- Catfishers and Scammers
- Too many fake profiles
- You have to be good looking or you are screwed
- These sites just take your money
- They are all just hook up sites
- All the above
Most Helpful Girls
I’ve made a few connections on dating apps that weren’t bad. One thing I noticed was how people posted lengthy criteria in their bios and “don’t contact me if blablahblah.” It’s good to know what you want in a partner but on dating sites, it seems like both men and women want to find someone they’re unlikely to find due to their criteria.
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I have never tried any of the online dating sites because most of them are just another legal scam sites trying to make a big buck on the back of those desperate enough to use their services.
To me, the traditional way to find the person of your dreams cannot be replaced by those marketing and expensive gimmicks of the creators of dating sites.
Honestly, how many people creating a dating profile give an true image of themselves. There is always some detail that needs to be hidden, modified, embellished or otherwise "forgotten".
Photoshop or any of those free online image editing software can make a prince out of a hunchback or a beauty queen out of a person botched by nature.
Latest after the 20th first dates with 100% guaranteed matches do you awaken and realize that you are not an inch further than when you paid $$$ for the dream profile on those dating sites that guarantee you success.
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Most Helpful Guys
Meet people IN PERSON. 80-90% of people use online sites either as hook-up apps or as a fantasy (as in, they're a 4 out of 10, but they think they deserve at LEAST a 9.5). That makes it mostly a waste of time. Plus, a huge amount of time, people end up talking with people who don't live nearby, which means they never/nearly never get to see them in person, and LDRs are a complete waste of time and energy.
DATE LOCAL and meet people in person. You cut through most of the BS that way.
I've tried dating sites and apps, I still try them, but I'm no longer naive enough to think something will truly come from those sites. But there's still that small part of me that wants to believe those sites and apps might work, that's why I haven't given up on them entirely.
But from my experience, such as the other day on the mingle site, a girl sent me a wink, then a message the next day, then another wink. I hadn't responded until then because her profile was empty aside from a photo. But I finally decided to send her a message asking to know more about her interests. Her response was, "we can talk about our interests soon, but right now I'd like to hear what your experience is with this website".
Honestly, the response wasn't far from what I expected, only in this case dangling a carrot on a stick that would never come. But at least it was with a free dating site. It's similar to other dating sites, these days, either the women get overwhelmed from email responses from guys, or they only date guys of their religion, or it's actually a cyber bot or a scammer.
As for dating apps, women on there either ghost a person if the message doesn't navigate their invisible minefield, or they're bots.
Again this is just my experience, I know other people have success with the sites and apps. How... I have no idea.
Though several years ago I did actually get a few first dates from dating sites, even then they were odd. One girl performed the date as though it were an interview and then after the "15 minute block" actually told me something to the effect of, you may go now. Then as I confusedly stood up, realized she had not only continued sitting, but took out a book to read while checking her watch.
I don't know, it's just weird.