That’s true. I guess I just get confused. Like even tho we aren’t in a committed relationship I feel as tho I must be doing something wrong if he is getting jealous
So why does it matter if he doesn’t care tho?
Like what makes a girl HIS territory anyway?
^heh... exactly...^ I didn't say that he doesn't care, just that jealousy isn't a sign of love.
Im not so foolish as to think that jealousy is a sign of love. I just want to know I guess that does jealousy ever lead to advancement in a relationship?
No, not that I've ever seen. The source of the jealousy isn't emotional maturity. You need to be willing to sacrifice control in order to build intimacy.
He doesn’t depress hi jealousy to me. He only barely has once and the other times I found out from our friends. So you’re saying there isn’t a chance because he is immature?
He's not expressing it to you, because he doesn't want to come across needy or desperate. He isn't comfortable expressing how he's feeling. I would say that the only chance this connection has at becoming something more, is if you do something to reassure him that you are only interested in him.
Thats interesting because everyone else keeps telling me to drop it or just keep doing whatever I want. What should I do to reassure him. I’ve told him before that he’s the only one I’m interested in but he doesn’t seem to believe me.
For starters, you will need to accept a dominant role in the relationship. But you'll need to do things like stay by his side constantly at parties, get flirty at unexpected times (like putting your hand on his thigh during your friendgroup's movie night).
What if those things turn him off? Am I supposed to just follow him around if he’s ignoring me?
well no... not if he's getting weird about it...
Well shoot... should I worry about texting him first? But I feel like if I out too much effort in then he won’t put any cause he knows I’ll do all the heavy lifting
Texting first is fine. Just use basic common sense. Like don't hit him up at 3am every night for a month straight. But a sweet little "good morning" text and an invitation to get breakfast would charm any man.
I guess it couldn’t hurt to try. I’m just scared of coming out oooking like a fool
If you weren't scared, that would mean that something was wrong. Stake your claim; show that boy you can't take your mind off him!
I just don’t really know how to start... for some reason he only responds and only messages me in Snapchat and never texts even though it would be literally the same... And he’s an American football coach and it’s the middle of the season for him.
Oh... The only people I know who only message through SnapChat are people who don’t want records of their communication with someone. I was talking with a very taken girl who absolutely insisted on only talking through Snap. If the little emoji by our chat turned to a yellow heart, she would cut off contact for a few days to avoid suspicion from her man.
The fact he’s a football coach means he’s super busy, but the SnapChat only thing concerns me way more.
Ya me too... I get that he busy and part of me wants to give him the benefit of the doubt and see what changes after the season is over. But like you said the Snapchat only thing is concerning
Well, best of luck. I hope it works out okay for you
So I ended up texting him last night. Not snap chatting and he actually answered. We talked for a bit but I’m guessing he either fell asleep or just stopped responding. But I told him I missed him and he didn’t believe me. He just kept saying “no you don’t”.
So why would it matter if he doesn’t care?
Ego, bravado, saving face
So a guy just imprints on a girl and she’s supposed to just only give him attention even if he doesn’t actually care about her?
i didn't say that. You do as you want. Me and my gal talk to others with them all the time. But there is a lot of trust there.
Ya I guess there would be
When I do feel funny about it , it is because I wonder what I am missing out on that she is saying. I hate to miss things she says.
Thats why I don’t understand how anyone can be fulfilled in open relationships. It couldn’t work “painlessly” unless there is no emotional bond. And if there isn’t any then that would be very unfulfilling
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It’s 50/50 I guess.
Wow that is so helpful
I guess the difference is whether he’s only talking to you, or if he’s also talking to other girls
I mean I know he doesn’t go out with other girls but i couldn’t tell you if he’s been talking to them or not