Do You Think It's True Women Hold 100 Percent Of The Power In Dating?


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  • No, I do not think so. It's more of 50/50, at least in the western world.

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    • @Hurlyburly

      Not true

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    • @nathanp97 then I've been lucky so far I guess.

    • @nathanp97

      You're right about the sex part, but that's not what I really want, I want love

  • Maybe women hold the power in the initial phase of attraction. Typically women are asked on dates or for their numbers, which may grant them some power to move the relationship forward. However, once that relationship is in motion, I feel that the men regain the power. It is usually the men who decide if the woman is someone they are willing to settle down with or not.

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    • Sometimes I wish I were born female, cause you have more advantage

    • That’s interesting. Do you have trouble initiating conversation with women?

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  • No, I don’t think it’s true. How can a woman hold all of the power in dating? If a woman has all of the power in dating, it’s because men GIVE them the power. An attractive woman has a ton of sway and influence over many men, because all the men want to do is have sex with her. That’s all it is. The more men want to have sex with a woman, the more power she has and the more she can get away with. I can only speak for myself but if I’m dating a woman, it’s mutual and the power isn’t vested solely in me or her. If she wants to have sex, I can refuse, if I want her to pay half for our dinner, she’ll have to pay half. Men give women the power, so men are the ones to blame.

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    • Both give each other power. Stop acting like women wouldn't have a will of their own.

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    • That's not impossible.

    • @azzntittiz

      Yea I'm hoping so

  • Not 100% and certainly it varies between women, but they generally are the heavyweights and it's hard to recognise your own power as a guy oftentimes -- and often what happens is the girl will just bail if she's not getting the outcome she would prefer. She will look for another opportunity elsewhere because she can afford to be picky with that level of power.

    I think if guys everywhere stopped putting up with girls shit then you could make changes and that would be exercising your power as males, but it's a deep hole to get out of though. I think it would require a whole generation of men to essentially 'take one for the team' and in 20 years we will see positive change, but it's understandable that no guy wants to be the guy that makes that sacrifice, so you'll be hard-pressed convincing a generation to do it unless cultural circumstances make it an inevitability.

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    • What would this change need to require? I don't get what you mean

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    • Yes, the hard part of the second option is that you have to go without certain things and you get a bunch of other things -- and yes it's hard.

      But the way men want women's affection and approval is like an addictive drug, you may want it but that doesn't make it good for you. You obsesses about getting your "fix," it will likely cost you more happiness than it brings. All your eggs are in one basket, so a break up or things not working out like you'd expect have the ability to completely break you.

    • I did the same thing. Eventually I came to realise that I'm putting in a ton of work, stress, money, time, mental/emotional energy into a thing that wasn't very fulfilling. I found I had things that would reliably make me happy or give me purpose. I don't draw my self-esteem from what women think of me and I'm happier for it.

      I think being happier & more confident and all that makes me more appealing to women (I certainly have a lot more female friends in my life). But women convinced me not to need them and here we are; I don't need them in my life. They got what they wanted.

      Of course I'm still interested in a relationship, but as something that I think is unrealistic.
      Although if were to ever settle down it would be on my terms, I wouldn't put up with excessive demands or expectations. Because I'm not pining for female affection I have the will to make sure she's a truly good woman or she can go home.

      Anyway, do what you need to. Just know there's the other option if you need it.

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What Girls Said 11

  • No, I think it's 50/50 unless one of them is willingly giving the other person more power.

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  • What does that even mean?

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    • @Pamina

      It means it's up to women to decide

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    • Yep. When it comes to finding a partner for life, we all do.

    • @Pamina

      Well generally men have to take the bigger risk but yes your right

  • Nope women hope the same amount of power as men

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    • @Kimisha17

      I am suggesting they hold more

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    • @kimisha17

      But there are girls who want men to do it all

    • I would treat a guy the same way I want him to treat me

  • Yes I do. 😏 🙃

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    • @Itssssonlyyymeee

      I am doomed

  • no way

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    • @snowboardbroad

      I like your name but most of the time it's true that girls pick

  • Lol no

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  • No that relationship will definitely not work

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    • @CocoXD

      I meant in the initial stages when the girl says yes or no

  • If I did have such a power, why am I not using it sensei?

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    • Have men approached you?

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    • Have women approached you?

    • Not really, a little. But I still don't feel I'm good enough for a girls love

  • Not at all, any woman who says yes is lying to herself. Dating is from both sides you can’t date someone against their will so of course both sides hold power. It’s more about how you play it.

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  • Nope, it's 50/50 unless one of them are more involved than the other. In that case there shouldn't be a relationship.

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    • It should be 50/50 but well that's just not how it is.

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    • Good

    • Good?

  • Nope. It’s 50/50, just in different aspects.

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    • I want a soulmate

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    • *most

    • I want true love and affection

What Guys Said 32

  • Early in the relationship women hold the power of selection and intimacy that make the balance of power shift in their favour. The power of selection is they chose whom they want to date romantically. Men make a choice but you'll have many more men competing for the same woman and she'll make her choice. Once that choice is made the power of intimacy kicks; she controls when and under what circumstances to become intimate. Again the man will try, and unless he rapes (sick bastard) she has the power over when to become intimate.

    After the woman becomes intimate in many situations the man's interest wanes and the balance of power shifts in his favour. These are the fuckboys, the ones who get what they want and leave. Women that pursue the fuckboys aren't going to be successful in turning him into a relationship guy and will be at a power deficit.

    Assuming you have a traditional arrangement (real relationship) the balance of power does not shift so heavily after intimacy. Both partners enjoy the relationship and are equal, so a 50/50 scenario exists. It will ebb and flow (control over remote, etc.) but generally it will be equal.

    So no - I don't believe women have all the power but they do in the early stages and from there it depends on the man / woman and how they act and feel.

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  • Socially it is all over the place and either can have the upper hand in demand. BUT sexually, a woman can just walk up to a willing man and have sex on the spot if she so desires while the converse is not so because it is very hit and miss for a man to try the same thing even if she is willing.

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  • If they held 100% of the power why would so many of them complain about guys who hit and quit? Guys who won't commit to them? Why would many of them stay with guys who cheat and mistreat them?

    No, that's nonsense. It only seems that way to guys who for whatever reason struggle to get or keep them interested. This skews your ideas of how the dating game works.

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  • No, I don't think that at all. If you're an unattractive guy for lack of effort, then you will have no power. But if you work at it, get a good wardrobe together, build some muscle, gain confidence, and learn how to talk to girls, you will have options. And if you do all that and have some standout feature like great height or looks or talent, you will have girls lined up wanting to be with you.

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    • @HikerDude

      I have a terrible height, I am only 5'6

    • Work on other things, then. Height isn't everything.

    • @HikerDude

      I hope not

  • In the single interaction yes but as a whole no. Women get to accept or deny the mans advances. But in the scheme of things men can wait for decades while women cannot. So i can date from 18 to 45 before i get married and have say 4 kids. A woman ought to settle down by 28 the latest if she wants to have 4 kids. And tbh the 28 year olds dont have the selection of men a 20 year old does. So yeah men get rejected a lot but if we stick to our guns we will get what we want for sure.

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    • @bamesjond0069

      Not all men want kids, I don't want kids. And I want to be the type of guy that gets accepted by every girl

    • No guy gets accepted by every girl. You are setting yourself up for failure.

    • @bamesjond0069

      But being rejected sucks

  • Not 100% but somewhere between (60-80%)

    Though the only way to make it 50/50 is to make women desire men as much as men desire women.

    There are tonnes of guys out there looking for women so much that It annoys them.

    With the large amount of available guys , women don't need to put in much effort to get a relationship.

    As well as controlling the thing the guys want, giving them more power than guys.

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  • Pretty much, yeah. They literally put no effort outside of working on their appearance, which we all have to do anyways.

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    • @Rangers

      I wish I were a girl

  • Yeah, pretty much so. They are the ones that have to give the green light to start dating and most of the time they are the ones that end it too. Same goes for marriage and divorce, it is almost always the woman that is the instigator.

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    • @Lance1965

      I should give up on dating

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    • Stop being so defeated and pessimistic before you turn into an incel.

    • @azzntittiz

      Haha I read red pill stuff like that, it doesn't help

  • Yes. They hold the sexual power, therefore they hold the power over everything else. But when we as men stop allowing them to use sex as a tool... they lose all power.

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  • Not 100% but usually because a guy has to ask a woman out for the first date she holds some power over it

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  • Only if you give them that power. It's pretty easy to say no and walk away anytime you want for any reason.

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  • I wouldn't say 100% but it does depend on the situation...

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  • I would say they hold about 75/25 when it comes to dating power.

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  • I wouldn't say so. I mean a confident , suave guy who know how to socialise and flirt can get many women at his feet the same way a beautiful woman can get many men at her feet.

    If women had the sole advantage then players wouldn't get any. Yeah a woman gets to choose but if a guy is socially skilled enough he can wiggle himself into her radar and have her forget the competition.

    The dating playing field is 50/50 both men and women have equal chances. The thing is that most guys have no clue what they are doing socially

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  • In dating? I think so. Maybe not 100 though, but more than the men.

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    • @Reatus

      I'm doomed

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    • Good luck.

    • Reatus

      Thanks

  • No, I would say it's 50-50. In a perfect world, you could decide together.

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  • Considering how many complain about men, I would say no.

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  • Only if you let them. The more desperate you are the less power you have.

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  • Yes.

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    • @LegateLanius

      I should give up

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    • I don't. Nobody wants me.

    • @LegateLanius

      That's how it is for most men. We are lowly peasants compared to women

  • lol no, especially if you date me.

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    • @constantine15

      Lol why?

    • Only beta males allow their women to have the power. I don't let them play games or to let them think they can get away with certain behaviors, if not, I will leave them. I am not afraid of taking the lead and taking control... but not be controlling/abusive (big difference).

      Simple answer is to not let them, but take charge with respect.

    • @constantine15

      Sound advice

  • They have a pussy. They hold it all.

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    • @Bikeboy

      I don't care about that as much as I do having love and a soulmate. A guy can go to any house party and do that

  • Not 100... probably around 70-80% though.

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  • YES. So it should be …..

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  • It's more 60/40 split.

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    • @jaejaeraa

      With percentages meaning what?

  • Not in my relationships lol

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  • Yes it is

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  • Nope. Only tools come across that

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  • Some do

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  • Dear god I hope its 50/50

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    • @macnom

      Me too but nature has other plans for us

  • Not all, but certainly most.

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