For example I have a password on my phone he doesn't know the code, tried to get on and I said no , but he took a fit and said I'm not playing your fucking games then put one one his phone. 2 sec later forgot and started yelling at me calling me an idiot and blaming me.
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No, he's not abusing you, calling a girl a slut is a very bad thing to label her as, but it is not abuse. To him, you;ve earned these names, to him you re an idiot and a slut, just accept that. If you want a password on your phone you should have one if for no other reason than if you lose it someone else will not get at your personal information. and he needs to respect your privacy. To ask you to go through your phone - That is still your choice. You are his girl, your phone is yours. - But that is not the point you are asking about. He is getting very mad with you and you are missing one important point - He is being a good boyfriend to you by not hitting you. If you make him angry enough to call you a slut then he is stopping himself from hitting you - That takes great strength and love for you. Feel lucky that he cares that much about you. You are not an innocent girl here. You are causing him to become upset with you. You are being a bad girlfriend. I would like to help you here. First you need to talk with him about the things that you are doing wrong that is making him upset with you. You want to avoid any upset with you or him so you can begin to correct your faults. ( When we get upset we can never accomplish anything. ) When you talk to him, taake the approach that you are completely in the wrong - This gives him no reason to get upset with you and to help him be completely open with you. You also want to thank him for caring enough about you not to hit you. You thought about how you have been and you know that you deserved to be hit ( This is to get him to feel sorry for you and to want to comfort you. - if he doesn't, that is o. k.. You are working on his feelings.) - you have failed him as a girlfriend and you want to try harder to be good to him, you need his help to help you.----------- He doesn't like getting upset with you any more than you like being called names - Tu stop this you need to accept your responsibility in causing this. In this talk with him you both will work out a plan that when you do something that he feels is wrong he can talk to you then and you will listen and do as he wishes you to. You must be willing to do this 100%. If he blames you for something that you feel is not your fault - Remember that to him it is your fault. So apologize and then ask him how you an correct your behaviour. You want him to feel that he is your "Knight in shining armor". That you need his guidance in your life. - This plays to a mans ego and for you stops the name calling - BUT more important it stops him from becoming upset to that point. He knows you will listen to him when he's says what he wants done. - Your gain will come by him valuing you even more as his girlfriend and wanting to make you happy because you do as he tells you every time. You keep the password on your phone, but if he asks you to let him look at it - Then you should. You are his girl. Always be honest with him when he asks you any questions. This will make you both happier ( If you can do this. )
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Well, yes. But if you're antaganizing him, even just by being careless its your fault too. Those words are inexcusable, he's definitely wrong to do that but that doesn't mean you're right.
But assuming that you are not playing games, this is somebody you need to get away from. A person like that acts compulsory. It could only be a matter of time until he really tries to hurt you. Not just physically, but as much as he can. Because when his tactics he's using start to fail, or rescind, he'll have to increase the dose.
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Yes, it's verbal abuse.
And I'm not sure why you are putting up with it. It is still your phone, if you didn't allow him to go through it, then he has to accept that. He has no right to call you names for that.
And after he has forgotten his own password on his phone, he blames you for it? What an asshole. Where did you find this guy in the first place? From Jerks'R'Us?
It is definitely abuse and I would be cautious not to upset him too much because you may become a victim of domestic violence.
Time to take the necessary steps before this situation gets out of hands. I would even go as far as to advise someone of the potential threat you are victim, should something really serious happen.
Do not let this sit on you. You should take action and make your boyfriend aware that he went way beyond what is acceptable and what you will tolerate in the future.
Domestic violence starts with words and end in physical harm...