Should I act more girly?

My friend just said to me that i looked good but acted like shrek. That means i have to start acting more like a girl and feminine right?

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  • I would take that as meaning you're sarcastic and that you seem to care much? Similar to how he was for most of the OG Shrek. In any case, I'm so confused as to why someone would call you Shrek and not clarify their meaning or point? Or even equate you to Shrek at all? Anyways, you act like yourself, and that's really all you should act like to a certain degree. I guess don't be as funny and as subtly inappropriate as usual 🤷🏽‍♂️. I wouldn't worry about being feminine enough or anything like that. I imagine (or better yet hope that) that wasn't their intent.

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  • I would advise you not go against the grain of your character. You should stay true to who you are deep down.

    That said, you should also develop your personality in accordance with your character. Femininity is an art that must be developed within each woman to reach its full expression. I suggest you develop your feminine skills, traits, and behaviors by practicing them until they become habitual and second nature.

    Look at it as becoming an improved version of who you've been all along. You should always be yourself, but a progressively improving version of yourself.

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  • Just be yourself :) don't change just because someone made a note... many people in our lives won't like something about us

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  • No, it means someone has an opinion about you, it doesn't imply you have to act a certain way. You decide what is right when it comes to your actions, nobody else does.

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  • Maybe just friendlier. Main Thing is that you're comfortable with yourself, because pretending to be something you're not is really tiring.

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  • What you "should" do is whatever it is that you want to do, as long as it doesn't hurt anyone else.

    That said, I will say that, yes, it would be advisable to act like a girl if you intend to attract a guy who is attracted to girls. That's kinda how shit works.

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  • No no no. It would be a shame. You could miss out on guys who honestly think that's the coolest thing about you.

    Just make sure that there aren't parts of your behavior where it seems like you're being rude, mean or maybe angry when you don't intend to be.

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  • I am not saying you should not change or whatever. But you need to do what feels right to you. And one thing you do not want to do is become someone or something you are not.

    If you want to make a change to your life, then make the change. But don't do that to please other folks. Do it because you want the change.

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  • You do what you're comfortable with. Yah, guys will like you more if you're feminine but that doesn't mean you have to be full-on pampered princess, fainting at the sight of a mouse, refusing to ever get any dirt on you, etc. Above all though, be genuine.

    If you're like Shrek, well, be like Shrek.

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  • Don't know what they really meant. But I think it's best not act like somebody else. Being the best of yourself, will eventually bring out the best in you, rather than pretending to be somebody you are not. But yes, you should always strive to be the better version of yourself, doesn't mean you need to change your core nature.

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  • If you are being rude and acting poorly it might be constructive to try. If they are really just trying to sabotage you from being awesome because they major jelly than no.

    Being girly and feminine only matters on what constitutes and defines girly and feminine. Commonly associated traits like meek, passive or caring are good or bad based off certain conditions. Being passive can mean being a walking door mat or it can mean to be less aggressive.

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    • Also, girls seem to enjoy doing girly things and going full out girl. It's like how guys like to get loud physical and overly sentimental over beers. Dont let a good time pass you by if it is only just a good time.

  • Act they way you want as long as you don't hurt anyone with it. Being yourself is an important thing in live, just like accepting yourself. Don't listen to the people who says you should act more girly. They are just stupid people who aren't happy with themself or like to give "Helpfull" advice.

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  • That means you have to change your stature. That's not only for girls. Straighten your back, and hold your head high. You'll look a thousand times more grateful, I promise.

    At least this is the usual criticism I see with young women.

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  • No dont act like someone who you aren't dont be girly to me if u are like tom boyish or into cars or like video games are awesome but my point is no matter what dont let them change you for you someone will love you for you know matter what

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  • Well, start social dancing, bachata, casino salsa or kizomba would be good start. You will learn how to move you body, ways it can be moved. You could expect possitive changes in about half year to year. Beeing able to dance well is realy atractive and desirable trait in girl.
    As for changing who you are, you can think a bit of your actions before you do them. But i would advise against trying to change yourself.

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  • "Should" in what matter?
    For you? No
    For your friend? No
    To have a higher chance of guys seeing you as a romantic partner/consider you girlfriend-material?
    Yes

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  • Femininity is what attracts guys while feminist are what detracts guys. If you want guys attracted to you go with femininity. If you want to detract guys go with feminism.

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  • I have no idea what that means. You friend thinks you act like a computer-generated image in an overrated children's movie series? Well, it doesn't matter anyway. Ignore her and continue to be yourself.

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  • Don't "act" like anything. It's tiring. Be yourself, be considerate of others, and meet a guy who likes your natural self.

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  • Do whatever you like, if someone does not like the way you really are then they can fuck off.

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  • Hell no! you should be you because that what makes you the person you are. Trying to be someone you're not will only make you miserable.

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  • If your friend is trying to give you advice on how to attract guys I'd ignore her unless she's swarming in QUALITY options.

    Super girly girls are actually really annoying. Keep it in moderation.

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  • Do you want to act more girly? That's a better question. Some dudes might be into a jokey or.. uhh.. shreky girl.

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  • Depends - Whatever you are comfortable with and a lot of guys like girls who are tomboys and not girly

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  • Apart from the whole "You should always just be yourself" philosophy. I don't think it's necessary. Some guys like that, some don't. Me personally I see pros and cons to both.

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  • "That means i have to start acting more like a girl and feminine right?"

    You should strive to be personable and friendly, not fake and inauthentic; in regards to mannerism, the only thing worse than a liar is a try-hard. Besides, if you meet someone you like in the course of pretending to be someone else, you will spend all of your time BEING someone else.

    I'm guessing you're a tomboy and there's nothing wrong with that. Some people will take to it and some won't, but you can't please everyone and you shouldn't try.

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  • Not all guys like "girly" and vice versa. Its good if you can be sweet to the one and hopefully they recognize it, but no need to change to adopt everyone.
    Just one you trully deeply treasure

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  • Your friend may mean you act like you have no class, not that you act in a masculine fashion. though there is a good bit of overlap... :)

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  • I guess it means that you can stay green as long as you don't act like an ogre.

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  • i dunno how u act do u wear thongs bras like guys and stupid shit ur f ine

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  • Act however you wish, you shouldn't feel forced to do anything. However the biggest buzzkill is when a hot girl acts like a guy. Just mho.

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  • Be yourself for sure! The only reason one should change is to develop better dispositions in there life to do good, grow in virtue as Aristotle says.

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  • Nah some guys actually prefer girls like that.

    Actually I prefer girls like that. I'm not really the type to be into super girly girls.

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  • It's better than looking like Shrek, but acting like a girl

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  • That would be a compliment to me hhahahaha

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  • Y'know I'm a tomboy myself and I had this question a couple times myself, but eventually I just said screw it. The people who only date me cause I'm girly and all that shit are not the ones I'm gonna be happy with since I can't be myself around them. Instead, I'd suggest joining a team or some other competitive sport so you're surrounded by people who are full of and enjoy a more tomboyish spirit.

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  • Oh please. Don't change who you are just because your friend told you that you don't act girly enough.
    In highschool my friend told me that if I got a tan and were nicer guys would like me better. She then told me that asked all the guys if they thought I was hot, they all said yes but I was too mean and needed a tan! I got pissed that she did that.
    Guess what I'm still mean and pale. And I'm fine with who I am.

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  • there is nothing wrong with exploring and having fun with differ sides of yourself .
    trying out new things . you don't have to act or dress girly all the time . maybe sometimes .
    and not too extreme . it might be fun for you ... .. . if it's not really you . then ok!

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  • It doesn't work unless you want to change. At least you are not fake which is highly attractive.

    That said not everyone needs to know the real you. You don't need to speak your mind all the time or act boyish infront of people that don't know you.
    Try few Girly things and see if you like them. Maybe a pink skirt will become you favorite pc who knows.

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  • Only if it feels natural. If you feel like you're wearing a mask, don't do it.

    "Be yourself" might sound cheesy, but it's true. Of course, if there's something you don't like about yourself you should change it - but only if you see a good reason to.

    Also... Shrek is Love. Shrek is Life.

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  • Always be yourself! If you pretend to be someone you're not then you will not be happy. Many people will your boyishness charming, and if they don't like it then that's their problem and not yours. :)

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  • What is girly? why are we even expected to adhere to gender norms? Be who you are and the right people will appreciate you. If you do decide to tune it down a little, do it for yourself, not for others

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  • Dude, just be yourself. Don't change just because some bitch is so insecure to be herself. She's jealous of the fact that you don't care what people think. Just be the funny quirky you, you always are.

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  • Tell her, "in that case... I have layers OF AWESOME!" Shrek reference to his onion layers :P be yourself. You're young, so girls acting like that will grow up eventually.

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  • Really, that just means your a "Fiona". You're pretty and can kick ass. Be yourself.

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  • I don't think you have to act a certain way as a girl. Just be yourself

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  • It doesn't mean you have to start acting more feminine. Just don't act like Shrek. Mean, moody, etc... It doesn't have anything to do with being feminine.

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  • Sometimes you will get better words from your friends. maybe that situation forced your friend to say that! Don't be judgemental!

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  • It doesn't MeAn anything. It's up to you.
    But Shrek is a bomb-ass dude.

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  • You act however you want as long as no one's getting hurt. If your friends can't accept you, they aren't really your friends.

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  • Yeah, try being more feminine in general and you'll get used to it.

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  • No. There is no one way someone should act... you do you. Your friend sounds like a jerk, sorry.

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  • Acting like someone you’re not doesn’t make you any better.

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  • You dont have to do anything. Just be confident about yourself, and people will like u naturally.

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  • Not if you don't want to, act the way you feel the most comfortable, be you

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  • I don't know what acting like Shrek means, but if it is rude or obnoxious, then you should tone that down a bit.

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  • Omg this is so like passive agressive, if ur mad at her tell her not us

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    • For your information i talked to her about it and she’s my best friend. That’s why i took her opinion into account. I asked u a question with the upmost respect, if that’s what u imagine is “passive agressive” then u got a new thing coming

    • No the ‘i have to act girly& feminine right?’ Thing is

  • Up to you but don't change for anyone if it doesn't stay true to you or make you happy. Also what does she mean you act like shrek?

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  • I think you have to be yourself and try to find out why your friend think that you are acted like shrek. I mean what exactly went wrong

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  • No don't. You'll be so boring. Embrace your inner Shrek. Dont become a doll

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  • No be yourself you shouldn’t be so persuaded by your friend so easily like that. I’m sure she was just making a joke anyway.

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  • Be yourself your probably awesome and funny as hell lmao

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  • Don't act like anything. Just be yourself no matter what other people say.

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