My boyfriends ex won’t stop texting him! What should I do? (Page 2)
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Stop talking then. You said what you had to say and you are reasonable. Take some actions now, ghost him for a montth without a notice, donr check on him just take care of yourself. he's probably openly keeping her on the side, to cheat or for his ego...
He disrespected you by pretending to block her but clearly hasn’t since her calls are getting through. For all you know, he could be the one reaching out and trying to cheat. You either talk to him one last time, discuss it like adults; ask him how he’d feel if you’d been still contacting your ex. If he laughs it off, dump him. He’s clearly a childish asshole.
Well your feelings look overwhelmed, your logic not.
There must be a reason to not do it if you are his girlfriend, so my advice is to get clear if you would continue going out with him if he comes back with his ex or not and telling him in a clear and confident form.
Thing is that his behaviour make you look as replace girl ( a girl who is chosen because he can't get his ex for a date) so you must be firm in that you aren't and that he can be in with you or not, but in anyway you will accept that role. ( In the case you wouldn't accept it).
No you're not. If he really wanted it to stop he could tell her to stop and, if it came down to it, block her number. I would talk to him about it and if things don't stop, end it. He is either still messing around with her, still likes her, or is trying to make you jealous. None of this is right and you deserve better. If this doesn't change, dump his ass.
If you're telling your man to stop communicating and responding with his ex, and he won't cut it out, he probably wants to still be in contact with her, and thats not good for someone that's currently in a relationship. He may be cheating on you through him texting her. But ask him whats going on, and if be diesnt tell you, ignore him until he does, or just leave him. You have a right to know
Just imagine if the roles are switched, and it's your ex who keep on contacting you, and your current boyfriend knows about it but you still continued to contact your ex.
Your boyfriend asked you to stop, but you didn't. Instead, you just laughed in his face and told him he's being a pussy about it. What would his reaction be?
I'm pretty sure your boyfriend won't accept this behaviour from you. So why should you?
I mean if he blocked her and isn't receiving the messages anymore, what's the big deal? She's practically gone from this world at this point. That being said, on principle, I assume if a previous lover messages me that it's because they want to get together. Why else would they? Unless they want something important they left at your place, I can't think of any other reason.
I agree with both points. it's all on how he treats the situation and he laughed at her. *DUN Dun Dun..*
Yeahh, the way he addressed it is definitely a cause for concern... and how did she call if the number was blocked? I smell bullshit lmao
wait bullshit with this story or bullshit with the guy? because she shouldn't be able to call him if she's blocked and that my friend. is BuLLshit.
Yeah that's what I'm saying!! How did he get the call at all if she was blocked? This guy doesn't sound entirely trustworthy
Okay so this is simple. Do you think he’s not into you enough to slope off with this ‘ex’? Fine: there’s a trust issue and you should find someone you actually do trust.
Is he a nice guy who is just friendly with another human being and has no inclination to do anything but think of you and is in love with you then what’s the problem?
In these days of equality what’s wrong with being a friend with a female if you’re a male. He’s probably firmly in the ‘friend zone’ and we all know how difficult it is to get out of there!!
Cuz he is selfish and only cares about himself , do yourself a favor and dump him and find someone that makes you a priority , how would he feel if your ex boyfriend was constantly contacting u? Trust me dump his ass , ha doesn't respect you , you are just a convienence to him
He is being manipulative, to a certain degree, as he knows hox it made you feel and kind of enjoying your reaction / jealousy. He is also keeping his options open, meaning he has no intention to cut ties with her.
You have / had every right to react the way you did, in my opinion.
You are not being unreasonable, your boyfriend already knows he has you, so he is going for an ego boost. Give him a choice, remind him you are not just another option for him, you will not always be there for him if he is trying to squeeze his ex in. Ask him either make peace with his past and move on, or move out. You tell him you are not comfortable with this, if he does not understand the ex is making a ridge in your trust in him, he does not deserve you.
Have him change his number. If the ex pops back upon that phone then it’s likely he gave it to her and wants to remain in contact. I don’t know if they are really good friends after a relationship because that happens. A sexual relationship only is something totally different. If he only had a sexual relationship with her then I’m fraud I smell a fish. Changing your number can be a big thing but it’s relatively small especially to keep someone close to him that loves him the way you do. He should respect the relationship he has with you being that it’s far more than a sexual one. If he is unwilling to change I would quietly prepare to leave without notice and without intent to return.
Please forgive some of my wording. Auto correct at times messes my message up.
Hiding the fact he's in a relationship is wrong.
He seems to be trying to keep her in reserve should things with you not work out.
Be honest with yourself. Is he worth this drama? Would you be better off finding someone who's honest and straight up and cares about how you're feeling?
If he blocked her without telling her why he was likely scared to do it. It isn't unreasonable of you. If they bumped into each other every once in a while at a store and talked for a few minutes and you responded this way you would be unreasonable, but that isn't the case
I can't believe you so annoyed you posted a question. I was with my boyfriend and he found another girl kept texting her even when I said to stop. he talked to her in front of me. everything was clear that he was looking for benefits from both of us. I started pulling away that's what I was forced I hatethose days.. I started managing myself instead him. after an year he got married to her and now regret and text me. but I am not available neither then nor now. choice is urs. Its unfortunate it is happening with you. but try to focus on you only.. take care.
He still talks to her. If it is so annoying why won't he just tell her to leave him alone? Think about it sis. She knows about you but is still comfortable enough to call an text someone that is taken. I'm thinking when you guys were dating he told it wasn't serious with you. Hung out a few time and now you're here. Getting mad that he won't tell her to leave him alone.
Honey, womanizers are there to be friend material or many kinds of temporary enjoyment material.
They are obviously not boyfriend materia at all.
He is saying as if you are over reacting, but it's just an act for his own benefit. He knows what he is doing and how you feel. He understands everything. However, he is not on your side because he values his own sexually thrilling enjoyment than you or your relationship, and This shows that he is a womanizer.
Get out of that terrible relationship.
Is he accepting her calls and replying to her texts? If yes, then that's a problem. If no, then I don't understand why you want to compell your boyfriend to talk to his ex. He may not want to have any further contact with her, and that's something you have to respect.
You are not being unreasonable, but he does have his own life.
If he loves you he's respect what you ask and tell her to stop calling daily, and texting daily. If you think you could handle him have a normal friendship with his ex, that would be a compromise unless you'd like to have every bit of his time devoted to you, but comprise with him.
You’re not being unreasonable. If I were you I’d seriously have a talk with him and get to the bottom of why he’s refusing to cut all ties with his ex. Any man who’s loyal to his current woman most likely won’t hesitate to ditch any girl who threatens his current relationship; it seems like he’s not doing that at all. And as your boyfriend he should be respective of your feelings about this, but his behavior seems to say otherwise. Don’t, under any circumstances give him any ultimatums, because that would most likely lead to arguments. Just simply talk to him, get his perspective on things and see if you two could come to an agreement. I’ll leave it up to you to decide what to do from there. Good luck love. :)