Why do men feel they need to protect their girl?

Why do some guys get jealous if a girl hugs or talks another guy? Why do they get mad if a guy comments on her body? I’ve always been curious like she’s yours but you act like she isn’t. Also, how do men feel knowing that they are the only ones who’s slept with them?

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  • Protect isn't what you are describing. Protect is to keep you safe from danger and to get between you and something that would hurt you.

    A guy not liking his girl getting touchy, feely with other guys is just a boundary issue within a relationship. People have to respect each others boundaries with the opposite sex or they've got to get with partners that have the same type of boundaries.

    That has nothing to do with "protect".

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  • I don't get mad if she hugs/talks to another guy or if a guy comments at her body or beauty. I'm not possessive. I woman is not an object or possession. She is my equal, my best friend, partner, my counterpart both physically and emotionally, and my lover.

    There is nothing wrong however with a guy being protective of the woman he loves. Good guys throughout time have been this way. Its natural and the order in which human's should act toward one another. Only in the last 20 years or so has it become increasingly wrong somehow to have a man protect his woman or open the door for her due to twisted ideas, women's lib, and people who try to destroy natural and traditional gender specific roles.

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  • Isn't it natural to protect the things you hold dear? Its like saying why a mother or father protects their child. A man protects the woman he loves or cares for because he doesn t want someone or something to hurt them. A girl should dobthe same for her man, if I see a girl watching her man get attack by who knows what and not doing something, she is a piece of shit. Well, unless he can't, like she has a broken leg or some shit. Humans animals, etc, all protect their friends and family or mates. Men especially cause they know some dudes out there are pigs and are willing to throw hands. I've thrown hands for my male friends, cousins (I have no brothers) and such. Its human instinct. As for what you said, that sounds more like possessiveness or jealousy.

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    • SIDE NOTE: of he doesn't have these instincts, it could be he has been hurt in the past or his parents didn't raise him right. Sane goes for women. There are too many assholes in the world for you to let the ones you hold dear get hurt.

  • Something that likely gives them some kind of genuine purpose to show affection/care for you as well, another considerate and admirable action. Even the purpose of feeling to be needed as well, (which is not bad). Some may respect and appreciate that person to an extent they don’t want certain things to really hurt them that they feel could be worrisome. He likely tries to keep you happy and probably would be concerned when you aren’t. If they feel something maybe off, sometimes they’ll sense it and kind of be like your shield/knight. This can pretty much be your parent (s), friends, and/or even your potential crush or BF/GF. I have some people i know do the same although sometimes i’m a bit shy about it, but i thank and let them know i appreciate them for stepping in themselves to be there for me, or even thinking of me. I’d likely want to try and what i can for them appropriately. : )

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    • I can understand self defense regards in protection as well, but not starting physical fights... cause guess what happens when a cop shows up? They don’t really ask who’s at fault, they’ll likely see you both at fault, who was involved, and you’ll likely be taken in.. just something to keep in mind...

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  • I guess we're biologically programmed for it.

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    • Bullshit. Guys should drop all this chivalry crap. Girls are complete trash just like guys are. They don't need to be treated differently.

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    • I say if anyone sleep around they a hoe and are risking std's. Would not be someone i would date.

    • You trying to defend thots and distory women. Stop that you need to tell the thots to be gone.

  • biologically we're built to find a mate and to protect her and our offspring so that plays a part in it. but its also things like overthinking, insecurities, etc

    by the way lets reverse this question, are u okay w your man hugging or talking w another girl? most likely not lol

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  • 1. Some, quite a lot, really, haven't figured out that just because she talks or is slightly physical (hugs, friendly kissing) with another guy doesn't mean she's chasing him and that girls need male friends, too!
    2. They're afraid the new guy is going to steal her away from him.
    3. It's not that he acts like she isn't already his, he's just trying to see to it she stays his. I was dating and/or living with a girl for 10 years. I trusted her implicitly! I don't have jealous bone in my body! She had a few male friends, just as I have a few female friends, but I was never threatened by them possibly taking her away from me. But, eventually, that's exactly what happened! One of her male FRIENDS had suddenly become her fiancé!! I didn't find out until she'd already been seeing him for at least a year!!
    3. I guess that'd be a really nice plus!! I can't speak from experience because I've never been lucky enough to have a girl that's ONLY slept with me! All 3 of them had other boyfriends and husbands before me!

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  • I dont understand the question. Being protective over females, exspecially females we have a bond with, is a very deep rooted instinct.
    When some unknown guy talks with one of my close female friends, ill be like
    "WHO was that?".
    "Joe, huh? Pff, i dont like him".

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  • For trivial things like that, I dont. For real problems like she's being harassed or attacked, I definitely would. The women I interact with are grown up enough to be able to make their own choices so they can do what they like. Just if they cross the line its their decision, and I'm out.
    I'm not about to babysit a grown woman all day checking if she's being faithful, got other more fun things to do with my time.

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  • Those are values of a real Man, it is very normal for a Man to get jealous if someone tries to touch or hurt or kiss or flirt his Woman that means he really cares about her, you can notice the same reaction also if you tried to do something bad to a Man favorite thing like (Car, Bike, Guitar, etc), Actually it will consider as a problem if a guy does the opposite.

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  • For protection, it is in our blood we are the providers and the protectors, that's why femininity is soft and delicate.
    As for your description, that's Jealousy, and it is normal for both genders not to like sharing with others even if it was some friendly act as kissing someone else's cheeks or a hug.

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  • Because she’s mine and I know what guys are trying to do. My girl can handle her own and verbally casterate a guy who doesn’t respect our relationship, but I’m always in the back ready to rip a dudes fucking head off if that guy pushes her to a point in which she feels uncomfortable.

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    • Don’t do that but I feel you

    • @Aitch My girl gets hit on a lot and it honestly doesn't bother me because I trust her at this point, but every now and then you get a guy who just doesn't get the hint and that's when you as a guy have to step in.

    • I wonder why some women can’t make it obvious that they have a boyfriend and leave it actually to the men to state the bottom line. I feel like some just have the urge to satisfy their ego or they just wanna praise themselves to their partner like, “hey look, your girlfriend is so pretty, she is being hit on.”

      by the way I had the same problem with my previous relationship and had similar thoughts as yours. I find it wrong if she shares this stuff with you. You are not the responsible one. She should rather tell her family or friends if she has something disturbing going on. Because one day you beat the “hitter” next time you gonna be the one beaten up.

  • because it is in our nature, some aren't like that and would happily leave their girlfriend to it or any woman for that matter but i believe that if you can keep anyone safe from harm then you doing a good job as a person

    however as far as jealousy goes that is another thing entirely and purely depends on the people involved...

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  • I understand your situation. I would say it's the MACHO biologically DNA just like lions have. BUT!!! Why do girls feel they need to protect their guy? When he is hugging other girls and they comment/complements his body?

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  • Why do some guys get jealous if a girl hugs or talks another guy?
    Not me (i do it too LOL)
    Why do they get mad if a guy comments on her body?
    I don't.
    Also, how do men feel knowing that they are the only ones who’s slept with them?
    Like cool i guess

    Why do men feel they need to protect their girl?
    No one hurts my girl. Noone

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  • I tell every girl that you're grown and you have the right to defend yourself. After you tell somebody something and they don't oblige then I will step in and make them oblige. Unless you want otherwise. Girls and guys have met people and will meet people with, during and after being with whoever there with, and nothing can be done about that.

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  • I've never cared about that, no point being with a girl you don't trust. But I am wary of some guy friends because women always have a guy friend they run to as a back up, even if it's just sex when you break up.

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  • It's our primal instinct. For thousands of years we were wired to eat and fuck and make more of us without another man doing the same thing with our women. Now that we have evolved into a more civilized society, most men secure their relationships in other ways. However, some of us still have that, this women mine and I'll do stupid things to make sure you don't get her, instinct. Make sense?

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  • Because a boy knows well that today its just a friendly hug, tomorrow it will be kissing and then dating and slowly she will be interested in that friendly guy more than her boyfriend.
    Thats his natural instincts.
    Men will always protect his girl.
    No matter how badass a girl thinks of herself, she will always need an man to physically protect her.

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  • We act like she's so flighty that she'll change her mind about being ours at the drop of a hat. Because experience tells us she will. Women are way more likely than men to leave their SO for someone they met and now prefer (from what I've seen anecdotally, don't have any hard stats on that).

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  • Guys get jealous if another man compliments his girl because that man wants to steal her. Imagine as a woman another woman is trying to blatantly steal your man; would you be ok with that? The bottom line is that in todays society women leave men more than men leave women. So yea a man is not gonna give you a reason to leave him by allowing others to woo you. Lol

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  • It wouldn't bother me much. I ran into this problem with my my ex-wife. A girl at work really liked me, but it was never going anywhere. The girl told me that herself. She was a flirt, and enjoyed teasing me. My wife and I went on vacation. When we got back we went to my workplace. When the girl saw me she literally jumped into my arms. Ok. I can see why wifey might be upset. But we were just friends.

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  • Jealousy and protection from both sides is a beautiful thing

    The girl is her guy's, but he should be hers too
    He can't prevent her from talking to other guys while he normally talks to other girls
    It should be fair ya know

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  • I'm always wanting to be a stronger person towards the girl I do love. Dominating in love. Yeah this is contrast to what I've said before - being submissive. Things changed. Protecting her at all costs. I'm a keeper. LOL

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  • Why do they think they need to protect their children?

    People protect each other... including women. Ever seen a woman protect a man? Watch out!

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  • Were protective of girl we love. That's why we don't want
    see her with another guy. No I'm not a jealous kind and
    never intend to be one. No girl who truly loves her boyfriend
    would accept passes that another Man makes on her body
    it makes no difference to me whether the girl is a virgin or
    non-virgin that is her business. If i slept with a girl whose a
    the only she slept with well it happens than that would be
    part of life.

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    • I'm dating a girl named Jane and Paul says to her
      wow you got a great body. I would say to her why
      didn't you tell Paul that pass he made was uncalled for
      if she refused than i know deep down our love is not
      for real or our relationship is not for real there is something
      that is not right going on.

    • This was just example below

  • Because many men have insecurities and see women as property sure in some cases it's not that bad and some women enjoy said attention so it turns the relationship toxic
    As to the second part my girls had other partners before me so not somthing I care about

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  • If she acts like she isn't mine, by hugging, kissing and getting intimate with other guys, without a second's hesitation or any consideration for my feelings, then why should I, as a man, treat her like she is? Without that bond, that sense of exclusivity, protectiveness and possessiveness, what are you to him? A person who, sexually speaking, isn't his private property, HIS girl, but public property instead; namely, a whore. So? Which would you rather be treated as, by your man? His special girl, or a public utility slut?

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    • Why does she have to be his, she can belong to herself, you know, that is an option too. She belongs to herself, therefore, she is herself's, but in a relationship.

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    • Also if you have the audacity to view any girl as a sexual object and not a person, YOU are the problem. Even if she likes to sleep around. If you view a woman that way, it means there’s a problem with YOUR level of respect. Not hers.

    • @mark1290 Where did I say anything about treating people like objects? What I said was that I would view her as a person. Just like any other random faceless, nameless individual on this planet. No attachment, no affection, no respect earned or given. None of my business what she does or doesn't do; none of her business what I do or don't do. My views are my own; her views are her own. My life is my own; her life is her own. If we're not allowed to feel the need to help or to protect someone, then we're essentially being prohibited from possessing empathy. And if she explicitly states that she has an issue with you having any empathy for her, you have no choice but to respect her wishes, and stop showing her that common courtesy, instead treating her as she's demanded to be treated, and severing all emotional ties with her. Sure, you can still be casual acquaintances with benefits. But that's it.

  • Ever seen a dog mark it's territory? It's like that. No he doesn't own her just like she doesn't own him but you get angry when a woman flirts with him don't ya? It's no different.

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  • It's not that we dint trust you, but we know how and what guys think. They is an unwritten rule that you dont cross as a Male. That is you respect another guys girl and leave her alone. It a guy is commenting about your body it's not his place. It's your guys place to make you feel special. Now if your guy isn't doing that and you have to look to others for it then your guy has a problem

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    • Have a question : My boyfriend's friends when we meet them , they tend to never eye contact me ever , nor shaking hands, etc. the other day I said to one in front of my boyfriend ' hey , helloooo I am here' and the friend said ' oh sorry its just haha your boyfriend will not like that , haha I am scared of him '
      ? Wtheck with this?

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    • I am happy you found someone that loves it you

    • Thank you :)))))))) he is great , he values me which never happened before in my life.

  • Because they're afraid the other guy is trying to hit on her in a weird way, and they're (some at least) protective because they love her, and feel they need to be there for her.
    Not all guys and probably not most.
    Some also have trust issues, and traumas and are overprotective...

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  • because she's my girl? i would literally kill the guy if he hugs my girl or comments on her body, and i would feel really too happy that she has slept with only me

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  • LOL why do women get mad when another women is hugging or talking to flirting with their man... Has nothing to do with Physically protecting someone from danger or physical Harm... They are protecting themselves but being hurt or left.

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  • Because men understand men, we know what other men are after and some men even lose sight that women are people and as a result see them as objects. Likewise, real men wish to protect their women from men like that.

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  • I desire to have a man feel protective of me like this.

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  • Biologically men have it inside to protect. Women do it too. Just in a different way. The only issue comes in if they are doing it because they are being possessive. If you hug a guy friend and they get upset it's because they are not trusting you the way they should. It's ok for a guy to get upset if another guy is hitting on you knowing you are with him because its disrespectful. But if the guy doesn't know your relationship status they should trust you to handle it. It's the same with women.

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  • Yeah they do but I'm equally protective of my man if protective is the new word of jealous lol. If not even more jealous. Cuz he's ok if I hug a guy but I feel I'm walking on needles when I know he hugs girls.

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  • flip this around and ask it from the other point of view. why do women do the same or simlar things? we're all human, it's just harder to pick apart yourself because you don't want to be what you're accusing others of. it's not just this, but everything else that happens between men, women, like sexes, any activities. these things are healthy, I think, unless it goes too far. we're all human, we all act the same ways, denial is just a very easy way out.

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  • Cuz they know how other men think, some messed up thoughts in there I tell you.

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    • please someone... anyone.. elaborate? Like rape and stuff? What kind of thoughts

    • @Miss_missy77 doesn't have to be rape, i meant sexually they fantasize, therefore your man will get protective and jealous which is, natural.

  • I’m prorective of those I care for. i think this is a common trait amongst humans that are not sociopaths.

    Possessiveness is not protective it’s harmful.

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  • I’m kind of confused what men can protect me from? The biggest physical danger to women are their intimate partner.

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  • What is that question... why do YOU get jealous if your boyfriend hugs or touches another girl?
    You think possessiveness and "protectiveness" is reserved exclusively to men?

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  • Evolutionary instincts for one, but probably much more so the social expectations of their environment they've grown up in.

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  • Your initial question is different from what you said underneath. Men that are protective are amazing.

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  • Because if he loves me he would not want to see me with other men. I'm the same. I would not want my Boyfriend to be with someone else

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  • I think it's just an instinct from all those centuries of women being seen as beings who need protection.

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  • It's one's instinct to be protective of the person they love. I don't think this applies strictly to men as I am guilty of the same thing.

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  • Insecurities and they know how vicious other guys can be

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  • It’s programmed in brain, but not only men, all male animals too

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  • Men protect their loved ones
    Whoever they might be family , friends etc

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  • Because they think that we are weak lol

    Which they are wrong about

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  • Im had sex with 1 guy before my actual boyfriend. He doesn't mind and he didn't call me bad names even when we fight. We get jealous too. And since im a 4"11 midget he is protective because I look fragile because Im quite a small person. The thing is. You protect people you love and care about. And depending on your age and your relationship , there are many things that can happen in a good or bad way. Everyone is jealous even the tiny bit , but its a diffrence between the healthy version and that obsessive jealousy that can lead to suicide or abusive relationships.

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  • biological instincts i believe

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  • Men don't feel they need to protect their girl. That's nonsense

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  • Some girls do it too. It's natural to be a bit protective of somethibg you don't want to lose

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  • Biology ❤

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  • I do not need a guy to protect me

    Not a bimbo

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  • because they see other guys as a threat

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  • They don't.

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  • It’s a man’s instinct to protect his loved ones

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  • cuz penis

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  • Well, all men are pimp

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  • Women make them feel in this way

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  • Instinct

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