Accidentally (and I swear it was an accident, I do not snoop, I have, well HAD, 100% trust in him) opened a message only to find that he's been sending/recieved nudes.
He just got home, and I am now at work, and my heart is fucking broken.
When would an appropriate time be to tell him I know what he's been doing?
I understand that I invaded his privacy, but does that diminish the fact that he's cheating on me?
All he had to say was "I don't remember when I would have done that" and that's literally it.
I cracked and bawled my eyes out, and he didn't even have the guts to apologize. I do not know where we go from here.
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Snooping is bad and you shouldn't do it because it's an invasion of privacy, but I'd say that cheating is a lot worse. So those who say "two wrongs don't make a right" as if snooping is anywhere near as bad are idiots.
If you find out he/she was cheating this way, do these people expect you not to say anything? To carry on a false relationship? Ridiculous.
If you snooped and found nothing, then I'd say that you're more in the wrong because there was likely no reason for you to snoop, and they've done nothing wrong so you invaded their privacy for nothing. But even if the snooping was intentional, and you find something - there was a reason you were snooping and you were proven to be correct, at which point they don't really have a leg to stand on in my opinion.
Where to go from here - he's proven to you that he's a lying, disloyal piece of shit, and also has no remorse since he hasn't even apologised. Why continue with such an asshole?
What kind of phone requires that you read messages to put it on mute? You both did something wrong, and two wrings do not cancel each other out.
The appropriate time is the very next time that you see him. Tell him right before you say, "I don't ever want to see you again." And then you need to think about what went wrong and how you can change your behavior to be a better girlfriend.
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