What are your top 5 dating deal-breakers?

1) Poor hygiene
2) Lying
3) Talking to ex's
4) Is already in a relationship/married
5) Having STDs

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  • 1. Smoking/drugs/STD
    2. Comparing me to your ex or other
    guys
    3. Lying/cheating/racist
    4. Poor hygiene personal/clean your
    apt. I'm a guy that has great
    hygiene and my apt is clean
    5. Gold Diggers

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  • 1) Unshaved pussy. I need it clean and without hair.
    2) Poor conversational ability. Too many women that lack a personality.
    3) Someone who keeps talking about their exes or their male friends.. I don't give a fuck if he is your platonic one that's like a brother to you.. I don't need to hear that krap. It's a turn off to hear a woman talk about another guy that's not her biological father or brother (those are the only 2 guys I don't mind her talking about; actually if she talks nice about them, that means she respects men).
    4) Expecting not to pay for her own share if we travel together
    5) Not wanting to take birth control pills and and top of that insisting we fuck without condoms.

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  • 1 - poor hygiene
    2 - habitual lying, I can deal with a white lie here and there as long as it's not about something serious/they come clean about it almost right away
    3 - racist, sexist, misogynistic
    4 - forcefully believes in religion (I can date someone religious, but not if they try to convert me to believe their views)
    5 - consistently compares me to their ex.

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  • 1. Not liking animals
    2. Not wanting kids
    3. Previously being in prison
    4. Doing drugs
    5. Not having a job

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  • Absolute Number One: Being an unkind human being
    2: No Ambition to Better Themselves (Mentally, Physically, Career-wise, etc)
    3: Emotionally Unstable.
    4: Immoral (Lying, Stealing, Swindling, Back-stabbing, Sabotaging, etc)
    5: Being Fickle/Never seeing things through/Too unfocused to pursue any goal until the end/Gives Up Easily

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  • 1) Incompatible sexual beliefs (promiscuous, has/would have sex outside of exclusive relationships, sex on the first few dates etc)
    2) Incompatible long-term expectations (wants children and/or marriage)
    3) Poor lifestyle choices (overweight, smoker, alcoholic etc)
    4) Extroverted, needs lots of social interaction and to take part in social gatherings
    5) Emotion-driven rather than logic-driven individual

    I would also like to add "doesn't like cats", but oh well.

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  • 1. Smokes or uses drugs
    2. Stupidity
    3. Unloyal
    4. Has an STD
    5. Out of shape
    No luck so far finding a girl who doesn't break at least four of those, lol

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    • There are plenty of girls who don't match that criteria. Just keep looking.

  • Not in any order of importance, but here are mine:
    1. Unattractive feet
    2. Pro choice
    3. Unreasonably shallow in various ways
    4. Has been with many men
    5. Doesn’t want to have children

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  • 1) ugly (bad genes)
    2) poor health (obese, not fertile)
    3) dumb
    4) single mother
    5) doesn’t listen to her protector and is not submissive

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    • What’re you meaning by ‘... Is not Submissive.’?

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    • Even married couples have problems with infertility So what would you do then... tell your wife she’s useless I don't know that’s my opinion

    • I wouldn’t even begin a relationship with a woman that if not fertile even if i like her... It’s nature humans look for healthy partner being not capable of making kids is very baddd its like a guy with no dick. Woman are on this earth to give birth.. men to spread their seed.

  • 1) Unfaithful
    2) STDs
    3) far-left/far-right views
    4) Slutty
    5) Smoking/Alcoholic/Drug user

    6) Has Kids
    7) poor hygiene
    8) Lying
    9) entitled
    10) bossy

    And and and

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  • 1. No/bad humor
    2. not beeing honest with me
    3. shitty Hygiene
    4. Does Illegal stuff
    5. Chubby and above (ugly)

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  • 1. Sleeps around

    2. Cheats, lies, and tries to manipulate me or other people

    3. Posts inappropriate pictures on their social media

    4. Smokes, takes drugs, or drinks often

    5. Believes they are always right and tells people their opinion is wrong if it isn't same as their own

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  • My top dealbreakers are:
    1. Irreconcilable religious and other beliefs and principles.
    2. Her not being born female.
    3. Present SO or unresolved issues with ex.
    4. Gays, lesbians, or criminals as friends or close associates.
    5. Smoking, drinking, or the use of any drugs.

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  • 1) lying
    2) STDs
    3) other person been dumb they don't have to be smart but just at least have commen sense.
    4) don't like nor watch horror films.
    5) don't like vodka (lol not really a deal breaker but i couldn't think of anything else).

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  • 1. Overweight/underweight
    2. Disloyal
    3. Alcoholic/smoker/drug-user
    4. Single parent
    5. Far-left political views

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  • Feminism
    Skanky
    Drugs
    Man like women (ungirly)
    STIs

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  • 1. high body count
    2. entitled / narcissistic/ independent
    3. no sense of my humour 🙄
    4. selfish/ irresponsible
    5. unloyal

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    • i didn't mention "single mums" and "morbidly fat/unbelievably ugly/post-wall" since those are autokills and it lookt like the question is rather about the inside.

    • Being independent is a deal breaker for you? How in 2018?

    • and it sure as hell would be my norm in 2019 too ☺️

  • 1) unattractive body (hygiene, unkempt, fat in all the wrong places, disease ridden)
    2) a cunt personality
    3) alcohol or drug abuse
    4) unfaithfulness
    5) a prude

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  • If she is/has:
    1) too much attitude
    2) overweight
    3) a lack of intelligence
    4) not sexually submissive
    5) a trump voter

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  • 1) Dis-honesty
    2) no understanding
    3) no open mind
    4) animal-hater
    5) bad characters

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  • If I were to add something else to this list, it would be smoking.

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  • Being clingy
    Bad teeth
    Stalking
    Lack of self respect
    Poor hygiene

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  • 1. Not paying attention
    2. Bad manners/rude
    3. Bad hygiene
    4. Not close enough in terms of the level of intelligence.
    5. Close minded

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  • 1. Gold digger
    2. Talks to exes
    3. Has kids
    4. Blows my phone up
    5. No enthusiasm for sex

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    • 6. Downvotes me for having an opinion on women... 😂😂😂😂😂

  • Std’s or stis
    Smoking
    Tatoos
    Piercing
    Being a snake doing evil things gold digging child support trapper.
    Poor hygiene e. g wiping.

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  • Talking to ex is a fucking deal breaker WTF
    My mom is in a really good connection with my step father altho they're not attracted anymore, I don't see a problem in that

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  • Ghetto talk

    Slutty

    Stuck up

    Has kids

    Lots of fucks given to different men.

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  • 1. Is not faithful (cheats on her partner)
    2. Rudeness
    3. gold digger
    4. Obese
    5. Ghetto attitude

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  • Mostly what you said but I would also add they need to have had no more than 3 sex partners and be younger than me

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  • Bad hygiene
    Lying
    STDs (if I love you enough I'll overlook it)
    Bad attitude
    Antithetical beliefs to my own

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  • So, what exactly do YOU bring to a relationship? Got anything at all? :)

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    • Basically a good relationship is one which doesn't allow you to be yourself.. but rather which brings out the best in you.. your best version!.. so bring it all... 😆

    • @Rulr09 - So, ya got nuthin'. Just what I figured. :)

  • 1 don't lie to me
    2 don't cheat
    3 don't steel from me
    4 poor sex
    5 don't break my heart

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  • "Lying"
    Says the woman who is a professional liar.

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  • Deal breaker if you've had sex you're likely to have HP

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  • Smoking, bad with finances, drugs, arrogant, sociopath, murderer, lazy 😂

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  • 1) Doesn't like metal
    2) verbally abusive
    ³) Smoking. I used to be a smoker, but I don't tolerate it anymore
    4) belongs in r/iamverysmart
    5) being dumb. My standards for intellect aren't very high, but there is a limit.

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  • 1) poor listening/talking skills
    2) bad manners
    3) bad hygiene
    4) opposite personality/opinions
    5) Talking to other women while on date (that's happened)

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  • 1. Wants kids
    2. Cheater or womanizer
    3. Poor physical health (doesn't workout, eat well, or take care of himself)
    4. Bad hygiene
    5. Smoker and/or drinker

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  • 1) is already taken or has eyes for someone else.
    2) has a known history of cheating or lying.
    3) has the ability to work but refuses not to.
    4) dresses or acts chavish (aka the big man act)
    5) has no manners or people skills.

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    • No idea why my predictive text as changed 3 to an emoji

    • Bugger, just realized there is not worded correctly, that should 'has the ability to work but refuses to' ignore the not

  • From that list, talking to ex’s is the only one that is not a deal breaker.

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    • You don't mind that? Would you get a little jealous or irritated?

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    • My last boyfriend said the same things that his ex is only a friend and he doesn't have any feelings. He ended up cheating. So after him, my dating policy is no talking to exes.

    • Oh no... that’s super messed up. There had to be some clues you missed. I hope you’re already over him

  • 1) Non-Trustworthy
    2) Must have a decent sense of humour.
    3) Able to take sarcasm.
    4) Can be Dominant and take control. (To an extent)
    5) Not controlling.

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  • 1) If he cheated.
    2) Being Black (Im not atracted sexually , Call me racist but its my preference)
    3) having children with other women
    4) lying me for no reason (if its a good reason then I dont mind as long No one is hurt)
    5) Having an drug addiction.

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  • Same as yours. They can only talk to their ex if they prove to me it’s completely platonic.

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    • Honestly don’t believe exes can be platonic. Every ex of mine has contacted me for sex or had ulterior motives. People are still sexually attracted to their exes, they just don’t act on it.

    • And sometimes they do. Best to avoid that drama altogether.

    • A lot of my guy friends are still friends with their ex and only friends. I’m still friends with one of mine exes but we barely talk anymore. I think if your ex is player or just desperate then they will try to get you back. I think it’s 50/50

  • 1. Controlling/Obssesive behaviour
    2. Sexist/Mysoginist
    3. Insecurity (all the time kind of thing. I know we humans are not perfect)
    4. Being clingy (It makes me uncomfortable)
    5. Showing public affection (I'm very private when it comes to that)

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  • 1. Is religious
    2. Want's kids
    3. Not ambitious (has no job & doesn't bother to get one)
    4. Narrow minded
    5. Is a choleric

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    • Being ambitious (not just dreams) requires being at least, a bit choleric. Wonder why religion is a problem esp if the person isn't trying to shove it down your throat?

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    • Please I know how you girls work deep down you want £££ men the I dont expect more than I give is a clear plore to lie about it.
      Yh but that’s not what you said is it?
      And yes because that’s all a woman does anyway stays at home with no job and doesn’t try to get one instead stays with the kids.
      How are you not and i’d ask you the same question discrimination doesn’t singley relate to race but in this case race usually = religion hence discriminating against religion = race nice try don’t play dumb. And if you are that dumb get a dictionary and look at the definition of each word in the definition of racism.
      😘
      That doesn’t matter in the slightest yh they may conflict with your views but who said he would press his views onto you? Exactly another plore for the true lies hidden between.

    • Didn't I state I dont want kids? So now I want a men to care for my none existend kids? I'm not gonna argue with some incel wheter or not all women are golddiggers.

      "So you are basicslly racist because ypu discriminate against someone for their religion" there you said it. Discrimination against religon is not racist. Being racist means discrimination against a race.

  • Manipulative behavior
    Controlling
    Poor hygiene
    Smokes/takes drugs
    No sense of humor

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  • 1. Liars
    2. Uncommitted or confused where he is in life
    3. Too serious (Needs to be humorous and have personality)
    4. Addiction any sort
    5. Judgmental or cocky

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  • Aggressive
    In a relationship
    Controlling
    Dishonest
    Bad hygiene
    Selfish
    Distant

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  • Ex That They Can’t Let Go
    Cheating
    Not Showing Me Attention
    Lack Of Sec

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  • I'm bisexual
    And for me are
    Entitled people
    Materialistic people
    Sexist
    Selfish
    Abusive
    Arrogant
    Criminal records
    Bad hygiene
    Hypocrisy

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  • Those, plus
    6. People who smoke/drink/do drugs
    7. People who aren't respectful

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  • All of these that you’ve mentioned would be a no no for me

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  • No hygiene
    No respect
    No humor
    Selfish
    Hypocrite

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  • Totally! Such a turn off..

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  • the same

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  • 1. Says no to sex

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  • Same ,

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