Well no I was diagnosed with ptsd and it was experiencing the death of multiple family members but why I feel this is connected is cause you feel mentally helpless like it won’t go away and just keeps coming back
Ok, so you do have actual PTSD. Sorry to hear that. It sounds like you need to go to therapy, it could help you a lot.
Like part of me has always wondered what it felt like to feel a girls affection or to call a girl my girlfriend but on the other side sometimes I wonder if I could even handle it at this point.
Talk to a therapist. If you just sit and stew about it, nothing will change. Talk to somebody, a therapist, a friend, a family member, you don't want to spend life as an incel. As long as you have that defeatist mentality women will see it from a mile away.
Dude in dating I am defeated I have been at this so long with not even a slimmer of positive
Talk to friends and family members and ask them for advice. Ask them what it is that they notice. Also, take better care of yourself. Develop your interests, get out there and do stuff. If you just sit and pout about your situation, nothing's going to change. Follow the above advice, and you'll notice changes. No woman is going to want a man who just sits and pouts that he doesn't have a girlfriend. I'm not trying to be harsh but this is just reality.
I’m not pouting but should I just give up on it instead of thinking about it and running myself into a depression
Or you can get to the root of your problems and try to make things better. Giving up will make you feel worse. Trust me.
There’s no root of the problem I present myself really well and it still wasn’t good enough
I was really emotionally invested I shared with this girl things I have never told others outside of my family I told her about my autism diagnosis about how I struggled due to losing both my parents during high school. I held nothing back cause she had gained my trust but it was all her manipulation and now here’s a person who can run and tell anyone who she feels needs to know deep personal stuff that I would never reveal.
Ok. You definitely should hire a therapist. If you're on the autism spectrum, you don't quite understand social interactions and you need some help processing them. A good cognitive therapist can work wonders and teach you some healthy coping mechanisms.
So will I never date cause it seems like I would keep running into this I don’t understand how people flirt I don’t understand what’s expected in dating and the even scarier part is I literally have no one to show me I’m all on my own
Bro. Seriously. Cognitive Therapist. It's not your normal psychoanalytic bullshit that focuses on reliving shit from your past. They work to change how you think in order to help you improve your future. Trust me
But dude people with autism are wired completely different
It’s in my dna I don’t think counseling sessions are gonna overcome something I’m gonna have for the rest of my life
Worked for me.
So a counselor will be able to help me to understand women
Like no joke I have seriously been single my whole life it’s gotten to to the point where I have to have a believeable excuse on stand by if someone asks why I’m not dating
Understanding women is a useless concept. Understanding yourself is a much more worthy goal
Can you catch dogs by chasing them?
Like it’s really hard to look at a girl and not know what to do or how to get them to like you and I always end up doing what I know best and that’s ignoring my feelings and trying to go on as if she wasn’t there
So your saying continuous rejection couldn’t have an effect on someone’s mental health
We're not talking about one or two cases, but systematic dozens.
Yeah cause I have been rejected a bunch of times I don’t approach anymore cause I feel like I already know the words that are gonna come out of the girls mouth because I have heard it so many times before
So? Get over it. Even dozens. You dont get ptsd from that. Its a pathetic, disgusting excuse. War veterans and victims of rape and abuse have ptsd. Not a guy who has had "sorry. I just dont like you like that" said to him more than once.
Playing the victim competition is one hell of a shit excuse, I tell you that from living in a country that endured a dictatorship fostered by your same imperialistic soldiers who enjoyed their time raping locals and spreading corruption
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Well that’s the thing when it comes to dating I have been continuously rejected
What if the rejections are just starting to take a toll like you can only accept not being enough for so long before psychologically it starts to bother you
Like I was rejected two years ago by a girl and it’s just like it happen yesterday the feelings are still very raw
It can sting worse than any physical pain. Pray, pick yourself up, and vow to move forward.
See the thing is people speak of getting a girlfriend and you could forgot about this but the reality is it’s just gonna be the same because that situation was supposed to be different
Best thing for you to do is forget and move on. There’s no justice in this world. Simply move on.
It’s hard to move on cause your constantly reminded of failure
We either win or die. Make your choice. You can do this, friend.
Dude I never once had a girl who was into not a lot of guys can say that
What do you mean?
Like I never had a single girl interested in dating me
Like I still think about it and it’s been two years the feelings are still really raw
I was rejected two years ago by a girl and it’s like it just happened yesterday the feelings are still very raw
Have you talked to a counselor?
No I have not
Maybe you should if it stops you from functioning properly
It doesn’t stop me from functioning but it’s like damn why do I still feel these emotions why can’t I let go even after she made it clear she wouldn’t date me like she literally told me 2 years ago I wouldn’t date you if you we’re last guy on earth. Or am I not hanging on to the rejection but the decaying ruins of my self esteem
Well that can give you anxiety and can prevent you from approaching others
Well here’s the thing even before that went down I had really bad self esteem
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