How to cope with being permanently single?

Im 25 and iv never been in a relationship.

In a lot of ways it doesn't bother me; I have a full on college course, a part time job and two sports to keep me busy. I also get on well with my brother and have a few friends (though no really close friends) so I shouldn't be lonely.
But on the other hand, everyone my age seems to be in relationships and I do want to be with someone myself.

But I don't want to spend my time focusing on what I haven't got, especially since its getting more and more common for people to never have relationships. So I guess I'm looking for some advice on how to not focus on being single, how to cope with being alone.

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  • I have been in and out of relationships for the last 10 years since my wife died. I had 2 3 year relationships and a 2 year relationship and I don't think that I can be single and happy. I miss having some one that loves me like you will get in a relationship. But if you ever break up you will know a pain that hurts worse than a deep cut. And is hard to get over. But you can get over it. I have more times than I ever wanted. In the bible God created Eve to be his companion so he would not be lonely. But you may or may not believe in this so I will leave that to you. I am lonely in a room full of people.

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  • ''everyone my age seems to be in relationships''

    Who cares what everyone your age is doing? if that influences your reason for wanting a partner, then it's foolish.

    What the majority are doing is nothing to base any decisions on. Most people are not even awake..

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  • 25 is still young. Just because you haven’t met someone yet doesn’t mean you are doomed to being single forever. Put yourself out there sometime, and until then, just work on doing what makes you happy. That happy energy will attract someone to you. 🙂

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  • Let's see... you DO want a guy or you DON'T?

    My bet is if you focus on be AWESOME and pursuing your life goals and aspirations, some perfect guy will come along to share it with. Funny what happens when you focus on what's really important, and the rest of everything falls into place.

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  • I think you're looking at it the wrong way don't think of it as coping with being single just think of it as you're taking time to get to know yourself at some point you'll be in a relationship you'll find someone everybody does but for now you getting to know yourself and making yourself a better person so that when the right person comes along you'll be ready. Just do you go on with your normal life have fun just live I want to Thomas Wright you meet somebody

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  • I love being single and having a girlfriend is too much commitment and I feel like that’s a hard job but I have to get in one at some point 😭 because there are a few that I wouldn’t mind being committed to them

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  • Make your ambitions your focus. The world with all of it's couple's will not come to an end just because you may be single your whole life. Humanity will live on.

    I'm the opposite. I have no ambition or the means to financially support anyone. I guess if you actually wanted to not be single there would have to be a compromise or sacrifice you would have to make for that significant other.

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  • Just think of how much it sucks having to be tied to someone like a cancerous tumor hanging on you. Being single and doing whatever you want anytime you want is the best.

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  • You said the answer, by focusing on what you do have. And be thankful you aren't in a potentially bad relationship, just to say you're in a relationship.

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  • Love urself more but I'm not talking about masturbation. Do the things u love n add more to it. Cope up with ur jealousy attributes. Understand ur unknown desire of what u like do to harm people. Understand if u want to be a bad or good person. Define it with examples. Differentiate them then act on it. Stop guessing about reality.

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  • Well first figure out why you want a relationship is it sexual needs or emotional /romantic needs. If its sexual masturbate or hookup. If emotional replace it with friends and doing different things that make you happy

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  • You seem to have an active enough lifestyle where you shouldn't have time for a solid relationship anyway. If you are craving sex, find a partner with the same intentions and take it from there.

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  • Me neither. i'm 24 and i never had a girlfriend. i wish i had one but its hard to find - www.instagram.com/lucasgg.23/

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  • I myself have never been in a relationship nor ever wanted to. I like being single as I have time for myself which I enjoy. I would say enjoy life and worry about a boyfriend later.

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  • 25 years without a relationship and you don't know how to cope? Seem to have a pretty stable strategy.

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  • You are not ready for a relationship, give yourself time and you will find someone you are associated with one day

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  • Just find someone who just wants occasional sex to take care of your physical needs, and you'll be set.

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  • Explore your hobbies, travel, learn new skills (cooking, art, etc...), get into good shape,. AKA do things to better yourself and have fun and enjoy life. If you spend it worrying about not finding a boyfriend, then you will waste your youthful years worrying about something stupid and you will regret it later. If you happen to find a boyfriend along the way, then awesome, but use your energy elsewhere. You don’t need a boyfriend to have a good life, I’m able to do it myself with not having a girlfriend, I’ve accepted that females have no interest in me (atleast the ones I’m interested in) so I’ve focused my energy on the things I love to do. It’s always good to have friends though, don’t go completely alone.

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    • I have that problem too. Females not being interested in me. It does tell me something though. Most men that are kinda assholes get the girls because I guess that is what they like. Any way that's the way it is in my town.

  • I like hobbies myself. Honestly where I am in my life another person more often than not would get in the way of what I want to accomplish which is bettering myself. Whether it is spending time on one of my martial arts, learning new technologies or new techniques for some of my interests the one thing all those pursuits have in common is that they all use up time. They also all have costs. Some like shooting or tech are expensive others like wood working, hiking or crocheting are reasonablly cheap after initial investment. A woman would undoubtedly detract from both my time and money. I've they would be in the way.

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    • My long term goal is to go on trips around the world maybe invite a friend along for the journey. No preset plan, hell I don't even want to know where I am going. I simply want enough money so that I can afford to go off on a trip 2 or 3 times a year to who knows where. I want to get to the airport and simply choose a place I haven't been from the overseas flights.

  • Stop wishing for more than you got. Relationships are not great when they end. Best thing is regular sex.

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  • I’m 27 and I’m the same boat but like you I’m full time college student and secondly I’m a full time sales supervisor

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  • Smile at men you like. One will ask you out. It really doesn't take much effort or worry.

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  • It makes me happy to know that other people are happy.

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  • Embrace it, you have more time to yourself and your goals than people in a relationship.

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  • You will die single:)) because you are hiding yourself even in internet

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  • Accepting and understanding that you dont need anyone to be happy.

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  • Drive your libido (sexual energy) to intellectual projects.

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  • You’ll be fine there are more guys that have never been in relationship than girls

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  • My first relationship was when I was 24, and lasted a month. You will learn.

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  • Honestly, it's not that hard for women to find a decent guy. You're just not trying.

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  • I guess you need to socialize more. Im sure you are beautiful, someone will notice you eventually.

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  • All I got to say is, try approaching guys maybe?

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  • Get a pussy

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What Girls Said 7

  • I hear you. I am glad you recognized how you feel and you want to find proactive ways to deal with this. Inner-peace will be your best friend.

    “I don't want to spend my time focusing on what I haven't got.”
    Good for you for being aware of this! One of the ways I cope is actually focusing on the many blessings I already have. You said you get along well with your brother and that is beautiful. There are a lot of people out there who don’t get to say that. You’re also on a roll with your busy schedule! Some people never make it to college or the sports team. I like finding something to be grateful for whenever I remember. The more I do this, the more natural it comes to me. Overtime, my inner-peace grows.

    What also helps me cope is doing more of what makes me happy like finding ways to help people, spending time with my cat, listening to or discovering music, dancing, making art, traveling, feeding my knowledge by reading or watching informative videos, taking in the beauty of nature, getting a massage, etc. This also helps you become your own best friend and you start becoming someone that other people want around.

    I mentioned helping people because I was surprised how random acts of kindness helped me with coping. I’m sure you have an hour or so of free time where you can help someone out with something. You may have a lot of things that’s you no longer need that you can donate to someone. Maybe there is a classmate who needs help studying. You can also make someone’s day with a compliment or friendly conversation.

    I am also single, and while my heart is open to a romantic relationship with the right person, I don’t feel the need to actively look. I don’t even look for casual sex. Due to past experiences, I shifted my priorities and honestly it’s much more peaceful this way. Also being single helps me get to know myself better and figure out what I want, an who I want to be. Plus the best relationships often come when one isn’t looking 😉

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  • How to cope with being single? Just be thankful with who you are and try to have fun with people and things you like to have fun with.
    Taking long walks while listening to music, prayer, journaling and also just making new friends might help.

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  • I doubt you’ll be permanently single.

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  • So you’ve been single by choice right?

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  • I’m single, 22, have had relationships none being serious. It’s not an issue. Honestly, it’s nothing but drama!!!

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  • Don't think of it
    Get some hobbies to forget

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