Now, I'm 24, have a great job and doing a masters program in addiction studies on top of that, I volunteer 2x a week, go to church every Sunday, and am an amateur boxer (I'll admit, I'm bad lol, but I'm in killer shape from that and years of wrestling/Crossfit). I even picked up hobbies like the saxophone, graffiti-drawing, going to museums, anything outdoors, reading about social justice issues, etc. At my 5-year reunion, I was constantly getting approached about how "different" I seemed. And I have a lot more friends now.
BUT - I still have not been able to let go of my past. I've never had than 3 dates with the same girl, even when I've really wanted to. I see someone who I think is attractive, and I keep my head down and walk away really fast because I'm too scared to approach her. My friends, even those who are girls, say things like "she was totally checking you out" and I would automatically assume they'd be kidding. Most of my guy friends are out living life, while I'm keeping to myself and feeling sorry even when I probably don't need to.
I don't know if a lot of guys went through similar things; I take VERY careful inventory of things like mental health, etc, so I feel like I'm closer to being ready to date again. I want to move on with my life and be happy/free from all of this emotional baggage.
Can anyone who's had experience with this, or know of guys who have, give some tips on how to get my feet wet in the dating game?