How do you keep faith in today's dating climate?

An anonymous question Would you rather be cheated on once and keep a relationship? Or dumped just to have your partner get with the other person anyway? ā†— got me thinking this. At least one of these two situations in that question seems to be the fate of the vast majority of relationships. And it seems like who ever cares the least wins, such that our partners who give so much to us become just a means to an end for "me". It just seems counter intuitive.

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  • No faith that anything can last. I put my heart into it lasting for a long time of course, but I also try to be mentally prepared that it can end at anytime.

    People take this "I don't care" attitude about everything. Whenever anything is bad they deflect with "IDC." Really it's a commitment to not care rather than a genuine statement of not caring. Statements like "it's their loss" is obviously deflection. If you were actually paying attention you would have noticed that you lost something too when that thing you wanted to happen didn't. Even if they "lost" more, you still didn't get the outcome you where hoping for so why can't you just acknowledge that? ... because people are dumb.

    Women seem a little more prone to this, but really so many people do it. There are situation where not caring is actually relevant, but people tend not to use it in those circumstances. They say they don't care when they *want* to not care, when they want to not hear the things the'yre hearing or deal with what's in front of them.

    Love Alfsvoid by the way. She's such a dad.

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    • Right šŸ˜‚ Absolutely love Alfsvoid

      and I agree with the points you make here, thanks for commenting

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  • You have to look for people in the right places. I was lucky enough to find a great guy first try. I know that isn't the case for everyone, what you really need to do is not settle. My best friends dates exclusively assholes, and she hates it, but she jumps at the first guy that gives her any attention. Have standards and don't let them slip.

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  • Extra person if you can't stay faithful you have no morals empathy decency so you keep thankful by being a decent human being that has a backbone and a good moral compass

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  • Im not a relationship dude guys need to realize that is an option

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  • I start by trying to tell others not to get married. It's something that changed from ritual to a terrible contract before I was born!

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  • Myself.. dump me. Because if you got cheated on once, more than likely it will happen again. I would just as soon move on if the relationship is not two sided.

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  • A start will be by having standards and going out and meeting women with same standards.

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  • Well either date an old person or an ugly one that will more than likely be faithful

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    • At face value that seems like a solution. But if you like someone enough to have a relationship with them in the first place, I don't follow this sentiment in regards to the lack of commitment.

      Why even get physical with someone we know we are not willing to commit to? If we're talking LTR, a human can always learn, grow, adapt, evolve. A car for example can't.

    • [so in this way it seems a bit illogical to throw away a relationship as if negotiation isn't possible]

  • I don't have any.

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  • Trust, but verify.

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  • Ya I have faith, their are some faithful women out there still, but if she fucks up once and ends up with some other dudes dick in her Iā€™m out of there instantly she never gonna see me again

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  • I don't. I completely gave up the idea of ever being with anybody, I am focusing on my work, on my friends, on my hobbies etc. When I feel emotional, I watch a TV show or a movie, when I feel horny I watch porn. That's it.

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  • I don't care anymore
    women have proven to be garbage

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