This shocked me and now I’m wondering if guys who have said similar things to me in the past weren’t completely full of shit.
Just curious what your guys thoughts are on the subject. Is there ever a reason where “I love you but don’t want a relationship right now” isn’t complete BS and actually the truth? Or is it truly just that you’re not the one if they’re telling you that?
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Sure. There are plenty of people for whom career will come first. There are also plenty of people who just aren't ready and want to work on themselves first, whether it be something they're facing in their lives or some wall in the past that they have to break down before they feel comfortable having a relationship again.
Plenty of people out there don't want the traditional married life and kids - they just want to keep things casual. And I say, more power to them. We've reached a new time in our lives as humans when people don't feel they have to stick to traditional routes - if you want a family and kids, great. If you want to be single for the rest of your life, have casual relationships, or don't believe in the institution of marriage, that's great as well.
The more options people have when it comes to how they live their lives, the better. That way, everyone can have what they want and nobody needs to feel that they HAVE to do what everyone else is doing.
More options= Better for everyone.
Also, you're making the assumption that they were right for each other - but you were on the outside looking in. Anyone who has friends and who has loved before know that friends don't always get it right when it comes to who is or is not THE ONE. Maybe your friend is one of those who wants to keep it casual. Maybe your friend is one of those who wants to work on himself until he can get to a place where he feels he's ready for a relationship. Maybe your friend just isn't really into the girl in question.
People are complex. People are varied. People are individuals first and foremost.
It’s bullshit mostly from my experience. As a teen, I asked a girl out over the phone. She was rejecting me politely & eventually explained “I just don’t want a boyfriend right now.”
Three months later, she was dating my classmate...
I no longer believe any woman who uses that excuse on me. It just won’t work. Every girl attractive enough to grab my attention will always be open to relationships, no matter what they say. And if they reject me for that false reason, I would doubt they’d do the same for Channing Tatum’s doppelgänger
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Wow, he respects himself and her to know that she deserves better than what he can offer her right now. He knows the timing isn't right and isn't going to allow her to consider lowering her standards by asking for something casual because he knows that would only benefit him. He's not a boy, he's a man. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻