When you get the feeling that someone is losing interest in you, do you confront them about it or just give them space?

When you get the feeling that someone is losing interest in you, do you confront them about it or just give them space?
When you get the feeling that someone is losing interest in you, do you confront them about it or just give them space?
  • I confront them
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  • I give them space
    Vote B
  • I don't do anything
    Vote C
  • How could anyone lose interest in me?
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  • I'd have a heart-to-heart talk with them first. Because they may have a problem that I'm unaware of which has nothing to do with us or me. People sometimes unintentionally distance themselves if they have problems in their life , or if they have depression. Which makes it appear they're losing interest in you. So I wouldn't automatically assume I was the problem.

    I wouldn't walk away from someone I cared about based on an assumption. So I'd definitely confront them first.

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  • You have to tell them what you're feeling. The only time I don't confront someone is if we aren't serious. But if I have real feelings for you I'll tell you what's up.

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  • It depends. If there’s a possibility it has nothing to do with me, they just have other stuff going on, I’ll give them space. However, if the behavior continues, then I bring it up. I don’t like the word confront in this situation because it suggests making a conflict out of it. I’ll simply say “I feel ____.” And before I say anything else, I give them a chance to comment on how I’m saying I feel.

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  • There is losing interest and just needing some time to themselves. You must know the difference first before trying to confront them or giving them space. Giving someone space though would be my first choice.

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  • depends on how tight or serious we are... if we're just flirting back and forth with no intentions of getting into a relationship, I usually pull away too slowly. But if I am so much into him, I'd step in and ask him what's wrong so if he wants me to leave him alone, then I'd give him that... but if he wants me to be with him and give him support, I'd be there for him

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  • Usually I will confront them directly if I cared a lot about them. If we didn't know each other very long or were just starting to get more involved and they lost interest then I just leave them alone.

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  • You have to say something, otherwise they'll think you don't care.

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  • If you give them space you're pushing them far away, you confront them and resolve issues then you can give them space to think about it

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  • Confront, I don't want to really waste time on that kind of stuff. I like to address those problems head on. If space is needed then they can receive it depending on why. If I did nothing and they just aren't sure about us anymore then we can just break up.

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  • I ask if im boring them or if i did something wrong and hope theyre honest about it. I try to work hard to keep those i love. But when they don't want me anymore, i cry (to myself) until i learn to accept it

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  • I don't really do anything, if they start distancing themselves I just let them. I wouldn't confront them and be like "Why aren't you calling me anymore 😭"
    Now if my one and only friend started doing that I would cry up in her face about it lol we've been friends for about 14 years and damn it she's stuck with me!

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  • I'd give a little space but I'd also think about what I can do to interest them again. I figure do what you can to get the spark back but if they're not receptive to it, then I confront them.

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  • Usually it is me who loses interest first. At least since leaving my 20's it has been this way. I just end things. Never had anyone comfort me or give me space over it. Never needed either, either. What I have gotten is pleading not to end things or a bitter response. I get it. No biggy.

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  • Good question. I’ve pondered what to do in this situation often (I guess because it happens a lot 😭). I’ve come to the conclusion that I personally would not want to be confronted about it so I don’t do it to other people. I think it’s better to approach it as a conversation that would start something like this: “I’ve noticed that you’ve become a little distant recently. Everything okay?” And go from there

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  • I normally confront depending no one died or anything.

    I keep it breezy and tell them if they need some space to go for it. I'll be around and 9 out of 10 they come back. But 9/10 I also have moved on too. So

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  • I'm dealing with this right now, and I don't know what to do. We used to be great close friends as of 2 weeks ago, but when I try to talk with her, it's like talking to a brick wall now. I don't know what's wrong.

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  • I go with the old saying if people want to walk out of your life let them leave. I'm not going to beg anyone to stay.
    This isn't really a problem for me. People seldom take interest in me.

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  • I don't do anything. I wouldn't want someone that selfish and narcissistic as a friend anyway. In terms of dating, if a guy loses interest I don't really care. I just carry on living my life.

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  • I always say that everything’s better in the long run when it’s out in the open. What good is a long relationship when you weren’t on the same page for the last half of it?
    That said, I probably get way too involved in my relationships. If it’s just casual then you should break up.

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  • People don't lose interest in me. I usually lose interest in them first because I get bored really fast unless they keep my interest and make me intrigued.

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  • If it's my girlfriend, I'd confront her and that would either end up with a breakup or with me taking space until she apologizes, I'm not playing, it's not my fault if she's a bad communicator because we agreed to never do this before.

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  • I would confront them and communicate to see What was going on , when someone tells you they need space then that's a red flag considering your partner should be the 1 you you go to of things aren't going well

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  • I am not pursuing anybody and don't expect anybody to pursue me. If they are interested in getting to know me. They would. If they don't, they don't. Stay away from me is all I say. You don't want fake, you want authentic people. Most importantly I wouldn't date strangers, only friends. Interest in friendship must come first. I will not waste my time on a person who will not invest in me. If they have an issue they can always talk to me. Confronting them wouldn't do anything except make them think your possessive and controlling.

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  • Who gives a fk. See ya dickhead , go join the fkwit cavalcade with all the other fruit bats & give em a wave on the way out. Now can u feel that, not the grin on ur face but the soothing wave of relief saturating ur mind n body as the conga line of arseholes snakes its way out the gate n out of ur life. & u lot r all fuct up by these scenarios. Overthinking n coming up with complex confusing solutions. Just fk em all off, too easy. Ask me next time, I dont have problems, just solutions.

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  • I just let them be, but my door is always open if they ever want to reconnect. People drift away naturally anyway.

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  • I don't give them space, that will exasperate the situation. I'd not necessarily confront them but id try to inquire if there was anything wrong and if there was anything that I could do aboit it.

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  • I'd communicate my feelings but would give them space if they asked for it.

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  • That really depends on how invested I am. If we've been dating for a couple of months or longer then I will confront.

    If we are just in the flirting stage then I'll just let it go.

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  • Confront. Don’t want to waste time with someone who’s not into me rather than finding and spending time with someone who’s down as fuck for me.

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  • I confront them at first (non hostile, more like a "hey are we okay?") Then i do it till they dont change then i give them space till i break up with them or she dumps me

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  • Oh that’s tough. If we had a really good thing going I’d be contemplating on approaching them. But I’d probably let them be.

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  • Leave them be... they haven't done anything really too me, so there is no point in rocking the proverbial boat

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  • I don't think any ever has had interest in me (if they have they didn't say anything and I didn't notice) let alone started losing it.

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  • Give them space and do my own thing. If there's no changes then I'm gone.

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  • It depends really some girls began losing interest in me, if we just dated, hung out and stuff then I probably lost interest in them before they did and I just wait for them to end things and save me the trouble of giving her the bad news and going through the drama, while some girls I dated lose interest in me and either give me the bad news that its over or they just stop talking to me either way if I felt knowing them was cool I'll just thin of them as a friend and not tell them I moved on I mean like I don't think x couples really need to know who they moved on to not unless they agreed to be friends and felt like going on a double date

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  • I'd give them space. If they have a problem, it's on them to bring it up.

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  • Someone has to be interested in you to lose Interest tho 🤔😂

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  • Bye. Plenty of beautiful women in Miami just to focus on one.

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  • None of them, you should make them jealous instead. Show them how awesome and desired you are by others.

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  • Are you losing interest in me? 🤔

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  • I tried to do so once, but after I failed, I started to wonder where the sense is in that

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  • Find someone more interesting to spend time with

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  • I confront them because I can’t stand space

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  • Definitely space

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  • usually give them space for a time

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  • I just stop talking to the guy.

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  • Gotta let em know how ya feel

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  • either

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  • No one has ever been interested in me.

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  • I cut all contact.

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  • I confront them.

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  • I would confront them and ask what's up?

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  • I'd just give the person her space.

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  • Confront them.

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