How important is physical beauty for most men?

I'm just wondering if physical beauty is more important to most men. It seems like nowadays men (or at least the guys I've dated) would rather chase after an Instagram looking model or hot girls than the average/normal pretty next door type of girl who has the world to offer. I've even heard my guy friend say that every guy wants the baddest chick and rate's women on a scale 1-10 on how hot they are, which seems really superficial. It sounds like beauty supercedes inner beauty and intellect and that your worth depends on how physically attractive you are.
What are your thoughts? Thanks :-)

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  • Where are all these girls dating unattractive guys that are full of 'inner beaut?'

    Show me pics of your gfs with their bfs and how much looks don't play the dominant part of their selection process.

    Look at the guys getting the most girls... do you really think it is their inner beauty is what makes them popular?

    Girls may not choose the hottest guy they can get, but they don't date far down from him.

    Show pics of all the boyfriends your girlfriends are dating who are significantly less attractive than the girls. I don't think inner beauty coincidently just happens to be contained in the beautiful people.

    90% of your female friends are dating guys who are their equal in looks.

    Just because a girl chooses a guy she has a good connection with doesn't mean looks aren't the primary deciding factor. She just chooses among a group of guys near equal to her looks and picks the one with "inner beauty."

    She doesn't just blindly look for inner beauty in men first and then accepts whatever he happens to look like.

    No she choose inner beauty from a selection of guys who she already finds attractive.

    Dating apps are all about looks... you don't read their profile first and then look at their looks. You look at their looks and then and ONLY THEN do you look at their profile.

    For BOTH men and women looks matter more than any other factor. They just matter a little more to the average man.

    When looks matter most to both men and women, just because the woman will SOMETIMES look for more 'value' in a guy AFTER accepting his looks, doesn't make her any less superficial because she doesn't look into WHO he us until he gets past her superficial LOOKS filter first.

    What he looks like, what he does for a living, how much money he makes, how tall he is etc etc. etc. It is ALL superficial.

    A guy can have all the inner beauty in the world and a girl can still not feel and sparks. Inner beauty does not create heat, passion or sparks. A girl can't make herself feel attraction to inner beauty. He can have all the inner beauty in the world and she will feel zero passion inspired by his inner beauty... even if he spends his days saving drowning puppies and feeding the homeless.

    None of that can compete with a hot guy (who isn't a complete dick) looking at you from across the room with a look in his eyes that says he knows exactly what he is going to do to you to make your toes curl. Even though he didn't save a single puppy today.

    Big generalization but you get my point.

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  • Looks are not important as girls usually assume they are and guys will anyhow almost always settle for someone who is less than their view of what perfect would be.

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  • Most men would actually get into a relationship with an average looking girl with nice personality. It's enough for them that they are kinda attracted.
    But they will still be jerking off to some 10/10 fake sluts from porn or instagram, and I honestly hate them for that.

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  • For most men it's 95% looks and 5% other stuff.

    They think that they like smart women and all but it ain't so true. I have seen my male friends saying stuff like "oh I want her to have good personality and be intelligent" but what they end up being with in 80% of cases is a conventionally attractive woman with very mediocre personality and intelligence. They think that she's "really smart" but it ain't really true

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    • Lol you're getting downvoted for speaking the truth. Men just dont want to admit to doing this.

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    • It, s called hypergamy

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  • I'd pick the nice girl next door over the Victoria's secret model any day of the week. I totally do the 1-10 thing too but I don't think guys generally put too much stock into that. Keep in mind we do the asking out, so initial appearance is all we have to start with. If you rank as a 1 I'd probably never consider approaching you all to be honest. That said, that scale is fairly flexible and I don't think I've ever ranked anyone as a 1 before. I used to joke with friends that girls who were under aged or far too old are negative ranked, but it was really just for our own amusement at the time. I'd probably rank the woman in the thumb nail of this post pretty low actually. She's hot, but she's also pretty unrealistic which makes me not really care too much about her. Why waste time wishing for something fictional. I'd be pretty happy with a small harem of girls who lived and breathed for me too, but that's such a pipe dream fantasy that I don't ever consider it as an option, and if it somehow came to pass I'd be so damn suspicious that I'm being set up that I'd be unable to enjoy it. Perfection doesn't exist, so when something seems perfect I tend to avoid it, or at least proceed with caution.

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  • Simple

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  • Maybe at first but looks fade.
    What's actually important is who she is as a person and also the way she makes you feel.

    Bad character can nullify good looks while good character amplifies and accentuates a person's beauty. But if you're just looking for a hook up you're not gonna consider anything beyond what is superficial.

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  • TLDR: smart and funny always wins over looks, at least for me.

    I think it's pretty obvious that most men like to look at, what society considers beautiful girls/women, so do I. HOWEVER, if you're the most gorgeous woman but I can't have a fun time with you or deep conversations I'll always prefer an average looking girl who's smart and has an actual personality. And for me it's the biggest turn on if she's smart, so I'll always choose the smart average looking girl over the hot dumb one.

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  • Only a *baseline* level of attractiveness is necessary. Guys are by default attracted to like 70%-80% of women. Most women are attractive "enough".

    Guys will certainly prefer an Instagram-looking model, and if they can get one, they likely will want to. But, they ultimately aren't anywhere near as picky as women are overall and will give many different types of women a chance. Really, guy's standards are too low, in a lot of circumstances, in my opinion.

    Everyone is ultimately shallow. We all want things that will enhance our own life. It's just a matter of what we think enhances our lives. For instance, women will not typically be interested in a guy who is mentally ill or has challenges he can't overcome, in life. Even if he has a beautiful soul, it's not about that. It's about what he can do for her. Guys will typically give women like that a chance, or actively want to help her work through it. So, we are both shallow, just in our own ways.

    But, game is still in play. Cleopatra was supposed to have been ugly. But, she's wildly regarded as one of the most sensual and alluring women of all time. Why? Because she had game. It's not *only* physical attractiveness that guys are interested in. But it is the biggest thing, at face value.

    So, if you're not an Instagram-looking model or a hot girl, then you are starting from a lower value point. Which means you have to make up for that with exuding femininity, seductiveness, and sensuality. And then, even if you don't look like an Instagram model, you can easily beat out the Instagram models.

    Game will beat type every single time. So, work on your game.

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  • Come on. How old is your guy friend 25. He's already peaked sexually and probably doesn't know how to talk to girls (A woman )
    Then you still need to support her emotionally, financial. She wants to tell safe when she's with him.

    That 1-10 crap is just site seeing bull shit.
    A real man is still looking for someone to trudge the road of happy destiny with.
    That's the problem throw isn't it.
    Guys don't know how to take care of girls any more.

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  • I think physical beauty is what gets the initial attraction going. And so, I'm more urged to take interest and asking out the girl who is physically beautiful (I really never do I just have more urge to). However when it comes to a relationship, its all about the person within it. I can date a girl who may not be the most beautiful person I've seen, but has a heart of gold. I can't date a model whose a bitch.

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  • well, has to be some attraction and for me physical shape... they take care of themselves and are in decent shape (8-9)... is high. Physical beauty...7-8. A girl could have a scar on her face and be physically beautiful because it is the... Inner beauty that makes the difference (10). Other qualities also important.

    We do start out visual though, it is first impression.

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  • Physical attraction IS important. When we see a girl from far away, the look is the first thing that comes to your mind and creates attraction. If you and another girl are soulmates with same interests but you think she is ugly and not your type, you will be best friends but a sexual relationship will be hard.

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  • True. Some men are more then others. Men are wired by sight and other things. For me: this is what I look for but personality always been first.

    Personality (Is first. Don’t want to date a witch!)
    Career
    She have to be interesting
    Looks
    Habits.

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    • But women judgments interesting and can be as shallow too

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    • I don't know I dated way out of my box because I enjoy there personality. Didn’t care for her acne face but still dated because of her energy

  • 1st impression physical beauty... any man says otherwise got issues.
    But it will never stick to any man for long. There's always someone more good looking.
    Basically even if a girl is not a classical beauty, she can definitely dress up nicely and take care of her looks.
    Almost the girls I fell for when I was younger, will not strike as beautiful in the first place. But they were very witty, playful and carefree, luckily I could finally landed with the beautiful woman I met...😉

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  • Honestly, I care about physical beauty nearly as much as I care about a woman's personality and intelligence. She doesn't need IG aesthetics, but she should be a girl whom I personally find to be pretty, which is simply a girl who's at least capable of completing a hike with minimal complaints, has long hair and balanced physical features, and a radiant smile

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  • I don't think I care really because I have been attracted for some unknown reason to the most unattractive women on occasion and I can't explain it. The ones that were down to earth and had some common sense I tended not to care as much about looks.

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  • You're making the assumption that a very attractive girl doesn't have anything to offer other than her looks. That's not always true. Just like an average girl doesn't always have much to offer.

    Anyways, if I had two girls with the same personality but different looks, I'd choose the better looking one. If I had two girls with the same looks but different personalities, I'd choose the one with the more compatible personality to mine

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  • Beauty doesn't supersede "personality".
    It just so happens that every single person in the world happens to have a "personality", so it isn't a particularly strong selling point.
    Beauty, on the other hand, is pretty rare.

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  • Pretty important. It's how our interest is kept. Girls are the same way-- the simple difference is that many guys have a much wider range and variety of what they consider to be fuckable/attractive than what girls do.
    "rates women on a scale 1-10 on how hot they are, which seems really superficial" It's not. It's what everyone does. It's not a big deal. Some people are more attractive than others; rating systems are a show of that. That's all.

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  • Your guy friend is wrong about most guys. Yes, a girl has to look good enough to be attracted to her. But she doesn't have to be model-hot or even close to it. And guys who go around mentally assigning numbers are definitely a minority.

    That said, looks are the first thing you notice about someone you meet for the first time - a personality isn't something you notice walking down the street.

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  • She can be below avergae but my type which I wouldn't mind actually I wouldn't give it a second thought , we live in a captailist world which consume us financially and spiritually it's shameful to measure a person on 1-10 scale a person is much much more than looks a person is a sum of life experiences, pain, scars, laughs, friends and family.
    Anyway it's important to have physical acceptance to the person you wanna be in relationship with or else it's gonna cause problems to the relationship

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  • Physical beauty is important becuase it shows your fertile, healthy, take good care of yourself and probably would make a great mother!

    But after talking with a girl there are more indicators (family background, habbits, outlook on life, how she holds herself) that also influence our attraction for girls!

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  • you can't f*** inner beauty, so it comes down to what each guy wants and overwhelming amount of guys want sex more than relationships therefore physical beauty is important to men but of course this comes into conflict with women who despite putting so much focus into their appearance tend to want relationships more than casual sex so basically there's a lot of rejection going both ways

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  • Same goes with males and females, we must feel some level of physical attraction to someone in order to be romantically interested in them. Usually that level starts at a 5/10. This doesn't mean we try extra hard for the 9/10 over the 5/10. Physical attraction is the starter and her personality is what reels us in.

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  • I'll just say this. My me to want to date, for me to want a woman, to be drawn to her for me to want to become serious about a girl I have to find something about her physically attractive. Regardless if anyone else thinks she's attractive. I have to find her attractive.

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  • Personal order of interest
    1. Loyal, trustworthy
    (Large gap between 1 and 2)
    2/3. Shares interests
    2/3. personality
    (Small gap between 3 and 4)
    4. Looks
    (Large gap between 4 and 5)
    5. other things including money etc

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  • It’s important to me, very, but it’s not the only thing that’s important to me and certainly other qualities can make an otherwise very attractive woman suddenly unattractive to me.

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  • Looks matter. You have to be sexy enough to turn the guy on. But that doesn't mean supermodel. It’s a gateway to attractiveness... kind of like the “you must be this tall to ride” posters in front of a roller coaster. Once you pass the initial looks test, it doesn’t matter anymore.

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    • Example of a sexy female celebrity?

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    • @xyz94 True. So an example of a celebrity that's still super hot without makeup is Avril Lavigne.

    • Thanks, I think Avril is pretty. I was expecting you to say some glamour model with huge plastic breasts! Haha.

  • I prefer girl-next-door type. I mean this is an exceptional example as a celebrity, but I like ones far short of the supreme girl-next-door vibe:
    How important is physical beauty for most men?

    As for "inner beauty", I have no idea what that's supposed to mean. With Emma Stone she has an "inner beauty", I guess, but it expresses itself outwardly. Look at the confidence and humor here:

    https://youtu.be/hS-Jwbqkdbw

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    • She's super confident. It expresses itself outwardly. I've never seen "inner beauty" which didn't express itself outwardly in this sense through sociability, confidence, humor, etc. So to me inner and outer beauty often tied together -- at least they overlap -- they're not completely independent of each other.

      Some girls here down-voted me because someone asked if I preferred Jennifer Aniston to Angelina Jolie. And I was, "Hell yeah!" Cause Jennifer Aniston looks way more confident and humorous than Angelina Jolie, not to mention fun. I don't want some girl gazing at me in some weird seductive way over a date. I want a girl who laughs a lot. And that usually shows up in terms of "looks".

    • And "genuine". Maybe that's what attracts me to girl-next-door type. She's down-to-earth. If she's sociable it's like you can have a conversation maybe with Emma Stone and figure out her character, to a large extent, with a fairly exchange. She's "transparent". She's not over-the-top except in terms of her confidence and lack of fear for being judged negatively. This is a beautiful quality to me. I don't have some celebrity crush -- but when people ask me what celebrity I like best, I like to use her as an example of what sort of characters attract me most.

  • It's very important up to a point. The main goal of looks is to show you can be childbearing and healthy. It's really anything but superficial (up to a point)

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  • Looks can change in a heartbeat.

    I admit that as a man I'm visually wired. And I'm attracted to a particular "look" on a purely physical level.

    That being said, I've never dated anyone who has that "look".

    I met my wife online in 2001 when dating sites were a hazardous place. We communicated by email, then by Microsoft Messenger - on a dial-up modem -, then by phone.

    I told her "I love you" the first time before I'd seen a picture of her.

    The current trend for instant gratification is destroying lives.

    It's a throwaway culture. Even lives have no value.

    Unless they're "pretty" enough.

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  • Dear girls, if u think man or boy has any problems with beautiful people then u r wrong. It's u who r limiting urself. Say yes to every abstract art or ugly as u describe, then u'll see. Man never had any problems with beautiful people.

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  • I think the complete opposite is truth or at least with most of my friends. Yes sometimes boys talk about the looks of some girls but often it is the female side who load this whole pressure on themselves. LOOKS AREN'T EVERYTHING

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  • I prefer an attractive guy but basically any guy with a good personality can attract me - regardless of what he looks like.

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  • I believe initial physical attraction gets a persons attention being that the appearance is a first impression. But depending on that persons personality after getting to know them a little more can either make or break that attraction. Im not sure why guys oogle over instagram model pictures. I can't see why anyone would actually be wanting the girl putting it all out there for the world to see. All things truly beautiful dont need to ask for attention.

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    • Most girls drool over hot instagram model , why?

    • I personally dont so im not certain. But I've always been in a committed relationship so I dont follow "models" out of respect for my significant other and simply because i'm just not entertained by it. Im mainly referring to the models that have multiple pictures being half naked. Its definitely attention seeking and thats a big turn off to me. But if its something that motivates you such as a personal trainer account, or you're single and want to follow accounts of half naked models like that then so be it. But im not sure who would actually want to date the girl/guy who was constantly posting pictures of themselves that basically shout "hey look at how hot I am. Your welcome for you daily dose of me" #cocky #conceited

  • Why do people always think girls who are hot can't be smart and funny and "a world to offer" if they are hot its probably an indicator they take good care of their body which is really just an indicator of how you take care of the inside too the rest blame it on genetics and just how men are made what you are attracted to you are attracted too

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  • It matters 100% lol they solely approach for looks in the first place.
    It’s not like men are mind readers who can discern a beautiful personality from a girls smell or the way her lips are shaped 😂

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    • Girls also do that.

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    • Do you think how much physical beauty is important for most women? Opposite of this question.

    • @msg812 it’s vital obviously. If a guy ain’t cute I won’t notice him to begin with

  • Girls wake up! men don't care about your 10,000 educational degrees or how many books you read over the summer🤣..

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  • Apparently it's very important to them. It's one of the first things they check about you to decide whether they want to approach you or not. Some guys definitely rate girls on a scale of 1-10 and I've heard guys do it in relation to me before.

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  • Eh my experience is that looks are about an 7 of importance. They can “date down” but it’s obvious when they get upset with you.

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  • Babe. Not trying to be mean. But if I dont know a guy yet. What Im gonna date him for yet? Yes looks , We all like beautiful things. Why would I waste time with someone Im not attracted sexually? Its not like im gonna be like "Gurlll , Look at that guy , he has a great soul". Lets be honest , looks are what make us go near , and personality is what keep us there. For example. When I started dating my boyfriend both liked each other for looks , its clear , after that we got more and more connected on a emotional level. Now after 2 years. I gained and lost weight so many times. He didn't dump me. Same with him , he had problems , he had some horrible haircuts and got through a lot of changer. Guess what? We still like each other. But lets be real , looks make us select first.

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  • Lke i think a lot of guys do that but there are a lot of women doing that too

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  • I think most love starts out by being physically attracted to one another, later comes the true love which also includes inner beauty.

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    • but for women love comes first then sexual attraction

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    • Because you have said you don't experience sexual attraction until fall in love, but you commented totally opposite.

      I am curious. Then how do you experience sexual attraction.

    • You’re a guy right? I can’t speak for all women, but for me I think I feel sexual attraction just like you. The only difference is that as soon I realise someone has completely different morals or something like that, I will get turned off. So for some people as I get to know them I feel less sexual attraction to them, and for others, as I get to know them, I feel more sexual attraction to them.

  • Even though most guys say that personality, intelligence, humor etc are more important than looks, it is not true in real life. Men still give much more importance to looks than anything else. They would rather settle for an attractive woman with a bad attitude than an average or below average woman with a kind heart.

    However they don't chase perfection the way we do. By that I mean, there are certain things that guys don't care about that we do a lot. A guy doesn't necessarily need you to be flawless looks a doll.

    Only men with class and self-respect would understand that true happiness and contentment in a relationship comes from putting effort into it and looks don't have a lot to do with that.

    P. S. different men have difference preferences in women's looks and that's okay. There is nothing to be insecure about it.

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    • Even though most girls say that personality, intelligence, humor etc are more important than looks, it is not true in real life. Right?

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    • In my experience 95% richest women have extramarital affair and they don't care about money but a hot body.

    • @deliriousmistakess cite your proof that it is 95%.

  • I feel like it is a make or break deal for men. Men correct me if I am wrong. But, I have noticed that since I am about a 7 looks. With about a 9 body. I can attract any man because he wants the sexy parts. But, he does not fall in crazy love because facially it’s not to much to look at. When it comes to having something good. Well, I am Brian’s with morals and they like that... very committed too. But, seems I loose because I’m not that pretty. They end up with me but looking at others always and often. I think it’s a loose situation for any of us females who are not an 8 face.

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    • Ur wrong to some of us. I love it when a woman is confident and loves herself. You can be hot but don't know how to use it lol. It's probably different in the bedroom as well lol

  • I notice attractive guys, but they have to have a good personality for me to keep liking them

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  • It’s like this. A supermodel who isn’t a botch will always have a guy. Basically it’s 50-50

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  • Beauty is just not being fat. If she has a fat face she has a fat personality

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  • It is important to most (same goes for women).

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  • I'd say about as important as height is to us.

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  • Not any more important than they are for women.

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    • I think a little differently. When looking at superficial attraction. Men really only care about looks in women, therefore there's nothing else to compensate. Whereas I'd argue that whilst women also care about looks, other characteristics like success and status also come into play, meaning looks overall become a slightly smaller part of the puzzle.

  • Very important seemly

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  • Not Important to most of them.

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  • Very important
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    ~ Mrs Manson

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  • It’s very important

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  • very

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  • They aren’t important to most of them.

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  • men only care about a girl's looks..

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  • Men care more about me when I show off my curvy body and look sexy , not when I'm dressed average and known as the nerdy girl with the high GPA who got into college at 16.
    Obviously looks are very important to men.
    Thank God I'm asexual , so I dont even care about dating. It's just funny men here are denying the shit they do. At least be man enough to admit it.

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  • When you see someone out in public, the first thing you'll notice/be attracted to is their appearance, so for both women and men, it does hold a fair amount of importance.

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  • I think sth must attract them so they can see the personality awfterwards
    It dosn't happen a lot when you see one's personality before you're really lookin at them and usually people really look at you for the first time when they find you attractive

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  • Very important. Funny thing is some of them have the guts to deny it.

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