Is a male or female not being in good shape a deal breaker for you?

Mine have to be athletic and all muscled up.
Is a male or female not being in good shape a deal breaker for you?
I wouldn't expect anything I don't bring.
Updates:
It seems those who exercise demand more exercise or fittness in a partner.

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  • Yeah it’s a dealbreaker if she’s not at least skinny. I’m simply not attracted to chubby and above persons... just looks weird/disgusting to me 🤷‍♀️

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    • @Gopnik no I wouldn't date a fatty but I wouldn't want a flatty either

    • You're still young, but some of the hottest girls I ever dated had a little extra padding and they were WILD in bed! Conversely, the fitness girls were too uptight and generally not as much fun. All they cared about was "do you think I have too much body fat?" ... and they were in perfect shape.

  • Her body fat percentage is a dating criteria. :/

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  • Yes. I don't want to date a guy whose really overweight

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  • I think that saying “I wouldn’t expect anything I

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    • Oops. I was saying that “I would t expect anything I don’t bring” is the perfect statement. With that being said, my type of guy has a good shape, but not necessarily super muscular. Deal breaker... it depends, but I don’t like skinny guys... they make me feel insecure.

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What Guys Said 55

  • I'm in good shape, but she only has to be in good shape for her age if she is over 45.

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  • She doesn't have to be "in shape", she just shouldn't be overweight or extremely skinny. She should resemble a female and have the shape of one, and not a hippo.
    I dont have anything against chubby girls, but i wouldn't choose one to be my girlfriend

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  • It's not too big a deal, unless she is super toned or super skinny/fat. I can't do extremes.

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  • She doesn't have to be "perfect". I've been attracted to all different sizes. But I do like if she cares about her health at least a little bit. If she's going to be my partner for life, I'd like her to be around "for life" lol

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  • I'm not muscle bound, and I sure as heck don't want my girl to be either. Decent shape, feminine... nice curves ,,, sexual. That's plenty for this guy.

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  • It depends how out of shape they are. If they are lazy and out of shape then it would be a deal breaker but if they are active and a but out of shape then it would probably be fine.

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  • depends i have a wide range of body types i like but generally if ya got a cute personality and face im in

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  • Kind of. She has to be healthy and be able to go on long walks or hikes. I have seen some muscular looking people unable to do much. They just work out their body but not their endurance.

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  • I don't think it's unreasonable for them to at least be in as good of shape as I am. I'll accept a little less toned than me, but that's about it. She should at least take care of herself.

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  • I guess I'd say there's a certain minimum I'd expect, but I don't expect her to be in as good of shape as I am, but I go to the gym 3 times a day so few people are.

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  • Are you toned up? You need to be if you want a guy with those qualities

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  • Yes. It's because it's a matter of personal preference. Ideally you (I) want somebody of similar values, mindsets, feelings etc. People's bodies are like externalised mirrored reflections of their inner self. There are traits associated with appearance. Somebody with messy hair can be construed as unclean or less considerate. When we look at others we evaluate their character based off looks. Typically shallow men look for shallow women. Insecure people look for people weaker than they are. Oftenly overweight people show a lack of self discipline or ambition. All appearances need close and precise examination as they all can be easily confused by over generalising. Just because somebody is out of shape doesn't always mean they undesirable to a person like me, but it's the general standard. I myself prefer highly intelligent and courageous women, I don't find that's a common trait among people out of shape.

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  • It just depends on how bad, I'd prefer a middle ground, a girl no less than my weight but not too much more than that. And that's my weight appearance based on my body. For a girl it could be slightly different. That's a preference, personalty could change things but I would like someone that is willing if they are a little heavy set to make some minor changes with diet and exercise to correct it slightly. I'm not talking stressful just maybe the gym a couple times a week and some healthier food portions. It's not something I would expect her to do alone we would do it together

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  • Personally, it's not necessarily a deal breaker, but it is top contributing factor. What I care about most is not being obese. Being a little overweight isn't good, but it's not a deal breaker. Because nobody is perfect, and weight can be dynamic.
    Basically, I prefer a woman who has a BMI in the "normal range", and preferably in the 2nd quarter area. Major plus, if she is also physically fit.

    At the opposite end, while I don't prefer her being underweight, it's not really a dealbreaker unless she's completely emaciated.

    Bottom line:
    Extremes are deal breakers
    Over/underweight is acceptable
    Normal BMI range, especially 2nd quarter, is preferred
    Being physically fit on top of that is best.

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  • I'd like her to look good, but whether that's by being a bit muscular, slimmer, or curvy, I don't care. If it looks good on her, I'm good with it.

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  • It isn't a deal break for me because I prefer women who are curvy.

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  • She has to at least be active. I run a 10K six days per week (weather permitting) so if she is lazy we won't have a lot in common.

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    • But I bet she’ll have lunch ready when you get back. 🤭

  • They don’t need to be able to compete in a decathlon. They do need to take care of themselves.

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  • I’m not too picky. If she’s overweight, I’ll date her if she’s dedicated to getting back to at least a standard healthy weight.

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  • I don't care if they aren't athletic, but if they are super unhealthy and obese that is something I can't handle.

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  • Yes I'm into the healthy lifestyle and attracted to someone slim to somewhat toned.

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  • Haha well I'm out. But you can have standards that are high if you bring them yourself I don't see a problem with that.

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  • I would want them to be in decent shape at least and not over weight, I’m in pretty good shape myself

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  • l am in good shape for my age l plan to get to 100 years old l dont drink or smoke and look far younger than my age its all to do with genes

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  • not an issue too much. as long as she is not hugely obese...
    as you say i would not expect anything i don't bring.

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  • I'd prefer a girl that's reasonably fit, they don't have to be a personal trainer though.

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  • Naw. Life is life, and not everybody has the time to be everything.

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  • Yeah, they gotta take care of themselves, and I prefer shorter, tight bodied girls

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  • No. As long as they aren't overweight I don't mind.

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  • I'm not too concerned but I'll always support someone if they want to start a fitness routine.

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What Girls Said 21

  • When I exercise I do it for health and longevity and self-esteem and spiritual / religious reasons and personal wellness and personality training. I don't do it to look hot in a bikini. I think everybody wants to look good but I would rather be happy than anorexic and hot. Also if I have free time - I would rather do other things - a little bit of exercise is okay - but I am not willing to put the rest of my life on hold - just so I can look a little better than I did yesterday.

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  • To each their own, as long as he's not lazy I don't mind extra chub. A guy who's ripped and works out may not be that way forever for whatever reason (car accident, illness etc) if working out is all you think you have in common you may end up fat, old and alone because bodies change as we age.

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  • huge deal breaker since I'm athelete so I exercise every single day and I'm in a stricy diet since I was 5 myself lol

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  • They don't have to be muscly or super athletic, but I personally won't date someone who was drastically overweight.

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  • CHUBBY/AVERAGE GUYS with nice asses, good arms... I like my food too though!!! But you know... the active type who just can't stop the drinking and eating lol! 2nd boyfriend was in sports as a kid, 3rd boyfriend was a dancer lol, this guy is a biker who exercises daily! <3 Fuck yeahh

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  • As long as they are making an effort, it's fine. I have bit of a stomach, but I try to run /walk outside and do some basic stretching.

    If they're flat out lazy, that's a dealbreaker.

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  • i am not into men that dont care what they look like

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  • It really depends on how drastic it is and if they're taking care of it. I wouldn't like to date a lazy person.

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  • Well, mine should be skinny, average, or cutely chubby. No fat guys and no muscly ones.
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    ~ Mrs Manson

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  • Your probably fucking gross with a shit personality. Sorry, I don't expect anything that I don't give.

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  • Nope because all that can change when it comes to a long term relationship.

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  • No not at all. As long as they're healthy I don't really care

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  • good shape for me is if he's not being terribly overweight... I know the standards keep dropping.

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  • I also feel the same it one especially if there doing nothing about it.

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  • No not really. I mean I'm halfway in shape and some guys have found me attractive

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  • Not a deal breaker, I’m very out of shape myself.

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  • A bit of a belly is fine to me

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  • Yea they have to be fit for me

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  • Same. I’m very flexible, used to be a dancer. I’ve managed to maintain that flexibility and excercise regularly. I expect the same from him.

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  • Good shape

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  • If they aren't overweight and have a normal body, I don't care if they're skinny fat.. No one is perfect

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