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My God. You just described my life there.
@Mikey_Ramone Surprised to hear that. Thought it was mostly only women that experienced it !!
It's true that my behavior of negativity sometimes really destroys the relationship. It did happen before.
@Mikey_Ramone Oh, so you were referring to my post referring to your own behaviours, vs your experiencing them?
Yeah that's it. :)
100% agree, was about to write cheating paranoia as deal breaker but your list is much better lol.
@Mikey_Ramone if you had a conscious awareness of it, then why did you knowingly do it?
@Nxtawm lol thanks !
It's hard to explain. But I'd try to keep my feelings / emotions down as much as I could.
It's completely logical that a cheater would think their partner is cheating- there is no honor among thieves, after all). Actually, it's good that your love takes a lot of effort to earn. Only the really motivated guys will put in the effort.
I didn’t ever think he would cheat because of the way he treated me from his insecurities. No honor indeed. I hope to come across one of these motivated guys. ☺️
They're out there, and are probably thinking, "Where is the girl who is motivated to love me?".
And someday, our paths might cross.
I was talking to a girl off an on for a while who always had a ton of insecurities, but I knew she was a good person and someone I wanted to be with. So then apparently I gave her the courage to go out and start dating some other guy... so much for that one.
@red324: That’s great that you gave her the courage and unfortunate that it didn’t work out. Hopefully that experience prepared you for the girl that will come into your life that IS right for you.
Dealbreakers... I think I've already had my share of others projecting insecurities rooted in their own infidelities onto myself. Cheating is a serious accusation. Not being a cheater, I refuse to put up with it. Maybe they'd benefit more from a babysitter than a sex life. When broken things don't get fixed... well, here we are.
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I might be tripping a bit over the semantics but I think there's also how fears express themselves outwardly that's very important. I have some practical inward fear/insecurity of dying, for example, but it doesn't express itself outward as though I have that fear. I don't live my life paranoid about dying every day. It doesn't interfere with me alone crossing a road let walking a tightrope. So how those fears and insecurities manifest themselves outwardly might be a rather important distinction. Maybe it doesn't count as an insecurity if it doesn't express itself outwardly much at all. I find the language kind of ambiguous there.
* [...] It doesn't interfere with me [crossing a road let alone walking a tightrope].
Likewise I tell people sometimes that there's a way to love without the fear and insecurity of losing the one you love. But what I mean there is that there's a way to love without letting such fears and insecurities express themselves outwardly and dictate your actions. Naturally I am afraid of the idea of losing my wife, of her growing gravely ill and dying -- this is about the worst thing possible I could imagine right now. But I don't let such fears dominate my life. I don't constantly worry about her safety any time she's out of my reach, I give her space, I act as though I lack that fear, and it's not something I think about every time she's away. But I do have that fear/insecurity somewhere deep inside, I just don't think much about it and don't outwardly express it. It's almost as though it doesn't exist as far as guiding my behavior.
That seems to be the most crucial factor- whether it affects your relationship and daily life.
It's hard for me to pinpoint what insecurities that might affects things negatively that way. I figure it's also based on how they manifest in dictating behaviors. But usually the auxiliary warning signs for me is like someone who thinks negatively very often, is prone to distrust, that sort of thing.
Hey can't blame a guy with a small penis to not feel good enough sexually
@Mrchocolate1818 he had an average sized penis and the sex was the best of my life, and he could see that during sex and I told him that (during and after). but his insecurity was so deep it overrode what he saw, what his brain was processing. and it just started making stuff up. and that's just so sad and I'll never want to date someone with insecurities like that again.
That's really too bad. He didn't even have anything to be insecure about.
That sucks then but in my case I'm "average" and I can't get hard because I feel small. It's quite concerning
he knew someone from my past had a larger package (he read through all my opinions on GaG) and was so insecure. but that person disrespected me and I made it clear, I disliked that person for never wanting to take no for an answer and always putting their pleasure ahead of mine. but him just knowing that was enough to ruin everything and I think he never trusted what I was saying (about him being the best), like I couldn't have had something bigger and prefer him. it was a sad situation
You can't blame us men with that since all our lives we think that size has everything to do with pleasure. In my case I'm tall and black and when girls drop my pants I can literally see disappointment in their faces. It's pretty bad. I mean I'm going to believe you did like it since You have zero to gain for lying to me which makes me feel a little better about my six inches
@Mrchocolate1818 Average sized guys (and I think you're slightly above average?) don't understand if they know how to use what they have-it doesn't matter that they aren't 7 inches. It's 100% about the experience and how they make us women feel.
Is being shy and nervous around you ok?
Indeed- and this is the common perception of an insecure person
Basically it's the opposite of using exponents. Here's more than you probably wanted to know: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Logarithm
@QueenofCups😂 I'm dying@Logorithim I'm sorry but... That's first tier shade
@Wowgirl10q: Nah... I don't throw shade...
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I laugh whomever i meant regardless wasn't personal to you at all.She's been on one.. I gotta get her a Nickname Mine is ,, the mouth of the south... lol
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I got you 3
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@AbdKilani: There is never a dull moment with those two.
Yes, great ladies :)
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Like that? Lol
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@AbdKilani you are right
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Ladies, you are driving me crazy 😋
@AbdKilani: LOL, no one needs porn anymore, as you can see.
Hahaha I wish I never knew about porn, and had a partner, then I would ljve happy
@AbdKilani: That's true- it's much better to be in a great relationship. Nothing else comes close.
Hope I will be someday 🙏you too
@AbdKilani lmao you wish you didn't know about porn? Your so freaking cute Jewel of a man
@Wowgirl10q haha thanks dear
@AbdKilaniWe gotta teach you https://youtu.be/ewufRwrayTI
That's precisely the point, though- we all have prefences.
Yes but as i said i take the person as a whole. for example if she's a really caring person that is rare and i would be less likely to give up on her than i would with someone who was less caring.
Quite true that great personality traits may compensate or more than compensate for some annoying insecurity. But that is sort of what I was asking.
That's true. Exactly. To feel comfortable enough to tell your lover how you feel would be the best feeling in the hole world.
Dude you can never help someone over an issue only they can help themselves, and trust me I had that mentality and it was just terrible at the end
Some people need encouragement to be able to help themselves, I'm not saying you aren't correct, in fact you are very correct. In some cases people just need something to trigger them to help themselves with their issues or insecurities