Most Helpful Guys
Of course we are. Men and women think differently, it's the reason this site is called "girlsaskguys" not "peopleaskpeople".
Some will say that these differences are mainly down to social conditioning which will have something to do with it, but they pretend as though we're not biologically different when we clearly are, and these biological differences matter. Many of these people are obsessed with encouraging men to act like women, women to act like men, pretending that we think the same way and want the same things. It will never work.
There have been many studies done on the differences between men and women. Also the impact that hormones have on our behaviour - which is something that most people way under-estimate. Ask anybody who takes hormone treatment whether that be testosterone or estrogen. Look at the way women act differently during certain points in their period cycle, or during pregnancy. Behaviour is heavily influenced by hormones. I've had feminists here go completely nuts, start hurling insults at me and block me just for mentioning this, which is strange.
The hormonal birth control pill affects women's tastes in men:
We have an inbuilt ability to detect whether somebody is a good genetic match for us depending on their smell. This isn't a conscious thing, you don't smell someone and think "he/she is a bad genetic match", you just smell them and you feel less sexual attraction to them without realising it. The birth control messes with this ability in women, making them choose different men. In fact, some studies show that the birth control influences women to choose less masculine men as partners:
As for women who are not on the pill, they tend to become more attracted to masculine men during ovulation. And if their partners are considered to be more masculine, they report greater sexual satisfaction at this time:
This is because, despite the feminist nonsense that will tell you otherwise because they like to ignore biology, it's completely natural for a woman to prefer a more masculine man and to find those feminine behaviours you speak of to be a turn off. When fertile your hormones literally drive you to prefer that so that such a man will impregnate you. Your sex drive is designed to drive you to reproduce with the strongest mate you can find, to raise the healthiest children - even if consciously you don't want children and it's only sex for pleasure.
Masculinity is a side effect of testosterone. Those facial features they speak of - masculine facial features - come from high testosterone. Testosterone is also linked with muscular strength and mass (obvious since steroids are all testosterone-based), better health in general especially sexual health, and higher fertility. Low testosterone is linked with the opposite - and a lack of testosterone = a lack of masculinity = effeminate behaviour. Your biological drive, when working properly, wants to keep you away from those men to avoid having weak children.
As for men, well men with high testosterone tend to prefer women who are very feminine, as spoken about in this video:
I have learned that the traits that are really important to you are usually not the ones you think - often you aren't even aware of what the traits are that attract you. And for that reason, you could be attracted to 5 very different people who have a ton of different traits - but they each have a few traits that you respond to even though you don't realize what they are.
Obviously some people are more in control of their attraction and some less, but most people have things they have to have, even if the rest of the person isn't at all what they think they want.
Most Helpful Girls
No. It depends on the person and what they personally like. If you're traditional/old school then you'll find traditional traits attractive. But if you're not (like myself), you won't really care about that stuff.
hmmm... I know what you mean. I think I need gentleness in a guy though, at least when he is with me in a romantic way.
Vulnerability is different. I want a guy who is a rock when he facing the world, to protect my own vulnerability.
I don't know if that makes sense.