However, he left her. Now she’s with this guy who has had a thing for her for 7 years but she wouldn’t give him the time of day because she didn’t like him and was with her now ex fiancé.
I’m concerned for three reasons:
1. It hasn’t even been a month since her relationship ended and already she’s with someone else.
2. She slept with him first about a month ago when her fiancé was being a dick. She told him she had no feelings for him afterwards but now all of sudden she does.
3. I think she’s using him as a rebound even though he genuinely loves her. He’s ready buying her stuff and I think she just wants a man so someone is nice to her.
Basically, I’m concerned that she’s using this other guy so that she feels good, not because she actually likes him, and I think this is a train wreck waiting to happen. She told me to mind my business but I feel like as a friend I wouldn’t be doing her a favor if I didn’t bring it up.
Most Helpful Guys
Hypergamy at its best lol. A rebound. She wants someone to spoil her and found one all ready for that. The way she went about it tho is worrying... either she has yet to deal with the feelings... or there were none to begin with and she only needed a spender... in both cases.
It's a rebound relationship that won't last long. Some good advice somebody gave me during my divorce was have sex with somebody as it helps get over the relationship. It works. Let her have her fling and she will be back on track.
Most Helpful Girls
She might be using him as a rebound
She might’ve just gotten over her husband earlier
Sometimes we love someone but the person we love does not fulfill certain needs... when we don’t find what we need and your partner isn’t working with you, someotimes people will turn to someone else
She might actually have feelings for the guy for a while but for whatever reason didn’t leave her fiancée.
Plus sometimes in order to get over someone, you get under someone else... for some
Basically she isn’t able to handle it independently. You can speak to her and offer her comfort, but don’t push it. She’ll just have to learn for herself