Would you be okay with being single for the rest of your life?

I made the decision to never date or have romantic/intimate relationships and I’m happy with my decision. I’ve seen people who say they hate being single or are tired of it. Would you be okay with being single for the rest of your life? If not, why?

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  • No way. I don't like being single and there are lots of great women out there, so I don't see the need to be.

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    • Whats with all the downvotes?

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    • @Volvagia People tend to react quickly on the internet rather than think.

    • @Wammu now that I can agree with

  • I honestly think it is ideal for me. I have dated a bit but honestly it is just a stupid waste of time. Most women just aren't worth it. Then effort that I need to put into the relationship and what I actually get out of it and makes me enjoy it just doesn't line up. I mean I have to deal with all her problems, which in modern society very well likely means she could suffer from a mental illness. I have to deal with her past, which in society now means she most likely slept around. I am expecting to spend a nice bit of my extra income on her in the form of dates, food and gifts for her; to which a lot of girls take advantage of guys for and not just expect it but demand it. From there I have to deal with all the romantic and intimate issues. I am expected to plan dates, gives hugs and cuddles. Something I don't always mind but it is constant and I don't like it all the time. As for intimacy I am expected to be open and talk about my feelings and stuff when I know damn well that she will not keep this person stuff a secret from her friends and will actually try to use anything that I say against me at a later date. So it's best to try and not share to much to begin with. Then there is getting nagged to do things that I don't want to do be it chores or going to weddings or family dinners. Then there is the loyalty and respect. It's only a 50/50 chance that she will stay loyal to you and not cheat and you will actually last as a couple. But then it is even more likely that she will be disrespectful to me at some point in an uncalled for manner.

    And after doing and putting up with a lot of that what do I get out of it. A bit of sex every now and again? I don't have to be alone and maybe create a child or two? Yeah fuck that. The cost heavily out weights the benefits for me and a lot of modern men. Between the girls who are just giving sex away and porn there is enough to keep me getting off. And I honestly rather spend my time alone doing what I want when I want then being commit to someone and having to deal with all their bullshit. I'm honestly more confused by the people that desperately need a relationship, I don't get it besides being so weak and not sure of who they are that they need someone else to feel better.

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    • Bro, you nailed it! If only more people realize that relationships aren't always as great as they expect or believed them to be. Too many deluded people that continuously lie to themselves. Sometimes one has to really think and analyze things so they can realize and see clearly that the grass is greener on the other side after all.

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  • All these people saying they wouldn’t care and they don’t think it matters obviously haven’t seen these completely hopeless old people that have to be put in nursing homes and are COMPLETELY alone for over 10 years cause the rest of their family died and chose not to have any kids or adopt if they couldn’t physically have kids. I’ve worked in a nursing home and a hospital to get a credit in collage and there are SUPER hopeless older people in their 60’s and 70’s and older that have absolutely nothing because they chose not to have kids and make that investment. Nobody came to visit them, nobody was going to accept them in their home without getting payed. You could just SEE the loneliness in those older people that chose not to have any kids cause it would “ruin the fun” or “couldn’t do whatever you wanted”. Listen to me when I say you DO NOT want to be one of those old people in that nursing home alone for over 30 YEARS with no family left, you DO NOT want to be that. No matter how much you think it’s worth it not having kids, it is.

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  • I don't think humans are made to be single their entire lives. Humans are mammals and like most of them, they need to be among their peers.

    As for me, I think this would be possible, albeit with a large number of sacrifices.

    You also must differentiate between single and alone. Single in this context means (as I understand it) without a partner to share the beauties in life, the things that bond 2 people and makes a life fulfilled.

    When placed in a situation that is out of the ordinary, people are very resilient. You learn to adapt to your new environment. It is far from being an easy task but it is feasible.

    As I stated, I could probably do it with a lot of willpower but I would not do it because, when you need somebody most, you find yourself not finding anybody to support you in the most important stage of your life.

    The final years you have left to live.

    You could have had a partner to share the long path with you and then you realize that you will die alone, with only your sorrow and sadness that you made this decision to be single and in this case lonely and alone with your fate...

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    • I doubt you're 18. You spoke with a lot of wisdom

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    • @Bash_Sani I don't intend to. I am just stating that it is possible to be single but it comes at a very high price that I am not willing to pay. This price is so high that no money in the world can buy the love you missed when you had the chance to get it for free and when you need it most, you realize you made the biggest mistake in your life

    • Pure fact.

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What Guys Said 152

  • For me, being single means being not married. I think I can live with a partner and be happy without the benefit of marriage.

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    • A commonly discussed theme though- What real benefits are there from marriage? I mean, other than only having to file one tax return form between the two of you.

    • @TheMadAsshatter85 The benefits of marriage only accrue if both parties are committed to making their marriage work rather than getting a divorce at the first sign of trouble.

    • Unfortunately my friend, that is what quite to many marriages are happening in this time and age. Divorcing at the first sign of hardships.

      Such as him losing his job. Watch her fading away from him gradually.

  • If all I had was a sex partner I think I'd be happy enough.

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    • Kind of like a friend with benefits type of thing?

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    • Being 18 years old I 100% agree with this guy lmao. Don’t really care about the girls personality and shit. I used to try so hard to get to know someone and all they did was take advantage of me. It’s best to stay single tbh. More freedom and you could do whatever the hell you want. It doesn’t make sense to me why people even date. Just a waste of time and a more stressful life.

    • @Nades Yeah, all I would like is basically a happy sexual relationship with a woman in her 40s or 50s.

  • Why not? Nobody has to have a relationship in order to live and to breath. It's a "want" not a "need", unlike how we actually NEED air, water, food, a roof over our heads, etc. The same goes for sex, it's a "want", not a "need". Although one can argue that it's required for reproduction and procreation or we as a species would disappear without it, etc. With a relationship comes many drawbacks and miseries one has to go through. It requires maintenance, just because somebody got into a relationship it doesn't mean they are all set and done for, rather they have to constantly keep up with responsibilities, requires so much effort, patience, compromising, communication, sacrifices, trust, commitment, etc. And I asked myself long ago if that's something I'm fully up for and the answer is always back to No, because it's always difficult enough for me to deal with all the other responsibilities and commitments I currently have. I'm also very cynical and unwilling to trust other people, as people I once thought were my friends had turned their back on me in the past which is part of why I stopped relying and depending on other people anymore.

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  • I will stay a kissless virgin forever. Many reasons for my decision and I'm sure I can do it. The only drawback is seeing the sadness in my parents and grandparents. They are not happy about it. They will have to wait until my now 8 year-old sister to do the job.

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    • Seems like all they really want and expect is that you give 'em some grandkids or great grandkids. These things do happen, more people aren't marrying or having kids than ever before and since things are no longer as stable as it once was, it should not even be a surprise.

  • Not really. I mean the only way I MIGHT be able to get used to it and be okay with it is if I could be financially set, and be able to still have kids. I think at that point, to be ok with it, I'd have to also have assistants and nannies. at a level to be ok with being single, I'd have to be wealthy AND extremely busy... even then, I think I'd feel a bit frustrated. But those would be the only ways I'd be more ok with being single.



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  • I've been singel close to 30 years used to date a lot now i hardly date at all. I've enjoyed it and i may stay single but i do miss the deep talks you can have with a nother like pillow talk was allways good

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  • Seeing how I have spent 31 years being single I have just about given up with being in a relationship so I think it's possible I will be single for the rest of my life.

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  • I have been trying to talk myself into that the last 4 years since my divorce. It is very difficult for me to trust any woman now. But I realized lately that I am just not configured to be alone. I have to be willing to open my heart to another woman even if she is as horrible as many are.

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  • I have never been in a relationship so I don't know to be exact.
    But if my relationship ends in unnecessary drama, betrayal, cheating or whatever bs, I'd rather stay single.

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  • I'm strongly considering going and monking it up at some monastery, or just moving up to a little cabin up in the hills like a hermit. That way it's less painful than explaining to people I'm an unlovable wretch. *Thumbsup*

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  • No! It’s been bad enough being single all 26 years of my life; I wouldn’t want to die as the same nobody I’ve had to live my life as. I may or may not have these feelings however if I happened to be popular with girls in the past anyway, but in this reality, dying having never had such love (after all I’ve fought for) scares the **** outta me! It’s not like I’ll have a 2nd chance after all...

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  • Honestly, I think it is the only option available now...

    Not really okay with it and do try to change it but I am probably too far broken to allow anyone in and been single 19 years next month.

    Pistanthrophobia is a genuine thing!

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  • No i would rather be with someone, cause the thought of dying without loving someone or without someone loving me would be shit.

    Heck i would rather be hated by someone than go though my whole life without hate nor love.

    I know deep down that love and hate don't matter at the end cause we all die and it was all meaningless. But it would still be nice to know someone actaully cares about me.

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    • But with all that said i can denfinalty see why someone might want to be single for the rest of there life.

  • Right now yeah, that is the way I feel. But, maybe I will change my mind if/when I become old and desperate.

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    • All you need is either a pet or maybe adopt somebody and treat them like a student or apprentice and pass on whatever you had learned or know to them if that's what you're concerned about. That's if any of that matters to you.

  • I am perfectly happy being single. I have been single most of my life. But I don't want to be single my whole life. I want to have a partner to have kids with and grow old with. I don't NEED to have a partner. but it is preferred.

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  • I have no idea. I won’t speak for anyone else but if they say they would be ok or wouldn’t. It’s end in discussion.

    I’m happy right now but I would eventually like someone. Maybe I won’t find anyone and right now I’m ok with that too.

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  • I am a single dad , working FT , and have accepted years ago that permanent single-hood goes with that territory. After the marriage I ended , I have no wish to enter any relationship ever again. No bitterness / negativity against women , despite having a lot of bad experiences... but that was my own fault for making bad choices , simply cannot be bothered and am happy with own company.

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  • yes, but not my preference. I'd mis the touch. I like someone to care for, care for me, to live life with. without someone, I make the most of it.

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  • it probably is the worst decision of your life , you just haven't met the right person
    i thought the same as you when i was 22 now im 24 and im almost engaged

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    • Odds are if they are legit and serious about it, they'll stop looking and pursuing others to date completely or pass on everyone that ever asks them out or invite them on a date.

  • I spent many years being single. Having someone in your life is much better. If i find myself single again i would take a little time out, but then get back into dating.

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  • I think so. With the way society is and looks to be, I'd rather stay single. Problem is that certain parts of society may try to make my life more difficult than I want it to be.

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  • I have a girlfriend but I have made up my mind that if this doesn't work out I WILL be single for the rest of my life. I am not getting any younger and have wasted too much of my life dealing with the drama of relationships. It is just not worth it.

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  • "Would you be okay with being single for the rest of your life? If not, why?"

    Yes, of course. I am completely fine with being single for life.

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    • Yes, I have always been single as well.

    • As I said before, we don't need another person to actually live. It's not something that is absolutely necessary. But too many are completely deluded and insist that it's something they need. There are alternatives anyway, one can always get a pet instead. At least a pet would be way more loyal than another person on average.

    • @JudgmentDay

      "As I said before, we don't need another person to actually live. It's not something that is absolutely necessary."

      Yes, that's right.

  • I would especially as a guy in a event of a divorce the guy loses half of his shit. There that now and days just looking or saying hi to a woman can be considered “sexual harassment” why would a guy wanna go through that.

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  • I don't particularly want to but I also do not want to go through all the lies and betrayals I went through in my marriage so I do not expect I will ever endeavour to not be alone again

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  • Absolutely, I enjoy being single. I have all the time I need to do things that make me happy and it gives me freedom

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  • nope nope nope.
    Just no.

    I want someone in my life. A wife, children and eventually grandchildren. Thats a huge source of joy, I do not want to left out.

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  • If relationship I'm in... iffy chance at best... goes south... I'm gonna be myself party with friends and find release with porn , massage spas and escorts... just something might not be meant 4 me

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  • If my only other option is to be with women that will make me miserable, then yes. Otherwise, I wouldn't give up the chance to grow old and die happy with someone one day.

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  • I didn't learn about women, pickup, seduction, and becoming a better man to get the best out of life to be single forever. . .

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    • It's a lot of work. Even after one attains a relationship, otherwise it would all be over just like that when one least expects it to. And then one would have to start all over again and do better than they had before.

    • @JudgmentDay It's never going to BE over.

    • @Wammu I realized that is just the reality of it. And too many people are complete deluded to think and believe that it would be over once they have attained a relationship and then they don't get it as to how come and why their relationship is over when it's over. Once I realized how it actually is, I decided that meh, it really isn't all that important, we don't need another person all just in order to live, just stick to the basics, the things that we actually need instead.

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  • If it meant losing my current relationship, I wouldn't be okay with it. If I had never had a relationship, then maybe. Although I would find it quite silly to rule out dating completely, especially at my age, when everything could still happen. I wouldn't make a decision like that.

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  • Yes I would. I've been single for most of my life and I know I can handle being single. Not sure I can handle being married because I have never been in that situation in the past.

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  • No, but accepting of it yes.. rather be alone than with the wrong one.

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  • Well technically yes I could do it, but I would be extremely bothered by it. I have never been in a relationship before, kissed or had sex yet and I'm 19. Never had a boyfriend. But I REALLY want one, as I am a HUGE hopeless romantic and my dream is to just have as intimate and close of a relationship as possible to someone. Just giving my love to others gives me a "high", as I am a huge people-pleaser. I have not been in a relationship yet because I'm waiting and looking around for the right person who deserves my deepest love (and someone whom I know will love me forever)! As I grow older, the desire for romance has become a lot more urgent for me, and as an emotional person (I am bipolar), I've spent every other night for years crying for the "right" person. It isn't that I'm unhappy being single... I enjoy myself and the things I do and having my alone time is nice. But I've got a HUGE desire to give love and have someone intimately close to me to protect me and be by me. And it's no surprise that I crave and dream of sex a lot- sometimes the frisky stuff, but most of all the slow, sweet and passionate stuff. I've always wanted to lose my virginity to someone that I not only call my best friend, but my guardian angel and lover. "The one"! I really want to be in a deep and personal, close and loving relationship with someone, and maybe marry him if we both agree. For me, it's the irreplaceable relationship of having a person I can trust with everything in my life that makes me so excited and keep looking for that guy. Someone who knows all my secrets, someone who loves every inch of my body, someone who will hold me tight when I cry in the night and someone who will tell me when I'm being an ass and lift me up to my higher ground again. A best friend, but deeper. Closer. Someone who isn't afraid of my truths and wants every part of my soul. Yes I want the really fucking serious stuff, and if that'll cause me tons of strain, torture, and cries, I'm still signing up for that kind of love. I would rather go through all of the torture for the most wonderful relationship of my life than be my myself for the rest of my life and never know what that kind of incredible love feels like. Once you get a taste of that kind of hardcore love, it draws you in and you can't escape... that's the only bad side. But if you have faith in yourself and look out for yourself, I do firmly believe it'll be so worth it in the end. I'm still a fighter for love!

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  • No, I liked the feeling of being loved and supported and to love and support someone else, also sex and cuddles and being able to cook cooler things and have a baby, Why did you make that decision? Was it because of a heartbreak?

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    • No, but I’ll give you the answer. Pease don’t think I’m saying this for sympathy or pity because no matter what someone says, it will never change my decision. I think it’d be selfish and inconsiderate for me to date a guy knowing he can do better physically, personality wise, etc. I just know I’m not a good candidate for dating. I have a lot things wrong with my body and I have dry, shy, boring personality. I see guys say women they love have changed their life and they are amazing. I know I could not have that kind of impact on someone or make someone feel that way. I wouldn’t say I don’t want a relationship, but more of I’m not good enough for one and there are so many better women men can choose from. I’ve accepted that I can’t hold someone back from their full potential and that is okay. (:

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    • alone the way you think shows you don't fit into the arrogant type and even tho a negative mindset is bad the fact that you drive that way means you will not change your personality to the worse. if you accept that you can't get everyone you are also in a better position of getting a guy that fits you. I think you just gave up too soon but guess what you can still get up and fight again.

    • @OpenWine If she really wants to quit, then she will. Besides, she wants to become a vet and take care of animals. She can always just get a pet or two for companionship as alternatives anyway.

  • Yes. I said this since 12 years old I would never date or get married, and like you, I am content with my decision. Too much impurity, premarital sex garbage, no faithfulness, no loyalty, commitment or true authentic love anymore like the days of old. Everything is superficial and disappointing. I refuse to get and be used as a human sex toy. I deserve more than that.

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    • this doesn't add up

    • How it doesn't add up? The reality is the world is full of darkness and evil. They treat sex like a game and misuse it when it should be for marriage ONLY. Yet people, mainly men today don't want the responsibility, but they want to screw. Putting females in Jeopardy because they cannot survive properly outside of marriage.

    • Preach girl! 👏👏👏

  • I am okay with it right now. I am certainly in no rush to be with anyone right now, not even for casual sex. It may not happen at all considering my mental health. Not sure how I’ll feel in 10+ years from now. I have a lot to work on before even thinking of getting into a relationship.

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  • Yes, cuz i actually hate the idea of marriage it's such a huge responsibility and all the drama and i wouldn't like to have kids i prefer to concentrate on my studies and spend time taking care of my self and my friends and try to be single for as long as possible may be forever too
    If people could just stfu and stop trying to get me into relationships..

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  • It's not something u really want for myself. There is a possibility it could happen. And I can honestly say the thing keeping me going is the hope that one day I will achieve all the things I desire and more.

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    • Oh wow I got a thumbs down for not wanting to be single

    • When the time is right you'll find somebody and you have the right attitude about it right now just keep working on yourself so when the right person comes along you'll be ready for them. But I'm pretty sure you'll find someone females like you don't stay single now you have a lot to offer.

  • I cannot be single

    I get very depressed and my therapist told me some people have an emotional need to be with a partner.

    That's me!

    It is why I have been with abusive men and stay with them, to avoid being alone

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    • shouldn't your therapist at least be attempting to helping you fix your insecure attachment style?

    • By being completely dependent upon and rely on a partner like that would only allow them to exploit and take advantage of you though. Once your usefulness to them are over, when they feel you don't have any use to them anymore then they're just going to toss you aside forever.

  • It's good to be single and it's better to have someone who cares about you, but we shouldn't make having someone a purpose of life and happiness but it's just a way that makes us straggling with life with someone workout feeling left out in the cold. I personally find every phase full of different experience and its own glories

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  • I would not survive being single forever. I'm too much of a hot mess when I'm single. And I was single for a long time. I would definitely not replace my current non-single life for anything.

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  • I'm in love at the moment n enjoyimg making my own decisions. I became single in college yeats ago after a boy in sight started claiming i was their girlfriend. Did also just get tired with men for a while without hating them.

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  • hell no, i was single for a long time. I want a companion in life, someone to go out with, someone to say goodnight to. If you are focused on your career thats good but you need to balance your life.

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    • I agree with all those vouching for domestic pleasures. My parents for crissakes have been married 50 + years... lol... but between unfortunate self esteem issues and a partying nature I was a late bloomer. Have had love but not blessed with permanence... not all lives end up typical... lol... and I gave much to be grateful for... maybe time to adjust expectations and accept difference between myself and many

  • No way I don’t like being single for the rest of my life. I have my two kids now but in a search of a boyfriend to replace my ex boyfriend. Life is so much fun if spending with that special someone. One door close another door open:)

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  • no, because i haven't been in a relationship yet. i want to experience that first and then see what happens

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  • Yes I came to a point in my life where I was more than ok with it focused myself and accomplished my goals I was single for 4 years and I feel the best comes when u aren’t looking I have a wonderful boyfriend now he tried for so long to date me and I kept saying no until I finally told him I would give him a chance well we have been dating 3 years now and its been the best relationship I've been in

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  • Definitely. I think it would make my life better.
    So long I've got animals to love.

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    • Yup, getting a pet or two is an alternative. Just have to consider any and all possible alternatives. Just like how if somebody change their minds about kids, they can always consider adoption or something like that.

  • I mean I'd like to have children if possible but I guess I could remain single for all my live long days if needed. lol

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  • I couldn't do it. I hate being single. Been that way for nineteen years and I can't imagine being like that for the rest of my life. I want to fall in love and be married someday 💗

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  • Yes I would be ok, I have been single with no sex for 19 years and honestly I like been alone I don’f Want to ever have kids so I would be happier like that I don’t See the need to be in a relationship at all

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  • I definitely would not be okay with it. I seek attention, and caring, and sharing and everything that comes within a relationship. If I would be alone for the rest of my life I'd feel terrible.

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  • I’d be okay being single for a while, but ultimately I’d want to share my life with someone else.

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  • I wouldn't want to be single forever but right now in my life I don't think I want to deal with relationships anymore. Guys my age try to hurt my heart too much😟😣

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    • I'm sorry to hear that but I wish you luck in all your future relationships hopefully something will work out and you'll meet somebody really nice

  • I wouldn’t be happy if I were single forever. I would be very lonely. I want love & a family.

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  • I don't know, that sounds very lonely
    When you're over 30 and all your friends are married and have less free time and your family is old, what you're gonna do?

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  • That’s the plan for me, honestly.
    I don’t want kids or marriage, so it works out. I find peace easier when I’m alone.

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    • You have always been alone and a virgin?

    • @anewuseris sorry. I didn’t read the description; I interpreted the question as if I had already dated someone.
      I’ve dated and unfortunately I am no longer a virgin.
      So sorry for the misunderstanding 😐

    • Okay. But now you want to live life all alone without any sex?

  • I wouldn't because I know myself to be a person who needs to be loved and live in response, so no, that is not for me

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  • Mmm knowing what I know and after I’ve experienced being in love , I don’t think I would like staying single for the rest of my life

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  • Never. I'm already so lonely, the thought of being like this for the rest of my life, id rather die... I'm 19 and I only got my first boyfriend in July and he raped me in September and it's not fucking fair it's not, because I always thought it wouldn't be so bad to be so lonely for so long because when I finally would get a boyfriend he'd love me and I'd be happy but he fucking raped me and it's not fucking fair. Sometimes I don't want to even live knowing that it could happen again. I hate it I hate it I hate it I hate it

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    • He said he loved me but he never did and I hate it I just want to be loved why the FUCK can't I just have that one thing!!! People treat marriages as if it's some boring fucking obligation like "oh yeah dentist then pta meeting and her wedding's on Thursday" like do you not REALISE what a fucking BLESSING you have!! I'm dying of loneliness and fucking hurting and you take love for granted because you always had it I hate it.

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    • I waited so long to finally have a boyfriend and he was a horrible man!! I want a good guy who can hold me softly and kiss me and not leave bruises on my chest and my arms and my legs and my stomach for ONCE!! I just want to snuggle with him and feel safe and he'd never hurt me but those good guys don't want the girls like me only the bad guys do because they know they can get away with it.

    • @softrosie have you ever thought about dating and having physical relationship with a woman? Women are gentle and more sexy as well as romantic

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