Do you get sexually attracted to others when dating?

How can you control it in order not to cheat on your partnerDo you get sexually attracted to others when dating?

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  • Do I find people attractive? Yes. Sexually? No. They don’t turn me on. Only my boyfriend can turn me on. Besides - my boyfriend has model good looks and I’m not trying to brag, but finding a man more attractive than him... has never happened. I don’t even know how I scored him tbh lol. My boyfriend also may find women attractive but I’ve never actually witnessed him staring, checking girls out, flirting - he has respect for me, definitely. He told me, ‘yah, there is attractive people out there, but none of them are you.’

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  • I do look at other people and think they are cute, but I would never act on it. I think you need to realize that, hopefully, you are in a happy relationship because that can be hard to find. If you do not feel happy, maybe you should think about that instead of trying not to cheat on someone because that speaks to something higher and if you aren’t happy you might end up doing something you regret.

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  • For me it's easy. I just don't get an erection if I don't love the other person. So cheating would be impossible.
    I guess it's better to accept yourself before trying to control your urges. If you are unable to stay faithful, ask for an open relationship.

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  • At times, sure, but I maintain a distance from that person (physically and emotionally) to reduce any temptation.

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  • it is a normal part of life.

    we date many people to find the qualities we want in a future partner.

    Dating is dating. it is not marriage or a prison term.

    if you find someone you are attracted to, go out with them to see if they have what you want in a partner.

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  • I may find other people attractive but I’m not an addict so it’s not difficult for me to notice & move on not thinking of them

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  • When dating, my focus is only on one person and one only. All the other guys just simply blurred in the background -- regardless how attractive they are physically.

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  • Ya you’re aways sexually atttracted to others but its certainly not like its uncontrollable
    The urge isn't that strong no lol
    It m never would be

    If you go for it. Thats a choice

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  • Same way I control not murdering those I hate. You just don't, no matter how enticing it might be lol.

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  • Finding someone else hot is normal and totally out of our control, cheating on your partner while aware that he/she doesn't accept it and will be hurt is totally your conscious choice and tbh in my opinion is really selfish and you should ask yourself if really love that person or yourself

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  • If you already have a partner than you shouldn't be dating.

    What am I missing?

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  • I believe that everyone, at some point, feels sexual attraction to someone else, even when they are dating. So for do not betray your girlfriend, you need to control your urges.

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  • I do. My situation might be a bit unique, but to answer:
    I'm a natural flirt and I'm always being flirtatious around others, regardless of whether I have any real attraction to them or not. My girlfriend is well aware that I look at other people with attraction sometimes, and that I can't help doing so.

    However, as long as I'm just looking at the menu and not ordering, it's okay. She's not *that* easily jealous or insecure about our relationship.

    As to how I control the urge? Either relieve any sexual urges toward others by using them on my girlfriend (in other words, actually have sex with my actual partner), or if she's not feeling it that day, either wait a few days until she is, or use porn and masturbate to relieve myself.

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  • Because I love my girl too much and my pride as a man will never allow me to let a women make me break the commitment I made with my fiancee.

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  • I haven't dated enough to really answer that but the one time I dated, I was attracted to other people and I think the only way to avoid cheating is to somehow have awesome sex with your partner

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  • You cannot control a cheating habit. it's not a fucking accident.
    If you are a cheater then you are a person who doesn't value other people.

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  • Not really. I'm usually more focused on my partner and don't pay mind to other dudes.

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  • You just need your willpower to be stronger than your desires.
    But when you combine willpower and desire it's easy to stay with your partner.

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  • I don't get sexually attracted.
    I might have problem.
    But I'm very fine with it.
    Sex is overrated anyway.

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    • Why do you think sex is overrated?

    • @kitty71 Because people do like this is their life's purpose or something (well, technically speaking, it actually is, because this is how life works), but in fact it's…OK. Not something world shattering.

  • You may just have got a brand new car. But it doesn't stop you noticing other cars. Just a look in it's self is not wrong...

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  • It depends how I'd feel about that girl if it's right to be with her. I'm quite skeptical.

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  • No I pick my girls because I want THEM then if they become mine I’m happy and not looking at anyone else but maybe I’m just a better guy then most

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    • I’m also gonna add sure I look at other girls asses and tits but I don’t act or think about wanting them

  • Im only sexually attracted to the person im in a relationship with or the people in pornos.

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  • Yeah, duh. I'm not blind. And the term "cheat" is erroneous and stupid and no one should use it.

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    • After stalking you, I have come to the conclusion that you're one of the most uneducated, narcissist idiots I have seen in a while. Congrats :)

    • Narcissistic* Whoops

    • @Kas19 That's nice. You must be highly educated.

  • I never stay with anyone long enough to get bored with them, so not a problem.

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  • Just stay indoors or just dont get into a relationship if u can't help yourself

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  • It happens because we can not always tame our desires.

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  • Never experience it, I only get aroused sexually when dealing my woman

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  • I can't lol that's why I'm single

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  • Isn't that what dating is about?

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  • Nope

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  • Never happened to me

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  • Pretty sure that happens to everyone

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  • No. Really imprint on who I'm dating.

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  • not a sexual attraction but I do like to look

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  • Yeah obviously. I'll do masturbation solo.

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  • TBH yes sometimes. depends on the person.

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  • tbh yes i have

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  • I'm single so no worries

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  • Never, i'm loyal.

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  • I don't

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  • Nope

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  • I wouldn't know.

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  • All the time, but my girlfriend is also hot as well as my type of person so someone who is just hot couldn't compete

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  • Yes but i never act upon it. It stays deep within my mind.

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  • Sure. That is part of human nature.

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  • You can't control attraction, but you can control your actions, you are not a fucking animal

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  • Yes, I can't really control it, but I don't act on them. Window shopping is natural. "You can look, but don't touch" is a reasonable policy with that.

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  • Yes I get sexually attracted to others.

    That is why a good girlfriend keeps her man sexually satisfied all the time. She should be draining his balls empty all the time.

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