What is your biggest frustrations with Online Dating?

What is your biggest frustrations with Online Dating?

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  • There's alot! Like soooo much!
    1 fakes
    2catfish
    3having to pay to talk to people
    4the realisation of a lot of people just wanna talk and aren't looking for anything else.
    5personally I think for every 1 girl on them there's at least 40 guys, and the girl can pick who she likes while the guys just desperate to get a response from someone.
    6alot of weirdos
    7some people not even in your country (goes back to num 4)
    8im 24 and I like talking to older girls more cause the younger are so bitchy
    9kids... everyone has kids it just seems all them are looking for baby daddys.
    10 ^ with num 9 know one actually works/drives/does anything they all get pregnant between 18-25 and do nothing.
    11 JUST WHAT IS THE ACTUAL POINT! there is no point what's so ever in trying because the reasons I just mentioned as well as they can just lie and say they do drive or have no kids or blah blah piss & shite 😬

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    • Guys pay cover charges into bars every weekend so that they can talk to women and that is just for one night. You pay for an upgraded subscription on one of these sites you can talk whenever you want. Why is paying for online dating so bad?

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    • What app you on

    • I am on all of them.. I am an online dating coach so I have to be.. but my favorite is THE BEELINE on Bumble. This feature is the big time saver, because in this section your queue is made up of profiles of people who have already swiped right on you. That means when you see someone you like, it’s a guaranteed connection.

  • I always meet people who just want to be friends or the people who are really broken from past relationships and childhood/teenage traumas.

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    • I would assume these people exist in the real world too right?

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    • Have you ever asked what bits they like and what bits you don't have to get them to the next level? A relationship?

    • Actually, no. In retrospect I haven’t. I think I do need more ascertainable feedback. Thank you very much.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Oh geez, where to begin...

    -People that lie about themselves (looks, height, weight, profession, etc). I mean come on, why would you do that? If you decide to meet the other person, the truth will eventually come out

    -People that are just looking for flings/hookups. I get it, that's the "norm" now, but some of us still want a long term relationship

    -People that are married or in relationships using dating sites to find a side chick/side guy or cheat. NO. Just so much no. I swear if I find people like that, I' want to tell their spouses, not even kidding

    -People that ghost you.
    They claim they like you, are into you, and seem genuinely interested. Only to disappear out of the blue one day and you never hear from them again.

    -Online dating in general. It's like digging through a big pile of crap, hoping you're lucky enough to find that diamond if you keep looking or trying.

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    • All the more reason to develop a personality that can talk to people in real life

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    • Lol telling people that it’s better to develop social IRL isn’t constructive? I feel bad for your kids.

    • @chris_987 haha, silly boy. I don't have or want kids (if you've seen me enough on here you'd know that by now).

      And you're yet another reason I'd NEVER want kids. I'd be afraid they would grow up to be rude, insensitive, insecure trolls that hide behind a screen criticizing others to make themselves feel good.

      But that's just my opinion- what do I know?
      I'm just a random person that apparently has no personality or social life... yet I have caring friends and people in my life- in real life and online. :)

  • -Not having the confidence to meet up. That’s why I deleted my account.
    -Lack of conversation with people. There was only so much “how are you” messages I could stand. And I HATE “you there?” 🙄
    -Lies about their age “my age is wrong, how do I change it?” (Surely you know your DOB, are you that thick that you put the wrong year of birth when you signed up? Yeah ok)
    -Most of the guys are desperate messes. All they want is their dick wet.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Generic responses ( I would like to have an actual conversation).
    Misleading images or lying about themselves.

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  • A lack of interesting women.

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  • My long distance relationship worked out pretty well. The only complications was yenno, shitty Wi-Fi, and telling the families, meeting for the first time, etc etc. I had a more complicated background with cultural restrictions so that sucked

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  • Personally, I don't find it that frustrating. I just find women who just ghost be without having the courtesy if telling me that they're no longer interested, to be mildly annoying. I have no doubt guys do that a lot too.

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    • I think it would be nice if they would at least give you a warning. Like, "You're boring me, bro. You need to up your game." Because I always start out really bland and casual because I don't want to scare anyone away. It's not that I don't have more than that; I'm just holding back.

  • You can't really tell how the person really is, and this go both ways. People that would want to date me in real life won't there.

    Solution? Become a pro in real life.

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    • Become a Pro? A Pro at what?

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    • So you can't talk to women online only approaching them in person?

    • I hate online. I'm not accustomed to be that ignored.

  • - Picky people
    - can't a hold a conversation when in person
    - So full of themselves
    - Bad with socialising

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    • Are you bad at socializing because that can also be true

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    • @chris_987 It work both ways mhmm oh well. It's just my take on online dating

    • @Jamie05rhs I dont know much about him being controlling but i know he's in the Ex department.

  • have to sort through a lot to find a good one...
    fun in the process

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  • When girls message me, they always "ooo I wanna get to to know you, we are gonna be great together" and all kind of positive bullshit.
    Just so it turns out that they never really bother doing that or bother staying in contact.
    I try to message them, I try to take as much initiative as possible but it doesn't work and I get ignored.
    If they won't bother, I won't either.
    Most annoying thing, ONLY TALK AND NO DO.
    If you are not gonna bother with online dating then please F Off the website.

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  • The soul destroying feeling of spending over an hour writing a first message to someone knowing they are just going to ignore it. I call a profile view a win...

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  • Every girl just wants to fuck. Wheres a non ho that wants to get married and have a family?

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    • They are on Bumble.

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    • Where do you find girls that genuinely do not hook up with men? Even I tried dating three girls from church and they were all hos. I get that im pretty good looking and have a lot going for me but if you dont keep your legs closed for me then you are willing to throw your morals out the window for some dick and thats assuming i was an exception. Ugh so aggravating.

    • You won't find them in night clubs... you will find them in more sophisticated places like tapas bars, wine bars, hell... whole foods is a great place to grab a glass of wine and run your cart into women asking them about gluten free pasta dishes. If you are online dating just make sure you are marketing yourself "serious relationships only" and that you are looking for a partner over a hook up. Women will appreciate knowing how focused you are in what you want.

  • Men soon tend to take visual and verbal liberties, expecting me to respond similarly. We can't have a decent exchange.

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  • It is too time consuming for me and the risks outweigh the benefits.

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    • All the FREE apps are time consuming but if you upgrade it becomes so efficient and easy it's not even funny.. every tried upgrading?

    • Well I have a girlfriend now so don't need it. I have tried both free and paid sites in the past and my success rate was about the same.

  • It's utterly worthless for men who aren't top tier attractions or manipulators.

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    • You mean MEN who are not top tier looking for top tier women?

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    • You are right.

    • Women think they are shit probably because they are shit. Most average guys put up average photos and profiles. They don't invest in the process.. they just say HEY look at me I am average please treat me that way. FACT.

  • It's virtually impossible to get a reply back. I tried online dating for over a year, and only like three girls ever replied back to me, and I messaged probably around a hundred.

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  • Falling before we even see eachother lol

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  • If the guy has other relationships going on while dating me. If he’s a 100% real

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  • "User motivation"
    Most dating platforms are using that, fake profiles to keep you interested are made from the company itself (55% of all profiles are fake to motivate users, and legal)

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  • I don't personally have an issue
    with it but many I know who search online, often expect way
    too much without really making
    any physical investments.

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    • Can you elaborate? I think I agree with you, though.

    • I just think we're in a time where technology had made
      access to a lot of things more
      simple. But along with being
      able to access bank accounts,
      shopping outlets and social
      media platforms, a lot of people expect love to come
      easy, at the touch of a button
      and fail to realize, you can't
      skip the hard work, time and
      dedication that it takes to
      successfully navigate a
      relationship.
      .
      It takes some time, physical
      time and investment not just
      a few typed exchanges and
      video chats. Those don't
      determine two people's
      chemistry together.

      Sure, they want Instagrams,
      Insta-food
      Insta-friends
      and Insta-love but
      all without the hard work.

  • Not being able to know who "like"s me.

    And also, girls who expect some sort of "perfect" message to begin a conversation.

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    • Why don't you just pay to upgrade which will allow you each morning to see who swiped on you?

  • The lack of quality women. You sift through all the profiles to find just a few women who are reasonably attractive and they never respond to your messages. Then you go back some years later to find the same profiles there. So your options are to message women you're not attracted to or give up. That's been my experience at least.

    I imagine there's a lot of lack of trust with online dating and meeting someone in person is so much more natural and freer-flowing. But that also has its own problems because people like to live in their own little protective bubbles.

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  • Catfish and obesity. I guess it makes sense though. Active people don't have the time for that stuff

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  • The number of girls clearly just there for an ego boost

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  • Person I go meet turns out she married she bring her husband alone I turned around and walked out.

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    • So basically her hub was looking for a threesome...

  • to many fake people and never know who your talking with.

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  • When you barely get a match and when you do they go AWOL. Waste of time...

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  • 1. Matching but not answering.
    2. Pictures making the person look way better than what she actually looks like.
    3. All the Instragram filter photos.
    4. Not looking for a relationship, just friends.
    5. Clearly just wanting more Instagram followers.
    6. Multiple accounts with the same person.
    7. Spambots. Either a link in description or instantly posting a link in say Snapchat.
    8. The service resetting your likes/dislikes so you have to go through all again. Please make it an option.
    9. Me not lowering my standards (I know a girl/woman that looks awful on Facebook but she actualy looks good af IRL)

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  • The disappointment when the real meeting happens

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  • None of them work

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    • Why don't they work?

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    • I have more luck on forums.

    • You made it sound as if you never paid for a dating site because you complained they were behind a pay wall. Are you saying you have paid for a dating site and it still didn't work?

  • Distance

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  • Fake profiles lol.

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  • I dont do online I prefer in person.

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  • only Skype boning no real boning

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  • I don’t have any

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  • too many fake people

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  • A 2% response rate.

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  • Not really knowing who you are chatting to …...

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  • Women

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  • Catfishes

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  • Fake accounts

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  • I don’t have any frustrations with Online Dating

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  • Not getting any hits from real women.

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  • Who know how real is he

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  • I don't get matches

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  • Catfishing is the most annoying

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  • Lots of Fakes

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  • It gives women a false sense of arrogance.

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  • The prices and the lack of choices.

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  • That everyone who is nice, lives far away

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    • Do you live in a small town or something?

    • In finland, in small city. It's already hard to find people from my country, even harder to find someone within like 50km radius

    • Can you move to a bigger city or is there any bigger cities around to move too? Or would you even want too?

  • Girls uplead their best pictures online but in reality they either overweight or just nasty or look like they lived in cracl houses lol

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  • Female entitlement.

    Even the fat, middle aged, desperate, single mothers, seem to have entitlement.
    They should be lucky guys even want them at all.

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