It seems as if these days many guys don't want to put in any effort. They want to do the bare minimum and still get the maximum (you know what I'm talking about)! Like if a guy wants to hang out with you, he will ask you to come over and "chill" instead of out somewhere on a date. This obviously isn't all guys, but enough for me to get frustrated and ask this question lol.
And chill means = watch a movie/smoke/etc/ then have sex
It's not like we have to go to some 5 star restaurant that requires a reservation, but come on.
And then they act surprised or get mad when you say no! I would say yes if he asked me somewhere, but if you say "chill" or reference anything about me going to your house or you going to mine then basically he's telling you he only wants to do one thing right? To me it is kind of insulting because I don't think I give off vibes that leads one to believe that that's all I'M interested in or have to offer.
I am not demanding or anything, but how much is it to ask that you put some effort in trying to get to know a girl before you expect sex? It's hard out here in the dating world.
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I have to agree with you. Chivalry is almost dead. American culture has deluted any sense or ideology of "courting" or "romance." As you pointed out, a lot of them are after JUST sex and there are plenty of girls more than willing. So therefore, the guys don't feel obligated to put in much effort to win a girl over because a lot of girls are insecure, easy, needy, clingy, and desperate for any guy that will give them attention. Standards, morals, and values have also been compromised in this country. So the point is: they don't put in the effort because there isn't a high demand from the girls they encounter.1