Why are girls (usually) more interested in romance than guys are?


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  • in my opinion Popularized roles to shift women away from sex to keep them baluanke virgins before they were “ purchased”. Men had to stay interested in sexual or thdy woujdnt attempt to purchase women.

    Cult styles bass opinion is very different then personal interosorction. Often people talk intensely in a way that Doesn’t even reurseb thrn bc no one ever took the time to listen to who they are and it never occurred to them they might have a unique personality. I don’t see any real difference when you get people alone and they trust you enough to tell you how they really think and feel.

    What is romance anyhow😁 without the commercial saucy it is the activities ahd behaviors accompanied falling in love which can be varied and diverse and really Doesn’t limit itself to any genders.

    Riding together on a motorcycle or playing basketball or bunnies jumping or Going to a sports game is in my opinion romantic when you are falling in love bc you are experiencing it together. Flowers or jewelry wouldn’t hit me.. It really depends on your language and what you respond to. I am not into getting gifts I love cuddling which most couples enjoy and it’s not bc they are lesbians 🤷‍♀️

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  • Because on average girls are more looking for emotional connections rather then physical ones. And physical ones you can get from sex alone. That said i am a guy who is more interested in romance as well and i rather have a nice girlfriend then 3 smoking hot sex partners.

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  • Because (for evolutionary/biological reasons), men are much more prioritized for SEX rather than romance or relationships. We are pollenators, designed to fertilize as many seeds as possible. That's the foundation of our reason for being.

    Women are nurturers and care-givers and are relationship-centric because they have a very different role in survival and reproduction.

    These differences between us affect us everyday, whether we are in a relationship or not. And sadly, it's the basis for most misunderstandings between men and women, mostly because we no longer teach people about these differences, because of political correctness.

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  • Because we really need to be sexually simulated to be able to enjoy the sex, when we're wet enough we enjoy it better

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  • I cannot speak for other men, but I personally value romantic relationships over sexual ones, in fact, any sexual attraction I may have for a woman is only an extention of my romantic feelings for her, if I have no romantic feelings for her, then my sexual attraction to her is nonexistent.

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  • Because men in general as evidenced by research are more revolved around physical and visual experiences, whilst women are centered around emotional and idealistic experiences.

    Personally though, I'm quite the hopeless romantic.

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  • Personally I think a woman needs to feel loved before she can have I think that's the way for her to feel that way also therefore more sensitive and mature the men and there's nothing wrong with a little romance they're again I'm an old school and hopeless romantic

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  • Girls are more influenced by corporate "romance".

    Girls buy in to things like Valentines Day, which is an excuse to sell everything from roses to chocolates to expensive dinners. Girls are commercializing their idea of love, and how it is expressed; a man loves you more if he spends more money on you.

    That's what you mean when you say romance, right? You're not talking about him taking care of you, or sending you messages through the day, or cooking for you - you're excited by what he gives you, or rather the monetary value of it.

    You know why guys are less "romantic"? We don't need love to be "exciting". We aren't in a relationship to be entertained. We're in a relationship for you; our idea of love is showing that we care about you, that we want to be with you, that you're the most important thing to us.

    Why do you think brides plan weddings? The groom only needs his bride, but the bride wants to be the center of attention - and will piss away $20,000+ on a wedding day that could have been used as a deposit for a hime together (or something else more constructive). Yet we go along with it, because it makes you happy. That's love - sacrificing to give, not just taking and then bitching that you aren't given enough.

    In sum, I don't think men see "romance" as an expression of love; it's an attempt to entertain the person we love, because giving them ourselves isn't good enough. That's why we don't like it; we aren't on the receiving end, but even if we were it's not something we care about receiving. Affection trumps romance.

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  • My guess is that it has a lot to due with current media. In media projected towards women, we see an emphasis on romance and courting. In media projects towards men, we see an emphasis on sex and passion.

    Men used to be much more interested in romance and things of the sort in the older ages of poetry, painting, and actual courting.

    This could also be a discrepancy on what you find romantic vs the men you’re talking about, rather than be a statement about men in general.

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  • Because most girls wants marriage than lots of sex with the husband...

    While men wants lots of sex and no marriage at all...

    I'm personally romantic maybe because it's due that i won't have sex before marriage 🙂

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    • I disagree with you about the housewife thing, but I’m impressed by your morals.

    • Thanks miss princess of grails, that's sweet of you to say...

      About the housewife thing, well people are just different and it's totally normal for people to have different views, different needs and wishes...

      If i was a minister or something like that, i'd make a housewife day... in this day all the good housewives will be appreciated and cherished, also will make free coupons for restaurants or discounts for men who aren't able financially to take their wives out, in this day they can...

      The men will thanked for providing for their wives and taking good care of them and the wives will be crowned as queens and princesses...

      I just love the happy family 😊

  • Simple
    Cuz u choose men that do not like to romance.

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    • Actually, most of my boyfriends have loved romance. I meant guys in general.

    • Everyone is different. U do not need to care about what the general want.
      U want someone that is x y z...
      Whether those are shallow or real standard your choice, u find it and go with it.
      No need to compare. Live yours the way you want so that if it does not work, u can blame urself for it.

  • Guys get more into as they get older. You learn about yourself and become familiar with your feelings. You start realizing how many of them require an 'other' to reach their fully potential.

    If you feel you need you want to protect someone you need a woman that wants to feel protected. That sort of thing.

    You also eventually learn how the opposite gender thinks and realize 'oh that makes sense, now that it makes sense I want that'.

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  • because women/girls like to think sex is a fairy tale and has a happy ending away's, mine happens to be that way which i think I'm lucky,
    also look at films, in a lot of adventure films there is nearly always a married woman who wants the hero and her husband is a wimp,

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  • It depends on the guy and how he was raised. Most guys are raised without the love of both parents in their lives and are exposed to pornography early. So their natural desire for sex kicks in faster but in an unhealthy outlook. Thus pushing them to desire sex quickly as opposed to romancing a girl. For us girls, we already desire the need to be held, loved, cherished and desired. For us, sex and love must have meaning. But for most guys, they don't need that. Most men don't grow up and learn this until later on in life. While others already have it ingrained in them. However, what I can say is that people's standards of what romance is are unrealistic. Especially in so-called romance books [a. k. a lust/porn books] and romantic comedy's.

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    • I like romance novels and romcoms.

    • I like clean novels. And comedies that aren't lust based. The problem is people thinks that is romance, and it's not. Romance is being realistic about love and knowing how to romance that particular person. Romance to me is the traditional old school ones. Not this fake crap.

    • Very true l am very romantic old School

  • I think both genders are equally interested in romance, but the romance takes a different form for each gender. For girls - the usual thing we think of when it comes to romance, for guys - nothing says “I love you” while eating the steak your lady just cooked for you while watching a game and getting blown at the same time.

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  • It is really a thing. I believe it is biological. I think guys are more purpose driven, they aim to focus on something and get it done. Work project done, change diaper done, get oil change done, set up tv done, beat video game done. Very cut and dry. I feel like for girls it is more about the journey than the destination. They like to not just get there but get there slowly and enjoy it. I also think there is something about protection and wanting to feel appreciated. You want to be rescued by your knight in shining armor. There is a romance to that. I think it's something along those lines

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    • I think you’re right

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    • @DocilexElle it’s possible for a guy to love you and still wanna fuck you all the time. The two are not mutually exclusive.

  • What? You have clearly hanged out with the wrong kind of guys. Guys can be extremely romantic! Daydreamers and stuff. Most guys want love and romance, with the right one, of course! There are some men that don’t just as there women that are not interested in love either. Please don’t generalize!

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  • Because it's a waste of time for guys to. Women see what they want to see. And if they see a guy as ro. antic thst's what he is even if he just drinking a beer sitting in his underwear watching t. v. Conversely if he pulls out all the stops to romance her and she's just not feeling it really doesn't matter what he does he' f***ed.

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  • Because women are the beneficiaries of romance. They get flowers, chocolates, candlelit dinners etc all organised by the guy. Guys more often than not are the ones who have to impress the girl to keep her interested, not the other way around.

    Guys ignore expectations of romance cause they know they'd be labelled weak pussies for buying into it and wanting it.

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  • Men are actually more romantic in real life relationships www.psychologytoday.com/.../whos-really-more-romantic-men-or-women

    As for why women are more likely than men to enjoy romance movies and books, I have no idea

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    • Only white nights expressed romance (lust) towards women.

  • Because they get caught up in the emotions of movies i. e. "chick flicks" and want a guy to do that for her. Problem is: Those are movies. We don't know what that even is. We are extremely simple and literal. If we like you, we'll want to get to know you before we show up in front of your house shirtless with flowers.

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  • Because girls are taught from a young age to be more emotional (their parents buy them dolls, dress them in pink as opposed to guys that are taught to be tough)
    Your upbringing definitely has to do with it

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  • I'm not sure. But I love romance becuase savoring those special moments strengthen your bond with your S/O

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  • Nope women are usually interested in a romantic relationship where she puts in zero effort but expects to have flowers and gifts and romantic trips planned out for her randomly fuck that, when I’m in a relationship I want 50/50 and I’ve never seen any women ever put any sort of romance in a relationship it’s always up to the man to put in the romance so my answer is fuck no men are romantic as shit and women take advantage

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    • I’ll expand on this, when you see a relationship don’t you notice men always bring the flowers unexpectedly? Plan a unexpected trip? Spend the majority of money on dates? Isn’t that romance? How are women more romantic when men are doing it all? It’s because women like the idea of romance better (because they don’t need to put any effort in) and men don’t like the idea of it as much because it’s a hell of a lot of work

  • I actually dream of a romance happening to me but i can also see that realistically, the only way is if I make the move and I'm tired, so very tired.

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  • It's what stimulates you and more emotional. Guys (some more than others) enjoy romance also, but it doesn't have the same affect on us as it does you. We're more stimulated visually and physically.

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  • I think cause most guys are more into cool things, like cars, guns, sports, etc... more than they are into emotionally provoking things. Thanks for the usually by the way, wish more people would use it.

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  • Maybe because girls like a lot more illusion mixed in with a guy's reality?

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  • It has mostly to do with the media depictions - the male mind is depicted has more "sex-centered" while the female character is more romantic and wants things to be more meaningful.
    In said media, it's not uncommon to also portray a romantic man as "unusual" or "pathetic" while a more sex centered female character is put in a negative light.

    Those stereotypes are starting to fade out only now, but I get honestly worried when I find people who think like that in real life - that a romantic man is either pathetic or homosexual or that a woman who focuses more on sex - or has simply an higher sex drive - is called in less than flattering terms.

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  • It's not always the case. My last relationship, I was the romantic and she was interested in sex more than anything else. Depends on the person.

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  • Men are strong in labor

    Women are strong in sexuality

    A man can work any job but not every job is fulfilling

    A woman could be sexual with any man, but not every man makes her feel special

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  • Because romance means the man does things for her.

    If romance meant the woman doing nice things for men, romance wouldn't even be in the dictionary.

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  • Romance should be genuine. Women want romance because it should signal to her that he loves her and is committed to her and values her on that level. Women desire that to happen to them.

    Men on the other hand, will only be romantic with a woman he truly loves and desires and feels committed to on that level. We cannot fake it. Though I think many times guys do fake it because we believe we have to do it.

    Personally I won’t do it on purpose. If I feel compelled by my love for her then I will be romantic but I won’t be trying. It will come naturally. I won’t fake my way through.

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  • No, but the older you get the fewer serious husband material types you'll encounter. It's just male instinct. If your looking for romance you might have to date down.

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  • Guys just find different things romantic, but romance is always view through the womens perspective, which is why most assume guys aren't romantic.

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  • I think that women are more naturally in tune with the relationship aspects and the romance than men are. And men are more naturally in tune with sex then women are.

    And in some way, we each desire those things first. So in a relationship where they are using each other, he gives emotional connection so he can get sex, and she gives sex so she can get emotional connection.

    But in a good relationship, he gives emotional connection without any expectations. And she gives sex without any expectations. So they both get what they want, and they both learn to love what the other wants. And what they give is done out of love, so the entire relationship is healthy and grows.

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  • Total generalization. Maybe some statistical correlation with the age of men, and time frame from last serious relationship. Otherwise not true.

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  • ... Define romance, gal. Until "romance" is given some context, there's no way to answer this question. Sorry.

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  • Guys love it just as much, we're just not as open about it

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  • Because all of the attention is placed on them. I never hear of a woman romancing a man.

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  • That's complete bullshit, specially because your natural capacity to ignore the half of men that'd actually be interested but you reject and ignore

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  • Pretty big generalization but probably because of sensitivity or something

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  • Because we're soft, emotional creatures.

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  • Thank you girls, woman’s for your romantic behavior you’re all like a flower 🌺

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  • Donno about other guys but I love romance with my romantic girl😍🤗

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  • From a young age, it's pushed on girls more than guys.

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  • Well it might be genetic thing so if you think about Women are more emotional this is probably due to them having higher estrogen levels so romance stirs the womens chemical balances more so than it would in a man.

    That said I as a man kind of like the romance aspect of it and so honestly my explanation above is not perfect. Then again I am a pleaser I like it when women smile and feel generally happy around me and I know they get like that when romance starts flying so I love it. I say I know I have no idea lol but I assume I have been close with women but never truly dated.

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    • Also most men as others have said are seen as more of desiring sex which I can confirm is true as a man whereas women want the romantic side. I am a tad unique here but not completley.

  • Were shy to make a move on a girl for fear she may reject us

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  • Because females are looking for men who adore them. Men who will stay and take care of them. Romance is a connection to something.

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  • Those fantasies are very different than the ones guys tend to enjoy. The ones you think of envision the perfect man who knows everything about her (her turn ons, favorite things to do and know exactly what she wants at any given moment) which is highly unrealistic as realistic as the setting might make it seem. The guys fantasy is usually saving their love from an evil force with or without super powers as an activation of our biological need to protect and care for those we love. Also unrealistic not just if super powers are involved but it is very rare that such an unfortunate event can even happen to the guy’s crush especially in such a way that the guy is the only one who can save her.

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  • I really doubt they are.

    I think they just get off on things we mistake for romance.

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  • Two words. "Romance novels" they paint an unrealistic expectation of men.

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