.

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  • It is one THOUSAND percent about looks. Make zero mistake here, any woman who REALLY commits to those websites and apps is a bundled up pedantic maniac trying (succeeding) in turning guys into a commodity she can shop for. Women and shopping. . . . you just become like a pair of shoes to her. She wants them all, and it's judgment entirely on looks and job.

    The only ones worth a damn are on the website/app for a maximum of a couple months, and they'll only talk to 1 guy at a time so if you're messaging you probably just missed the boat. I've had fun with women through that medium, but trust me, there is an entire GENERATION of whacked out unrealistic skanks being created by that shit, they're only adding to the percentage of women who are single. In the US currently, 45% of the population are single. That's not typically 16-25 year olds, it's over 40s, I can't confirm exactly but I remember reading that something like 60% of women over 40 are single. It's definitely 45% of the pop that are single. Fkn scary stuff, and it's down to unrealistic, scatterbrain bullshit behaviour, every woman thinking some young stud doctor with a perfect smile and sense of humour who's dominant but does as he's told is just going to blaze in and sweep her chunky ass off her feet. Heck maybe women in good shape are worse online.

    Use online dating to remind yourself that meeting and talking to someone in person is infinitely better. It's the only benefit to online dating for a guy. And if you put up a picture of yourself topless and you're in good shape? Yeah you're going to see a lot of breasts and ass, the women who are interested go deep fast, they're literally throwing T&A like confetti. Not condoning catfishing for guys who aren't in great shape. . . . but there are idiots with nice bodies who are a pain in the ass to talk to. And unrealistic women are literally doomed. Do what you will with that information.

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    • Really? 45-60% damn... now i don't feel so bad as a single make if it's like that for women.

    • Check it on google bud, 45% of America is single. And I'm 99% certain 60% of 40+ women are hoarding cats and eating ice cream every night. It's a shit situation. You're young though, I guarantee young people aren't as single as older. And if you have problems hooking up, just go travelling, you'll find people who travel are open to a lot more. And foreign girls are great, there's plenty of gorgeous, caring girls from more traditional cultures and countries.

  • Yes, that's why you need to semi catfish the fuck out of your pics.
    Take them in good lighting, good poses, etc.
    Make them damn near professional quality.

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  • mostly yes, it dif for girls as they sit back & get lots guys a day bug them,
    i have been single 2 years & ready again so started try month now,
    i know i ugly lol, but still not hard for people to be nice as expect from others, most i have message don't read just ignore while rest del message,
    only thing can see is pic if not opened so yes it still more work for good looking

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  • statistics show that YES, you being good looking definitely matters. somewhere in the range of 80% of girls go for the top 10% of guys in terms of sexual dimorphism. if you're not in the 10%, good luck. and even guys in the top 10% still have a hard time.

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  • I believe so, most of my life I’ve thought I was “decent” looking at best based off people telling me but when it comes online dating?

    It’s almost a dead zone 🤣.

    I think if you’re just really good looking like model status, that’s your biggest chance to meet anyone. Or be a girl 😂

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  • Yes, but that's also true of dating in general, not just online.

    I mean sure, everybody's got that one example, one short guy they know who's married, or a fat lady, or this one really ugly couple who love each other, people can always put forth one anecdote like that, but it's the exception that proves the rule. Pretty much 90% of ugly people are forever alone.

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  • I'm certainly not good looking, but I managed to get a match recently. And not just an impulsive match as I'm used to, where I message and then get ignored or unmatched, but an intentional match. She even told me what it was about my profile that made her decide to match with me.
    We get along REALLY well, exchanged numbers and even have a date planned out. So far, so good. But the definite answer will have to wait until after the date in almost a week from now.

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  • The premise of it would suggest so.

    The first thing you see on most of them are someone’s pictures. The most often thing you do is flick through their pictures and then decide whether you read their profile or not.

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  • I've met /dated a couple of people online in the last 6 months. I'm certainly no oil painting. Its all a numbers game. You have to find a way to differentiate yourself. A sense of humour goes a long way

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  • in my opinion it doesn't work for anyone. The vast majority of women on them are simply looking for validation and attention, zero interest in actually meeting up with anyone or dating. The vast majority of the guys are looking for a hook-up.
    From what I've seen, the people on these sites are the rejects - the people that can't form meaningful relationships with people they come into contact in their life.
    But oh well, good luck with it.

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  • In the world of "selfie culture" when all people do is swipe left on the ugly people and swipe right on the hotties, I'd say it's probably 5000x easier if you are good looking.

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  • Like regular dating they probably have an easier time finding partners but I wouldn't say it works exclusively for attractive people because I know some... interesting looking people who have found partners through online dating.

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  • Of course it helps if u r good looking. U would get more responses and mutual likes. But the problem with dating sites is that most people there appear inferior or different in person. Interactions in actual life is far better, but then not everyone gets the opportunity.

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  • Eh... people tell me I'm attractive, but I don't get responses or anything on dating sites. It takes a certain finesse that I don't have to initiate conversation online. I do slightly better in person though.

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  • I created a catfish account with pics of a handsome guy.
    It was night and day from my pics.

    Almost all the pretty girls where responding. A lot would say "hi" first.

    While on my real account I had a super hard time getting 1 pretty girl to respond out of hundreds.

    And they say men are only care about physical appearance.

    Makes me give up on women.

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  • Well... unfortunately your poll options don't allow us to correctly answer-- online dating only works for good-looking *guys.* It works fine for almost all girls, good-looking or not. Homely and/or fat and unattractive girls still get some messages and some attention in online dating.

    Homely and/or fat and unattractive *guys* do not. That's the real answer here. Can't vote, sorry.

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  • For woman for the most part it's true but for men it's hard regardless you are a looker or not but I did find my girlfriend online. Woman become extremely picky on dating sites so patience is the key and don't let low matches or no replies bother you.

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  • Now my question is what would girls like for a guy to put in his bio because someone's true personality isn't a short list, you really need to get to know someone to decide if you like him or not so what is the main topics a girl would like for a guy to put in his bio?

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  • Everhtime I get killed I have to waste 30 deco ds on one of these stupid ads, either for online casinos or "sexy" you women, they always use good looking modules, but, if a chick's hot she's already got a boyfriend, only munters go looking for live on line.

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  • In my opinion. I think it works for everybody. I mean if you're looking for something more than just dating? I mean it works both ways. It doesn't matter how the person looks on the outside as long as you got frame of mind and a good heart you should be good. That's all that matters.

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  • I wouldn't say that but online dating tends to be highly shallow hence why platforms like tinder focus on the picture as if anything else is irrelevant
    So attractive people garner most of the attention there

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  • I’d say yes, I’m a guy who it never works out for. Every girl I’ve liked has always rejected me. After 10 years of consistent rejection I tried out online dating. Never got a message or reply. Only when I changed my picture I had messages coming in. So they answer to your question is yes

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  • It only works for good looking guys. Despite what women say, they are more picky about looks than men and that's backed up by online dating statistics. The only way to be more attractive to women as an average to less than average looking guy is to have status. You have to be highly valuable to society compared to other men. But online dating usually favors attractive people since most just see their image and not their profile.

    You also have the scammers on online dating trying to scam desperate men. And then you also have shady dating websites that match you with very attractive girls that are fake accounts just to keep you interested and perhaps get you to drop some cash.

    I'm actually a relatively attractive guy and have matched with some attractive women, but in the end it's just girls looking for hookups or they are too far away for an actual relationship.

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  • I'm ugly I met my wife online, though she is good looking to me a lot of men might not think so. Been together 18 years married 16

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  • I look like a foot, and I had pretty good luck, I guess. 😂

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  • I don't think it works for anyone lol. You hear "success stories", but I've never known anyone that has ever had any luck on them lol I know I haven't.

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