What are your Dating Goals for 2019?

What are your Dating Goals for 2019?
  • Find a boyfriend/girlfriend
    Vote A
  • Get married
    Vote B
  • Netflix, Oreos, and Sweatpants... I am done with dating
    Vote C
  • Get divorced
    Vote D
  • Going MGTOW/WGTOW
    Vote E
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  • Just like the previous years, I had long decided to remain single indefinitely, although I don't have time for netflix, rarely eat oreos, if ever, and rarely ever wear sweatpants. And going mgtow doesn't exactly make sense since I'm not blaming the other gender for it, as most seem to be when they follow that crowd and associate with that label, in which I don't fit with. I just don't like this reality, world, of how absurd it all really is, also don't see the point of dating anybody at all since I don't ever want to marry or have children, not that it means that should always be the end goal, I just don't feel dating, relationships, etc. matters or see the point in doing so at all for so long, so what's the point? It doesn't guarantee me any "happiness" or "fulfillment", it's not going to fix my deep deep existential unhappiness and unhappy with the way how this reality really is type of issues. So really what is the point at all? And just because and even if I did find somebody that also did not ever want to marry and did not want any children of their own, that still does not automatically mean that they are a "perfect fit" or is guaranteed or absolutely the "right" person for me. So what is the point of me even dating or looking for anybody to date at all?

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    • "I just don't feel dating, relationships, etc. matters or see the point in doing so at all for so long, so what's the point?" You make damn good sense! Some people feel like dating, getting married, or just having kids is a requirement for humans or to thrive. No, it's NOT. There are people that are in relationships or married that are absolutely miserable because they settled to avoid being alone.

      Then you have people that are single and are happier than most people in relationships because they KNOW what they want in life, reach for it, and don't rely on a partner or hunting for someone that they may never find as a means of happiness.
      Ultimately we make our own happiness- and as I've said many times before, if you're not happy alone, you sure as hell won't be happy in a relationship. It's just a bandaid to your other problems.

  • I don't officially have a real plan. Most of my money so far is going towards self-improvement, so I don't know how much will be left for dating. If things somehow take off, I'd simply like to find a girlfriend. That's not likely, though.

    I have been looking at the stuff behind MGTOW, and while I'm not fully invested, there are a lot of things that make sense. I don't see myself officially "committing" to it (some of those guys sound VERY bitter), but I do think there are a lot of hurdles that would have to be knocked down before I'd be super invested in something long term. I think that most of the things I'd want not too many women would go for - like prenups.

    So while nothing is really "planned", I'm less and less interested in jumping into marriage at all, and more and more interested in just giving up and working on things I want outside of dating. I hate the idea of being perpetually single, and it's lonely as hell, but I don't see much happening any time soon. Maybe there will be a time where I just give up on women and distract myself completely with work and video games.


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  • C. Only change out the Netflix and oreos, to barbells and protein shakes!

    I'm going to work on getting a fit and sexy body- not for a man, but so I look and feel better about myself.

    If a guy comes along? Great. But when you've been single for nearly 10 years, you learn to put yourself first, and appreciate other things in life more than chasing after a fantasy or whim.

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    • 🙄 such a constructive comment.
      How about you stop being rude, or better still, mind your own business?

      How we choose to live our lives is our business, not yours. Personally if I rather be fit than deal with 'lovely' guys such as yourself, that's my prerogative

    • @Cynicaldreamer Can't say you haven't tried it before already and been there and done that, but it just didn't work out.

      May want to see may response for yourself on what I think about "dating goals", as I have none as I really just don't see the point in ever doing so.

  • I’d like a boyfriend but I’ve been single for almost two years with a total of 3 dates, none giving me a second. Pretty sure I won’t be getting a boyfriend this year.

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    • What makes you think that

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    • I'm desperate too, let's do this.

    • @Joshua1985 You're not ugly, though, so it can't be your looks if that makes you feel better. Lol, maybe we're just weird haha

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  • I don't really have any special goals. Just to keep at it like we have been. Strengthening our relationship.

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  • I assumed that I would stay single but I started dating an amazing guy. I would like to continue seeing him.

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  • My goal is to still be with the girlfriend who currently lives with me.

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  • I'd like to deepen my relationship with my incredible girlfriend.

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  • For this year, I'd like to build upon what we have and keep strengthening it.

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  • I hope later on in the year I’ll find a special someone. I don’t have any specific goals. This is the first time I’ve been SINGLE SINGLE since I was 17. I’m 22 now and completely alone. I’d like to find someone who can be my best friend and lover all in one. I’d absolutely love to find a new soul mate lol but I’ve kind of given up hope. I’m more focused on fixing myself than bringing someone into my unsatisfactory life.

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  • I really enjoy sex, but I just read that it's even better with a partner. I don't know if that's true or not, but my goal is to find out.
    @chocolatecheesecake
    @Philyouup

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  • Great question 😍 it was to get married but he stood me up, sooo back to the drawing board. I’m hoping to get a new boyfriend 🙈 somehow turn him into fiance by or before 2020 lol hopefully he becomes a husband/father somewhere in there 😂

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  • Maintain the level of satisfaction present in my current relationship, and maybe even improve it. And we’re long distance, so I’d like to see him at least one or two times this year. Besides that I can’t think of much.

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    • tbh the most likely way I see your relationship works out is either he studies in the US, or you study in the UK. Of course it takes effort to get a scholarship (like any good thing in life).

    • He isn’t in college or studying at all though anymore. He tried it for about a year, decided it wasn’t for him, and is now doing an apprenticeship at some IT company. He’s going to stay in the UK for some time until he completes a certain level of his apprenticeship (I’m not sure which, I kinda forgot how it all works tbh), and eventually the plan is he’d move here and become a permanent resident and probably eventually a citizen, which would be pretty easy if he married me as he intends to. And of course he plans on visiting when he’s financially capable of doing so. I’m unable to visit him presently and will remain so for some time (I’m 16, absolutely broke, and in the care of an insanely overprotective single father. Transatlantic travels to meet some super cute British guy? Yeah, only in my dreams), but that option would become available in the future when I have a job and when I’m not living at home. I haven’t really considered studying in the UK, but when the time comes when I have to actually start thinking about college, it might be easier for us if I did, so I might end up doing so, but for right now who knows?

    • There are a lot of travel opportunities in university, (aka exchange program), if you want to travel to the UK by working some job after high school I think it'd take much longer. It's good that the boyfriend knows what he wants and has a career path, it's extremely hard to make it in the US starting from nothing.
      If you intend to go to university at all now is the time to think about your major and how to get a scholarship (assuming you don't want daddy to pay for all those expenses) since you will have to compete with the Chinese/Indian/etc. kids with perfect SAT who love to go to US universities (their first choice will be the tier 1 + Ivies but inevitably a lot of them will overflow to the tier 2 schools and thus make life harder for the American kids). NEVERTHELESS if you are a cute white girl you will have an advantage when apply to any *pure math* program over the world (white girls are a rare minority in math departments, they tend to avoid us like the plague). So the diversity/affirmative action works in your favor (and against the Asians 😂), should you choose math.

  • Simple
    Whatever it is, making it happen is more important

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  • I wish I could marry my boyfriend after I graduate college later this year, but I don't know if it will happen... He's preparing to enroll in business school and I haven't had the guts to ask him what he plans to do with me. Besides, I don't want to talk about something in the future and ruin the happiness we have now.

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  • My goal is not to be so quick to change my plans for a guy or waste my energy on him. Nothing wrong with liking a guy but I won't let guys walk all over me anymore and I won't chase them

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    • I’m doing the same thing. Be careful, they’ll end up telling you you’re in the wrong or you’re crazy and insane. From my personal experience. Lmao, gotta love men.

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    • @Heyyyyhoneyyyyyy omg same here, my ex ghosted me but now he is married. But I don’t want him. No self respecting woman would want a man who ghosts her!

    • That’s a good idea, because I think every woman should be the only one to make that decision

  • My choice isn't there! I wanna have so much fun with so many people and dating gets in the way of it 👑

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  • Expect nothing. I apply that to everything in life, including dating.
    I'm open to a relationship, just like I'm open to something casual, and open to remain single. I'm gonna do my thing and interact with the women that are attracted to what I do and who I am, if that leads to meeting a future girlfriend, then great, if it doesn't, great too.

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  • I thought I already made this official but I will say it again
    I'm in a very serious relationship with Oreo we plan on marrying sometime next year
    I'm a whoreo for oreos!! 😜😜😜

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  • I don't have dating goals. Whatever happens, happens.

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  • I am almost 38 years old and set myself an ulimatum: Either get in a relationship this year, or exit the dating scene once and for all.

    I see no point in starting a family mid-40, thats way too late in my opinion, so I decided this year is going to be my last.

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  • To date myself. I’d like to become a complete person and take care of myself in ways I didn’t last year. I need to treat myself like I give a damn about myself. If there’s dating along the way, so be it. But I value friendship the most this year.

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  • For now I have taken a break from dating. I have mainly focused on myself which I never really did before.. I must say it is treating me rather well.

    May faith bring someone on my path that I hit it off with I wouldn't mind trying for a relationship.

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  • My goal is to not waste time with women who are clearly not interested. I've always been good at not chasing after women, but I want to get better at determining a woman's interest before the first date even happens. Some, not most, will only go out for a free meal or drink and completely ghost after that. I'm tired of that.

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    • Then go for a full meal? Why not go for coffee and a walk? Or is that not done in your country? Just something super casual, takes the edge off too. I don’t think I go on a full blown date on first date.

    • Then don’t*

  • I voted C because I’ve got my guy, and one of my favorite “dates” is Netflix, Oreos and sweatpants. Lol.

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  • Im going to enjoy marriage in a white hoodie, boxers, and a bag of jalapeno cheetos, while i sit in a bean bag chair as i yell at my kid to not run in the house

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  • I am extremely likely to be staying involuntarily single just like in the past years (not counting 2018!) but certainly not an incel.
    Women can't understand me. We literally speak different languages.

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    • Pretty much, we're all very different. It's kind of like how difficult it is to find people that you can trust to be your roommates and live with you and get along with, although it might make things easier if ones roommates are family and relatives, but even then, it's still difficult, because other people will always be different and as we both know and understand that we simply can not control how the other person reacts, acts, feels, thinks, believes, etc. compared to ourselves thus there will always be at least some conflicts and troubles with getting along with the other person and staying with the other person.

    • I'm also not into "eastern" women. They tend to be all so family oriented, want marriage n kids, are "traditional" and this isn't for me. It's complete incompatibility.

      I miss the European women. Or the "western" women.

  • We are going celebrate our 25 annversy this year. Because of this mild stone we are going to renew our marriage vows. Yes we still have dates as well. Anyone have any ideas for the second honeymoon. I was thinking going to Puru.

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  • Even a female friendship would be nice enough right now. I haven’t had one since my first and only “almost girlfriend” died... But I don’t get out much and am shy, so I don’t have any friends of my own.

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  • Iwould love to have a gf/bf but this is going to be my 4th year of being single after a terrible relation so ik not cofident I'm going to find anyone.

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  • Undecided. Right now, I'm open to dating, just not actively pursuing it since there are some things that require my attention.

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  • After a 2 year long hiatus from relationships and dating to work on some stuff, this year I am going to get back into it and start looking for the right woman to start a long term relationship with that will lead to marriage...

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  • As I am objectively not currently worth what I now want in a partner. I'm working on improving my position in life before seeking one again.

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  • I'd like to go on a date or two this year. Don't really have the time for "the real thing" but that doesn't mean I won't make time for it if there's an opportunity.

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  • what about, enjoy the new relationship that i'm in, getting to know her, and seeing what that is like?

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  • I don’t have any ‘goals’ . Just keep my relationship as amazing as it is now

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  • To hopefully get engaged to my boyfriend unless we break up

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  • Find a guy who actually wants to spend their time with me lmfao

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  • I’m focused on myself for now every time I attempt to let a guy in it fails and I see their true colors.

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  • None , single dad ( least desirable demographic from a woman's POV ) and not bothered anyway , have enough to do.

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  • Stay single and a kissless virgin forever. #RedPill

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  • First i heal, then i find the girl of my dreams.
    If thats out of reach and i can't find her, perhaps ill do something casual but i rather try dating first.

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  • Haven't got any. I guess at some point or another, I'll come across a woman that has a shared interest in me and we will connect. Outside of letting what has already happened, I have no plans.

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  • Lmao, actually give dating a try. I had literally no interest my whole life until a few weeks ago, but now I don't even know where to begin. I used to be so good at being alone, what is this "lonely" shit that I'm feeling all of a sudden

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  • Goals are reserved for ourselves,
    now some of you may incorporate dating plots and
    we all know plots are schemes
    and schemes backfire. 😌

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  • to find girl that is not thot and possibly that didn't saw me without t-shirt so she would date me cuz of "personality".

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  • this year nothing pariturally i have a girlfriend that loves me and i love her
    next year we moving in together :)

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  • It's a great goal to have, finding a boyfriend, but I figure it'll happen when I least expect it 😊

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  • I’ve never actually had a boyfriend other than my ‘6th grade boyfriend’ it was literally lunch room cafeteria dates, though. I’ve never been any good at talking to guys except for few randoms but those were just in passing.

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  • I'm a bit preoccupied for dating at the moment but I am open minded to it.

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  • wow... look at the MGTOW... someone needs societal poll on that...

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  • Netflix, oreos and sweatpants with my girl. Still not done with dating.

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  • To find my perfect girl. I’d do anything just to have her and no one else. I’d be so loyal to her and always try to make her happy.

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  • I've been with my girlfriend for almost 4 years. When she graduates from college I plan on proposing.

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    • Wait till after you move into the same appartement/home. It's the last test normally.

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    • We've been living together for 2 years.. Nothing bad has happened. In fact, it made us closer.

    • Then the test was done.

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