For those of you who've been pursued by two people at once, is it a letdown when you have to choose one?


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  • Currently there now.
    Yes, especially when they both have the same personality.
    ANd are BFFs...
    And they started suspecting me and fighting each other
    It all happened so fast!!

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  • My experience from this is from first grade. Three boys wanted to woo me, so they started giving me loads of gifts throughout the school year to be the best out of the three. In the end I didn't choose any of them, because I didn't understand boys at that age and they were more annoying than sweet.

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  • this is something I can't comment on, I can't remember being pursued by two males/people at the same time, I have chosen other men in our threesomes and in my teens I was in a relationship with an older man and I was with him most of the time, chased by one lad when I was 19, he was awful that's my younger days , except two boys (brothers much earlier,

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  • I would imagine it'a a relief.

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  • I have been in quite a few situations like this dating back to middle school and most recently almost a year ago but yeah, it really isn't so great in the end, cause if I like both of them then it's so hard to choose one of them, it's even harder to break the heart of the other one and I just don't like doing that...

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  • How you phrased that question says a lot about you.

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    • Your tone sounds negative, but I don't know what you mean.

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    • I like them both, but I also enjoy the thrill of being chased.

    • Understandable everyone likes to be desired i get that (even guys). Just remember guys have feelings to. Sorry if i take this personal. i pursued a woman for the last year by her own admission she's really self conscious. She likes me, but she has no interest in me. She would never come out and say that because she enjoyed the feeling my pursuit of her gave her. It wasn't a nice thing to do.

  • I was currently in that situation, I told the girl to move on. Its a big relief that she chose, its just playing games. So I saved her the hassle.

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  • I never had, but the universe has a stupid deal with me that whenever I start to a new relationship, always giving me a chance with the last girl I wanted before..

    It happened three times, even in the same month.

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  • Just don't choose and hide away from any social interactions, works out if you want to be alone 😂😂

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  • It's a heartbreaking situation, and so, so unavoidable. I'd just tell the other girl that Sorry I have no choice and wait to see her reaction. Hahaha *evil laughing*

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  • YES.
    Actually I had three girls freshman year in high school. I thought all three of them liked me, so I felt bad when I had to choose one, than it turned out neither of them liked me.

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  • Depends on your feelings if you have much stronger feelings for the one you chose, you might brush it off - If they are close in feelings , there may be a bit of comparing and contrasting plus (what ifs)

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  • It is stressful. How wants to break a heart? But if I have two people Pursuing me and I am at the point I have to choose it’s because either would be my choice. If only I could get them to share 😊

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  • I don't really care tbh. I reject them in a way as polite as possible. No regrets.

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  • Nope. Cause usually one of them disqualifies themselves.. well at least that’s what happened in my case

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    • Lol I always do that to myself. Give them ultimatums and shit, while the other dude does nothing but exist. And I always wind up alone, but eh better to be alone than with some fickle whore.

    • Haha yeah, all you got to do is chill. They will eliminate themselves sooner rather than later. That’s what I’ve learned.. so you don’t have to stress or be hurt in the end

  • Well, you sort of wonder if you made the right choice or not. But a bit of a, "well, we'll see how it plays out now", feeling sets in.

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  • Why do you have to make a choice? Many women and men are pursued by numerous other men and women. Make your choice only when you want to stick to a single individual.

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  • Well actually I’m pursing multiple girls because they are all fun and I like having them as friends but I also want one of them as a girlfriend 🙈I know I need to stop

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  • I couldn’t see how. If you like both don’t get so serious so you don’t have to choose. If you want to choose seems like it would take the pressure off. Be honest with everybody though

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  • I don't know... But I think it varies with every case

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  • It's really hard knowing that no matter what you will hurt someone

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  • It probably wouldn't be because I can always pick the better one usually

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  • I wish I had your problems 😂😜

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  • why choose, go with both. much more fun. more of a challenge though to keep them apart and from knowing about each other

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  • usually they find out and you are left with none

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  • No, for reasons I will explain later.

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    • Thank you.

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    • I truly wish you happiness and peace, queen of cups.

      Make a choice, consider yourself blessed to *have* a choice, and don't look back.

    • Thank you so much

  • I tend to choose neither because no one that ever pursues me is my type

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  • Expectations lead to letdowns so expect nothing be thankful for everything and grateful always

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  • Not if you really have more in comn. with 1 than the other

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  • yep, all the time

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  • A letdown and a relief.

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  • Being pursued by one is a bit overwhelming for me

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  • This only ever happens at asiandate. com.

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  • no... it's actually a refining moment. You get to see how you really think AND in the aftermath... if your decision processing has gotten better

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  • yup... coz i always regret i dint pick the other one.. and he has been taken already

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  • No but my advice is if you can't really pick and it's that hard then you probably just like the attention not really what they are like bc come on.

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  • Currently two guys are behind me.
    I am between them, not determined whaT to do

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  • Yes lol

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  • I rejected triple at once..

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  • Wish I was being pursued by one
    xx
    ~ Mrs Manson

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  • Interesting question, I’d say yes and no :)

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  • Yeah

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